Okay i dont agree with dr phil on this i dont think taking away the lil boys girle toys would do anything expect making the lil boy feel guilty about wat he likes and trying to push him to like some thing that he dont wats do u guys think about this? do u think he will grow up to be gay? i do.
'My 5-Year-Old Son Prefers Girls' Clothing and Toys'
Robby's 5-year-old son loves to play with Barbies and prefers wearing girl's clothes. She asks Dr. Phil how to deal with this behavior, which she doesn't think is normal.
"There are developmental stages in kids and it is not unusual, particularly for young boys, to experiment and get stuck on certain stimulus items," says Dr. Phil. Particularly because the little boy has two older sisters, he says, it's not unusual.
"This is not a precursor to your son being gay," explains Dr. Phil. He'll know that in time, but this is not an indication of his sexual orientation.
Dr. Phil tells Robby that she has a job to do: "Direct your son in an unconfusing way. Don't buy him Barbie dolls or girl's clothes. You don't want to do things that seem to support the confusion at this stage of the game ... Take the girl things away, and buy him boy toys."
Most importantly, he tells Robby, "Support him in what he's doing, but not in the girl things."
2007-01-17 10:09:27 · 14 answers · asked by blehh b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dr. Phil sounds like he has his own homophobia. Let the kid play for God's sake, he's a kid. I'd buy him some boy toys, let him play with boys, and let him do what he's doing now...he can decide what's best for himself. Playing with barbies and wearing girl's clothes does not make you gay! Parents don't project your own phobias on innocent children--let them be what they are, children!
2007-01-17 10:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by dlilnjndatdid 2 · 10⤊ 0⤋
This is such a dumb American hick issue! I was in Toronto this summer on vacation and there was a little boy dragging a Little Mermaid doll all over the Science Centre and his parents were talking to some other parents and they were all just laughing and his mom just said "yeah, it gets some looks, but he'll grow out of it eventually."
I don't see why kids can't all play together with kid toys and in kid clothes anyway. Obviously nobody is stupid enough to dress their little boy up in a skirt and sweater. Most little girls don't even wear skirts because they're not exactly kid friendly clothes. My boyfriend is the only boy out of a set of triplets; he grew up playing house and Barbies and wedding and doll house and any other "girls'" game you can think of, and he's a perfectly normal guy, except maybe for the added bonus that he understands women a little bit better and respects us a whole lot more than your average schmuck!
In closing, Dr. Phil is an idiot. I mean, who would actually take this guy's advice? He wrote a diet book that he swore works wonderfully, but he has a big disgusting gut! The man doesn't have the right to give any advice he's not prepared to follow himself and nobody should make any judgments one way or the other based on what he has to say.
2007-01-17 10:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with what Dr. Phil is saying. He is basically saying treat him like a little boy, and as to his sexuality he will figure it out in due time. Additionally, it is correct that many children go through phases when they will play w/ certain things that may seem unstereotypical of their gender, without it meaning they are gay. You don't want to make it an issue when they are that young.
Also, I think people should realize you can and should be directing your children to do those things you thing are good and appropriate, or that you think would be beneficial to them. I'm pretty sure Tiger Woods didn't decide he was going to be a great golfer (at least not initially), but his father put a golf club in his hand and made it part of his life. What we put into our childrens lives will directly impact them.
No five year old should be thinking of sexuality, and therefore a parent shouldn't be worried or thinking about that childs sexuality either.
2007-01-17 10:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by straightup 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lmao, Dr Phil is funny. This must be in the top 5 of the stupid things I've seen today. My little brother played with Barbies for years and has probably worn girl clothes more times than I have (I'm a girl) and he's perfectly normal. *rolls eyes at Dr Phil*
2007-01-17 11:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Phil needs to mind his own damn business. Just because a 5 year old child plays with Barbies or wears girl clothes, does not make him automatically gay. He's a innocent child, so Dr. Phil needs to take a hike.
2007-01-17 10:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anything Dr. Phil is simply DANGEROUS!
Look, we're talking about a FAT man who has a WEIGHT LOSS PLAN!!
Come on, I don't trust a fat man for weight loss advice, would you?
He's so far off with this it's not even funny!
My son when he was five asked for a Barbie doll. So, I bought him one. He was thrilled...for about a week. Then he had his fill and ignored it from there on out.
The longer you deny a five year old something the MORE they'll want it. It's the "forbidden fruit" scenario.
I say just give him the damned doll and let it be over with!
Trust me, he'll get bored with it as soon as it looses it's charm...which is usually about a week.
Dr. Phil is WAY OFF and flat out wrong!
2007-01-17 10:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I do agree with Dr. Phil on some points, I mean if this was coming from out of nowhere, then I would assume the boy has gender issues, but since there are girls in the house, it makes sense.
I, along with a lot of girls had male relatives who had less than innocent curiousities about Barbie and what she had under her skirt.
2007-01-17 10:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by germaine_87313 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
People are so frickin weird~ Dr. Phil included. It is a child for Pete's sake! Let him pretend whatever he wants, as long as he is not hurting anyone, jeez.
Homophobes everywhere. Like Barbie's and girl's clothes have anything to do with a boy "becoming" gay.
2007-01-17 10:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by >Golden Ticket< 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to not spend so much time and energy on Dr Phil and focus a little more on your actual life...maybe brush up on grammar, or something that could help you in life.
2007-01-17 14:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my nephew when little ( maybe 3) had wonder woman underware and would not let those things out of his site-he had to take them with him and wear them to bed. He is now 28, married with kids------he is not gay, just a stage he went thru. My 4 sisters used to dressup my younger brother in dresses etc when he was judt little -he is no gay, he is married with 2 kids-one of them being my nephew that had to have the wonderwoman underware.
2007-01-19 13:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋