He wants a baby and I don't know what to say.
I want to say yes but I'm not sure what I'm getting myself into. Paul is sweet and I love him but I'm not sure if I can handle a baby. He says he'll be there and help me raise it, but I know he gets really busy at times and I know he loves what he does and doesn't want to give it up. He says that he does love what he does, but that he loves me more, and he wants to show me. We've been dating since I was 13 and he was 15 and everything has gone great, but I don't know if I can go through with it. Please help me...
2007-01-17 10:19:25 · 6 answers · asked by ♥pauls_baby♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you are not ready if you don't know if you can go through with it. Perhaps you better step back and figure out what you want. Why does he want a baby right away? Even if you did marry there is no reason to start a family right away, there is time. It's better to be married and have some time together as a married couple before bringing kids into the picture.
But first you need to figure out what you want and what you are ready for.
2007-01-17 10:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are hesitant is a sign that you should wait. Consider if you are ready for the responsibility, do you have the money and the patience for a baby at this time? They do require alot of work, and no matter how much your husband thinks he will help, the child rearing is most of the womens job. I am not disrespecting his desire to help, but with him working, you will be the main influence and attendee to this sweet, blessed child. I firmly believe that your man should work so the bills are paid,etc., but, I wonder if you are working? Your having his baby shouldn't be an act to "show" either of you that you love one another. You should be secure in your love and your desire to have a baby before you bring another life in to the world. I would say to wait until you and him are old enough and responsible enough to love and care for the baby. By the way, you haven't given your ages now, so I am assuming you are quite young. Go to school, get an education, so you can support your baby. Good luck.
2007-01-17 18:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? Have you worked on starting a career you want to do? Sounds like you are definitely not ready for a baby, maybe not marriage either. Don't have a baby because he wants one, you need to want it too, otherwise you may regret having it, and the person that will be hurt is that baby.
You need to sit down with some adults you trust and respect and discuss your thoughts and concerns.
2007-01-17 18:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit Paul down and tell him you love him and want to be with him as much as he wants to be with you. Next tell paul that you would LOVE to be the mother of his child....someday. Tell him that while you would love to one day have kids, that you want to be the kind of mother who can give her kids everything they need and deserve but dont feel like you can do that right now. Tell him that if he wants to marry you, he has to marry you for YOU, and if doesnt love you enough to do that, then there isnt enough love for you to marry him. Its as simple as that, you have to make clear what you feel, and he has to make a decision.
2007-01-17 19:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by SN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating? what the hell is that? why don't you just marry him.
personally, i'd never marry somebody like you. i'm marrying a foreign girl.
2007-01-17 18:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by pi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what you should do, say yes please...
2007-01-18 17:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋