me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years and love each other very much. Me and him are like two peas in a pod we do everything together. I am Very young... like teen. i have had one misscarage and it was really a scary thing for me and i felt for a while like its my fault and i still do. I want me and my boyfriend to be able to talk but he just cant and idk why. I want a family and I want my boyfriend to be a part of it how can i talk to him and let him see that we need to talk next time before we have sex just so we will be ready if i get pregnant agian. how long or how old do you think i should wait for me and my loving soon to be husband settle down.??
2007-01-17 08:55:37 · 17 answers · asked by Loving his kiss 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You should be minimum 18 yr - 20 yrs to take any decission
2007-01-17 09:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend will not be mature and talk to you about these things then you do not need to be thinking about having a family with him. Being able to discuss these important issues with one another is mandatory for a healthy relationship. It sounds to me as though you are in high school, in my opinion you should make a long lasting positive decision to further your education and go to college. I promise you it will pay off in the long run. While I've been in college I have learned you really "find yourself" through these years and mature greatly. I am a senior at a university now and I look back to when I was in high school I realize that you don't look at the future too much at that age and you don't think about consequences and mistakes are ok but the best thing you could do is to WAIT and see what life is all about on your own then settle down when the time is right. You may think you want a child but you might not know of the money and responsibility that comes along with that. I know I always hated it when people would tell me I'm too young and I don't understand things, but it's very true looking back. You have the rest of your life to have a family, live a little first girl!
2007-01-17 17:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Heatha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are done with school, and your career path is taken care of then it would be safe to talk to him about it. But you shouldn't have kids, in my opinion, until you have been together, and settled down for as while. You know after you are done partying and staying out all night, clubbing, etc. Children are a big responsibility. Have you asked him if he wanted kids? Are you practicing safe sex until you know his answer about a family yet?
Maybe he isn't ready. I wouldn't talk to him right before you have sex again, that would just kill the mood. I also, wouldn't keep asking him about it, because then he might think you are nagging him.
You know him best, so you will know when the best time to talk about this with him will be. But definitely wait til you've been married for a few years.
2007-01-17 17:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by liquidblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, how do you even know you will be dating him tomorrow? You may think your madly in love with him and that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, but your wrong. Half the fun of being a teenager is being able to date a whole bunch of guys and look around to see what type of guy you like and who you trust the most.
I have heard to many stories where teenagers get "together" and break up, because that's what teens do, and then the woman (or girl) finds out she's pregnant the day after they break up.
2007-01-17 17:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are married, come back and ask this question.....Things maybe perfect as you think for the time being, but people change and so do situations. Truse me when i tell you that there is no better time to have children than when you are happy and married. I made that mistake not once TWICE!!! with someone i thought was always going to be there...yea uh huh...i thought he was perfect in everyway...we spent every day together, we talked about our future, i had a baby at 15 and another at 17..... Well he stuck around until i was 2 months pregnant with my last son....my new hubby watched me give birth to this mans child. He has been daddy to my son, in fact the man i thought was so perfect has never seen this child and my child is now 4 years old. Its just not worth it. Im now 18 weeks pregnant with my HUBBY's child and things are wonderful and im actually enjoying being pregnant. He has taught me what love is, he taught be how to love, he taught me to grow up, pay bills raise kids everything. Please dont make this mistake until you are married to this man. You dont want to be a single mother raising these babies by yourself. Kids dont deserve that. Email me if you want to talk ill tell you everything you want to know.
2007-01-17 17:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe it all depends on how financially ready you are , are you going to be able to support a child? are you ready to give up the relationship with your friends? because children do take up almost all your time and its not easy by any means. i was 16 when i had my first child. i am now married and just had my second almost 6 weeks ago and i am only 19. so it is possible but it really depends on how mature you are. everybody goes through that i want a baby stage but you have to look past that and make sure that you would be doing the right thing if you got pregnant again. good luck!
2007-01-17 17:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can settle down and get married when.
1) You learn how to spell and speak properly.
2) You have a job
3) You have a diploma
4) You have a house.
5) You have a car.
6) You have at least $500.00 a month extra that you can spend on formula, diapers, clothes, medicine, etc.
If you really want to have a baby, go to Toys R Us and pick one from the shelf, until all of the above are accomplished.
2007-01-17 17:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by jakesmom 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When your an adult is a good time to start a family, not when you are a teenager. Geez, whats wrong with you girls. You NEVER get to be a teenager again. Enjoy it. Be a kid. When your an adult and you look back, its like wow that went by so fast, so please dont rush into having a family, once you have it, it will be there for the rest of your life. You have plenty of time.You dont want to have to get a job, be busy with bills and husband and kids before you experience life on your own believe me.
2007-01-17 17:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok ur a teen and you want a family... live your life first...think about it when ur like 21 and u want to party out for your birthday. . . oops sorry you have kids. live your life, love being young and enjoy. You may think ur old enough and know everything but I think you should get married when you are 24-25 ish
2007-01-17 17:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by babycrystal12195 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, having sex without a condom can give you a STD. You may not be cheating, but he doesn't tell you everything. I hate to say this, but young guys don't settle down, they mature much later than girls. While you dream of a family, he dreams of freedom. Don't set yourself up for heartbreak. enjoy your youth, single and not a mother.
2007-01-17 17:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy M 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋