What's the point in getting married?

Question

Like SERIOUSLY, why do people get married? It's such a waste of time. I read on an article that 95% of all people who get marrried, get divorced.

Why can't women just be single? Why do women need to let men force them to get married and take over there life? I dont understand why so many women choose to get married.

Answer 1

Whats the point in getting laid?No legal status?No right on man?

Answer 2

maybe the question ought to be, why do people get divorced?
If the article you read is true about the 95% of all people get divorced, then maybe we should focus on what is causing these divorces? And the point of veiw that you are making is that men are not worth your time. Some women choose to get married because they Actually Love the man they are with, and can not imagine being without them. Something about being married speaks of commitment, love, endurance, emotionally involved. Of course, if not wanting to be "Tied Down" bothers some women, then they can choose to be single. Nothing wrong with being single. Some people are great at being single... But once again, we can't look at the 95% that get married get divorced without finding out what causes this trend? Is it something significant like cheating, or spousal abuse, whether it be emotional or physical? neglect? or is it a mythilogical idead of marriage that neither can live up to? This whole idea about Prince Charming, and Repunsal is only in Fairy Tales. Howbeit, you can have a Prince Charming, and an awakened Sleeping Beauty but it is accomplished after being married for awhile, and deciding that even though we are two different people with different personalities, we have grown to overlook the little things that may have caused others to get divorced and decided to focus on what drew us to the person. At least as long as it wasn't just a sexual, drunken bar room fling that caused us to wake up in Las Vegas, married to someone you only know as Bubba. Marriage is more sacred than some of us want to realize. If we realize that the person we marry is a creation of God and thus deserves to be treated as such, then it would behoove us to give it our all. God says that a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they two shall be one flesh. so looking at it from an eternal standpoint, leaving to toilet seat up, or putting the toilet paper roll on backwards is just about as silly as getting onto a woman for being late, or having too many shoes, or getting mad because you have menopause each month. hope to add some insight and not at all directed to any single particular woman

Answer 3

Women who choose to get married do so because they are committing themselves to someone for life. Despite the statistics marriage is a good thing. The divorce rate is high because people give up, give in too easily to temptation and live by "the grass is greener on the other side" The people who get married for the right reason do so because they believe that they have found their better half and feel that their lives are meant to be shared with this other person. Just because the marriage gets difficult doesn't' mean people should get divorced. Life is difficult. Those people did not marry for the right reason

Answer 4

Most people get married because they love one another and they want the stability of a commitment. Once you are married it is a legal obligation that you have with the other person. It gives people a sense of security because you can't walk away from a spouse as easily as a boyfriend/girlfriend. It also gives you rights like health insurance, life insurance (if you have any) and joint rights to property and all other assets.

The real statistic of marriages right now is that about 60% end up in divorce so your percentage is off. It is still a grim statistic though...

Answer 5

Good question, although I would be wary of that statistic, it seems a bit high. I am married (will be five years in a few months) although I never thought I would. I met my husband and fell in love. Yes, we could have cohabitated, but then both of us would have to get separate insurance, yadda yadda yadda (Wisconsin no longer has common law marriages). I do not think that marriage is somethign to be taken lightly. My husband and I dated for 5 years and had many serious conversations before finally deciding to tie the knot. However, we don't act married and actually rarely wear our wedding rings outside the house. Getting married just seemed like a natural progression of our relationship.

Then there's the religious aspect of marriage. While I did not get married for religious reasons, a lot of people do and that's fine too.

Answer 6

Divorce is only that high because people have so little faith.

Marriage takes lots of hard work to maintain. It also requires each party to put their spouse's needs before their own. Not many people are actually willing to do that.

Real, fulfilling marriage isn't about a man taking over his wife's life, but growing in life with her. If you believe in God, it is biblically supported that we get married and stay married to ONE person, except under certain circumstances. The man is to be the head of the household, but that by no means implies that he is the dictator. In fact, men are commanded to love their wives unconditionally, and women to respect their husbands...the two are to be "as one".

Unconditional love...I suppose that's why we get married.

Answer 7

the assumption of marriage is going lower back to the classic international the place it became a transaction between a guy and his bride's father, so as that the husband if truth be told took over possession of the lady now that she became sufficiently previous to produce infants. purely very recently has the assumption of marriage grow to be linked with romantic love or dedication, that's why it incredibly is breaking down.

Answer 8

Obviously you were not raised to follow any religion. God said we were to marry. So that's why people get married. Plus the laws favor married people and give them tax breaks, and hospitals don't recognize friends, even living together, as family. Marriage establishes family members. Men don't force women to marry them, they do it willingly, and you don't have to change your name, most do it willingly also! Over half of marriages break up not 95%, that's a bit high.

Answer 9

Oh, honey... Men don't force you to get married... NO ONE can *force* you to get married. And you don't *need* a man, woman, or child if you don't want one.

I got married because I loved him, wanted to grow old with him, he was my friend and confidant, wanted to have children with him, for the companionship.

And I will say, that I am currently going through a divorce, because in the end, we wanted different things entirely-he lied about wanting kids, among other things. BUT, this hasn't deterred me from searching for love again, or marrying again for that matter.

It's all about what you want out of life, if you don't want to be married, then don't.

Answer 10

1) 95% is inaccurate, check your source. 50% or so is what i've heard

2) i'm happily married, and did NOT 'let men force' me to get married!! and NO ONE has taken over my life!

3) i got married because i love my man & we both wanted to make a commitment to each other to be there for the rest of our lives, to raise a family together, and to be legally considered family ourselves. and i (personal opinion here) wouldn't feel right having a kid and not being in such a committed relationship.

4) if you don't want to get married, then don't! that's your right, ain't it grand?!

Answer 11

Like, seriously......you should only consider marriage if you're committed enough and mature enough to understand what it means. If not...if you have to beg the question...then it's not for you.

Actually, you could live together for all I care. Makes no difference to me.

The relationship I have with my wife would be no different if we had no marriage license, no rings, no vows, etc., etc., because we really, truly CARE about one another, and we're not going to walk off in a huff at the first piddly little argument, like a lot of couples.