Am i wrong for wanting my hubby????

Question

I am 31 weeks pregnant and i made the less than good choice to fly to Romania.Just for the record it was a great opportunity job wise.I have had a perfectly healthy pregnancy up till this point . I had my doctor write me a note as well so i had no problems flying there and the airline seemed more concered with checking my bags than my pregnancy.Problem is i passed out at work and was taken to a hospital and put on bed rest.I have apparently started dialating and was told cant leave Romania.I am currently in the city of Iasi in a hotel.Other than the dialating i am fine i just cant fly because the doctors afraid i might go into labor. I told my future hubby what was going on and he said he can only afford to come and stay 3 day?He also said this is my fault for flying to begin with .I am really upset i told him to use our credit card but he refuses because he said he would have to max it out!?

Do you now a company that would fire someone for having a family emergency?

Answer 1

Of course you're not wrong. Your husband is probably just concerned about you and frustrated by the situation and the possibility that he might not be there. Maybe it would help to remind him that your doctor gave the ok for the trip and no one anticipated any problems. Hopefully after he calms down a little, he'll join you there. Or, even better, maybe this will pass soon and you'll be able to go home before the baby is born. Good luck.

Answer 2

Sucks that you are having to go through this alone and I can't begin to understand how scary it must be for you. However, you shouldn't have left your home knowing that you would be having a baby in a short period of time. I'm sure the job opportunity was a great one, but for the safety of yourself and child you really shouldn't fly after 28 weeks. Knowing that you wouldn't be flying home before your 28th week you shouldn't have gone in the first place. I don't think you can be upset with your soon to be husband because unfortunatly you made this decision. And as far as him maxing out the credit card, you are going to have a child and will need every penny you can possible get, him maxing out the credit card can possibly prevent you from feeding or clothing your child. I'm sorry to have such a negative response because I'm sure it's the last thing you need, but I have to be honest with my opinion.

Answer 3

He should understand how important going to Romania was for you, and how much you need him during a situation like this because it is a big thing to be going through. I know that my fiance would be there in a heartbeat no matter what the financial situation was if I was in your position, but then he's a little over the top like that. Make the best of the 3 days. You need to talk things out and really share what you are feeling. Nothing is your fault, you were in the clear to make this trip and it was important to you and your career! I think he just needs to realize this, some men are slow you know :)

I hope everything turns out all right! And I hope you have a healthy beautiful baby! Congrats!

Answer 4

When he gets there - what can he do to help?

He's probably looking at this very pragmatically - why go into the hole just to stand around? Because you think it will make you feel better?

You don't mention the cost of the tickets - but if you're going to have to max out your credit card, he's weighing a little short term relief against a mountain of debt... and he's right.

Face it, you made a stupid decision. Your judgment is supsect. Don't compound it with a stupid demand.

And the word is "husband" not "hubby". Or are you a "wifee-pooh"?

Answer 5

That's a tough one, you're still almost 2 months to go I mean 9 weeks right? I would go with what the experts (Doctors) say, but you also gotta think of money wise I mean if you do have the baby now or in 2 months or even in 1 month you're going to need the money, your husband probably wants to be with you too, but he's obviously worried about the financial situation.

Although I know us women worry about other things like being together with our love ones. You gotta find a solution, like a loan or something, so you can be confortable in case the baby wants to come out before you expected.

Answer 6

No you are not wrong for wanting him to come. But if finances don't allow it than some times that is just the way it has to be. Take the 3 days and make the best of it. You really don't want to fight at this moment do you?

Answer 7

If I was you, I would try to get either a family member, or friend to come and stay with me. You need to be preoccupied, rather than letting your fiance make you feel guilty. Right now you have to concentrate on you and the baby. After the baby is born, then you can "discuss" this situation.

Answer 8

I think it's sad that money would stop him from being with you while your baby is being born. And although it may have been kind of dumb to go to Romania when you were that far along, he shouldn't be mad at you for it. Where do you live? Maybe you could take a train.
Sorry, and I hope things work out.

Answer 9

Sounds like the whole situation sucks. Look at it this way. Better for him to come and spend 3 days then to not be there at all. Plus, once he gets there he very well may change his mind and want to stay longer. Good luck hun with whatever happens

Answer 10

get to bed rest and go to your next dr,. appointment there. No airline will allow you to fly and you will put your self and your baby in danger. When the arrival of the child is inminent, let you husband see you at least for trhree days and fly back home, baby -on-tow.

make sure to have a certficate of naturalization for your baby from the american embassy to get the baby a passport and get back home.

Good luck (and rest!)