I do not feel welcome with my family anymore. I'm always patient with them and it takes A LOT to make me raise my voice to anyone. I have friends I should probably tell this to, but I don't like to bother them with this stuff so I'm coming here.
It's not just one of them that seems to be offended that I live with them. It's all of them. They seem to think I don't do anything, but I actually do most of everything. Even though I work and go to school, I still make time to clean the house thoroughly and cook for them. I've stopped cleaning and I only cook for myself now, and their additude toward me has not changed. I do help out with the bills even though I do not have to. I've earned my keep and no one respects that. What do I do about that?
Also, I've been feeling like I'm getting ripped apart inside when I think about my situation and then I get that loneliness that just makes you want to cry. Is there anything to do about this?
Sorry this is long.
2007-01-17 08:54:46 · 3 answers · asked by I'm awesome! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think your ready to leave and its getting close to that time.
You didn`t say how old you were and that makes a difference.
If you are over 18 tell them your thinking about getting your own place but you will need help. See what the reaction is.
If they say no no no then tell them that your not feeling loved.
If they say ok we will help you, then let them and the distance will probably improve the relationship as you visit often.
If they say hurry up and we won`t help, then go from them and good riddance.
You sound like a good person and probably are Awesome, good luck.
Good question
2007-01-18 06:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you have been spoiling them and now you are starting to realize that they are taking advantage of you - and, once you stopped doing for them, they think you are the selfish one. you don't say how old you are - but, since you are in school, i would think you are too young to move out on your own or find a roommate to room with. so, until that time comes, i'd start saving the money i make and save it towards getting my own place when i'm old enough. don't let them pull you down to the point of tears and loneliness - that's making them win and they been doing that all along if they keep using you the way you say they do. i'd stop doing everything and then they would have a reason to say that i don't do anything - and, then i'd let them have it by saying who do you think has been cleaning the house and cooking for you all. you didn't appreciate or respect me then, so why should i care what you think of me now - it's just the same old, same old - that i've been hearing from you all along. so, if you don't care for me, than i'm going to care myself.
2007-01-17 09:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not sure how old you are..but if your old enough I think its time to move out. think about maybe getting a place with roommates or something but if you are feeling this bad living there try making a change. Good Luck.
2007-01-17 09:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋