So far, I have loved and dated 3 women seriously so far (4 years, 2 years and 1.5 years), did a lot of kissing and foreplay, but never had sex with them. I had a couple of opportunities to have sex with a couple of other women, lost my erection while putting the condom on. However, I had full-on sex with a woman one night and lost my virginity to her, but didnt date her afterwards. Also, alongside, I have also been sexually involved with ONLY straight men. Somehow, I havent been sexually involved with a gay man till date. I have been the bottom with these straight men (and about 9-10 of them till date but only protected sex), until I met a man three years back and have been in a steady relationship with him and had after a few times, had unprotected sex with him. He never came inside me during anal, only during oral. He broke off with me 2 months back for a girl whom he plans to marry. I have always wanted to be married to a woman and have my own family , but will my marriage survive?
2007-01-17 08:56:08 · 12 answers · asked by Fast C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
no you would end up cheating on her
2007-01-17 09:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life sucks, doesn't it? (figuratively speaking, that is). A guy leaving you for a woman used to be every gay's nightmare. Sorry it happened to you.
I hear all that you're saying, brother, and understand what you want, but I have to say I think you're better off just sticking with guys, because I think what women want from you, if they want to have a family with you, you can't provide. And what you really want, besides what you grew up being conditioned to want, you can probably only get from a guy. You just haven't found the right one yet. Take a breather and get back on the horse (so to speak).
Society's model for eternal happiness provides only one mold (wife, kids, picket fence, house in the burbs) and you don't fit it (nor do I).
Curious as to why you call all the men you've had sex with "straight." "Top" or "bottom" doesn't determine gay or straight, nor does oral or anal sex--either one with another man is gay.
I'm afraid if you get married just to fit into the mold, there're going to be two broken hearts in your future, more if you have kids.
2007-01-17 17:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gotta say... try meeting some masculine gay men, and see if things go ok. That's one thing you haven't said you've explored. If you're really asking this question, then you're open to the truth... and it sounds like you have no problems being attracted to men... but the problem is that you fear "gay" stereotypical men.. well there are plenty of masculine gay men out there... meet a few. There are other picturebook relationships --- you could be in a long term relationship with a man, and adopt children, or have one via a surrogate. Don't stifle who you are on the inside as you're clinging to this old dream.
2007-01-17 17:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by tb75 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not a chance. You obviously prefer men, so you might as well stick with them. I love it when 'straight' men have sex with other men. A straight man would not want sex with another man. If women can't please you sexually, you will never be satisfied in a marriage.
Also, it would not be fair to the woman and any future children .Eventually you would give in to your male urges, and be with another guy, which would be so unfair to her. You have to also think about diseases which you could possibly bring back to her. Not a good situation for anyone. Forget about marriage.
2007-01-17 17:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Zoey ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your marriage won't survive if you like and enjoy sex with man. In the other hand I think you have a serious problem with straight/gay men. If a man had sex with you, he's not straight, maybe he likes men/women.... he's bisexual or maybe he's gay, he hasn't accepted the fact he's gay
2007-01-17 18:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by sweetdolphinboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surprisingly, I once read a study that suggested bisexual men made excellent husbands as they rarely have desire to 'cheat' with other females. Many do not consider out-of-marriage same-sex trysts as cheating, as their wives obviously can not provide the 'maleness' that drives the gay side you. Honesty prior to marriage is a good step toward a good marriage.
2007-01-17 17:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by waynebudd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, love isn't a feeling-ITS A COMMITMENT!
If you were only sexually involved with straight men and you are a man then obviously they were'nt straight then, huh.
2007-01-17 17:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by blldglvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her if you do plan to marry a female, and to me it sounds like you enjoy being gay more than being w/a woman. Go w/your heart, not others minds...
2007-01-17 17:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by momof3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt you can sustain a long relationship with a woman.
2007-01-17 17:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By no means !
2007-01-17 17:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by gonzalocamilez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋