i know this might sound annoying but this one girl and i are in a fight. we were really good friends but the we both started to change. she began judging people before she knew them and they were really nice, and they were my friends. she talks mean to everyone and she thinks shes better. yehh shes popular and i was too but now im not friends with her anymore. i still have my friends and i could care less about the popularity. but shes got so much more power now that shes making stupid things up and its getting really annoying. she keeps pranking my cell, starting rumors and putting people against me. i have a friend that i have become really close with and this girl wont leave her alone either. im NOT telling the principal or any other teachers. What is she trying to do?
i know this is not in the right section but i know many girls my age (around 14) look in this section and may be able to help.
2007-01-17 09:28:55 · 9 answers · asked by hilly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i'm 15 and i had a similar problem a while ago. It turned out she was jealous of me. (cause i'm so great) She was really down about herself and was bullying other people as well. It became apparent eventually that i wasn't what she said i was cause people saw through all the crappy things she did to me. you gotta be calm and talk to your other friends about what she's doing.
2007-01-17 09:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just is empowering herself by trying to bully you. I know everyone says leave her alone, but girls at this age will keep at you for ages until they get a reaction . Then they use it to try to humiliate you. Try laughing at her every time she makes a comment - don't say anything nasty yourselves as that starts a fight. Most people your age are really insecure (sorry that goes with the growth stage) I find laughing at bullies and essentially reacting as if you just don't understand them means that they don't have the satisfaction of seeing the hurt on your face. Deep down they start to wonder if what they are saying actually effects you. If you avoid them, then every time they see you they go in for the kill.
Now you will have to act sometimes cause ex friends are the worst bullies as they know you and some of your secrets. But eventually if all she gets is "What the" reactions or laughter to her nastiness she will get bored and leave you alone. You have to be consistent and resist fighting back any other way. Also this little mantra used to work for me { I used to say it in my mind } "I don't care!" Agree with your friend that indeed you both "Don't care" about her. When you feel like breaking, just keep saying that over and over. It really helped me as when you don't care, they have no power over you.
Also see if your parents will let you change your cell number - a hassle but if that also stops her (make sure you don't hand it out for a while so she can't get some minion to pretend to be your friend and get it off you)
2007-01-17 18:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by mickylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just what girls do. Really bad from 14-15, I went through it from 14-17 haha it's such a waste of time. She is doing it to get a rise out of you, and because she wants people to like her better than you so she doesnt need to feel insecure. Just don't worry about it. Obviously shes dumb lol just be better than her. Everyone will eventually realize what shes doing. And Karmas a b*tch.
2007-01-17 21:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jen J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get her off your back is ignore her. She'll leave you alone and want to be your friend again when she see's you could really careless.
2007-01-17 18:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl fight for whats right dont get to her level and statr acting stupid keep what u are doing because she is not worth getting in trouble over
2007-01-19 10:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by briea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she's jealous of u she popular but u know what u were her best friend and now she fels like betrayed cause you've left her.
i'm not sure what u could do though sorry
2007-01-17 17:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by taytaymm28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she hatin on u obviously she tried being ur friend but that wasnt enuff she wanted to b u but she couldnt so she doing what she do o and sumthing is prbaly going wrong in her house hold and she see ur household is fine so she take it out on u
2007-01-17 18:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by $$Mrs.Harvey$$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u like it in the eye
2007-01-17 18:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by soup king 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's jealous
2007-01-19 13:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋