I'm 22 years old going on 23 this summer. I am on the verge of becoming a professional (i am finishing up my 5 yr degree). I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and 4 months, and living with him for over a year. He is still in college, still has 2-3 years left to go, lives off of his mom still, doesn't currently have a job, and can at sometimes be quiet selfish. I love him more than anything though, despite his flaws and he says he loves me more than anything. We have talked about marriage but will never say when. He says we should be able to have a mortgage in 5-6 years, so I know he is thinking long term. No matter what I'll wait as long as I have to, but any ideas on when the big question might come up?
2007-01-17 09:21:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since he seems to already be in the long-term mindset, he seems to be the type looking for stability, particularly financial. So he'll probably want to wait until he's sure that he'll be able to take care of you. So probably once he has graduated, and is starting/comfortable in his career.
You should be sure to voice your feelings to him though, especially if you're looking for this to happen sooner than that. Perhaps mention the fact that you'll be bringing in some income, and would be contributing to the household that way too.
Good luck!
2007-01-17 09:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by prplluva 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh my... He still lives off his mommy...
Okay... I've seen marriage proposals range anywhere from 1 week to ten years into a relationship.
This guy is off to a slow start. I imagine he's going to be on the upper end of that spectrum for sure. I think you can rule out the big question for the remainder of his 2-3 years of schooling.
I'm putting this guy at about the 8 year mark. You're already 3 years and 4 months into that so I would expect a proposal by the end of August of 2011.
2007-01-17 09:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are living with him. You are playing house. He is looking towards the future, but as long as he does not commit to you he can keep his options open in case something better comes along.
Or maybe he is just worried that he cannot provide the best for you yet and he is waiting till he is able to provide the life your deserve. Then he will provide you with a proposal and a new life.
best of luck either way..
2007-01-17 09:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by xxgq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd likely date someone for 3 years previously staring at for a suggestion. My fiance took over 4 yet he became a particular exception for the reason that 2 of those years were in severe college. there became no way we were getting engaged that youthful, even besides the undeniable fact that we quite had to. and that i'd quite opt for a minimum of a minimum of a three hundred and sixty 5 days of being at the same time previously growing engaged. some thing about courting someone for a pair months and getting engaged is unsettling to me. now to not say it doesn't artwork because i understand it would want to. It only isn't for me for my section.
2016-11-24 23:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have the scientific evidence handy right now but the percentage of college men that fit your boyfriend's description is approx 95% and the resulting marriage proposals are less than 3%. Men tend to talk about marriage freely while still under the support of their parents, if I were you I would not take him seriously until he can support himself. Until that it is just a safe illusion of continued security for him. Have fun.
2007-01-17 09:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have more education, more maturity and yet, YOU are waiting on HIM. Perhaps you need to rethink the whole arrangement. If it were me, I would prefer to enjoy my life as a single for a while and find out just how far my degree would get me in life. You have limited yourself and your opportunities hooking up with this guy so early. Find a backbone and an oar. Get out there and paddle on your own for a while. Experience some things on your own. You owe it to yourself as a final part of your education.
2007-01-17 09:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow hon it seems like you have your hands full with this guy. I just want to know something. This is gonna sound creepy but when he's sleeping take a few seconds or as long as you need and just look at him and tell me what you feel? That is how i knew my husband was the one i was going to marry. The first thing that pops into your head is what you really feel. Good luck
2007-01-17 09:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship without marriage.
Don't wait another 5 or 6 yrs.... Don't do it...
Find a good mature man to love , marry & care for you...
2007-01-17 10:12:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't want to propose until they are financially stable... and have a job of their own... so they know they can support you.
Like you said... he's still spending his mom's money...
Let him grow up first.
And why are you two living together?
He might also feel like you two are already practically married... since you two are acting like it with the whole living situation... So he doesn't feel the need to ask you to marry him. It's like you already are.
2007-01-17 09:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will probably happen when he is finacialy ready but alot of people leave thier significant other for something new since they now have the resources.Hopefully it's not a case of why buy the cow when your getting the milk for free. good luck to both of you.
2007-01-17 09:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by thebubbleking2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋