Im 14 years ld and it seems like my parents hate me, they avoid me at all costs, they yell at me for doing nothing to them, they never listen to me, and my life at home is Miserable, but when ever were with extended family or family friends, they act like im a little angel and they'de never stop loving me. I know this family and i go to there house often because i feel loved and respected for who i am there, they pretty much consider me family, and I did go live with them for a week over the summer, i love theses people with my whole heart and feel like thats where im supposed to be. I cant take my house any more, i cant take my parents, what can i do?? please help me, ive felt like this since last May!
I would demand a hug except its gotten so bad that i feel horrible after they touch me adn sometimes i even start crying because i dont want them to touch me and i just feel like it was an invasion of my space and contaminated!
2007-01-17 08:51:27 · 13 answers · asked by Me 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You need to sit down with your parents and try to work out the issues that you are having. They probably feel your negative vibe all the time and are feeding off of it. Or perhaps your parents are having some marital issues and they are bringing it out on you.
I'm not sure who this other family is, but everyone is pretty nice when you first get to know them. The reality though is that everyone is human and the grandeur of living with them will wear off once they set boundaries for you.
Maybe you should speak with your guidance counselor. Then he or she could speak to your parents a little before you make the big step to confront them. Whatever you choose to do, at least attempt to talk to your parents... give them a chance. They were 14 once too you know.
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2007-01-17 09:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't choose you parents! I think you are just going threw a bad stage in your life. You need to tell your parents how you feel at all cost. Don't hold back your heart let them no that you are hurt. Kids sometimes feel unloved, but have you ever stopped to think that may be that how their parents treated them. May be they just don't no how to love you or show you that they do. If you tell them what you need maybe they will change. Kids think that just because we are parents we should just no these think. But if you don't tell them how are we to do are job. Your Mother gave you life she will do anything for you. If you don't no it hurts like hell to have a kid. Just talk and let them no. Go to a public place and tell them you feelings. keep up the good work in school it gets better as you grow up. Life is hard don't make it harder for your self. When you were a baby and cryed, they had to guess what was wrong because you could not talk. Now you can so talk.
2007-01-20 23:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by Viki M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called being a teenager. My parents make me upset all the time. But my friends and cousins think I have the most perfect parents ever because they have a rule against yelling at me or lecturing me while my friends were there. There's not much you can do. Just try to be cooperative and things will get better.
2007-01-17 16:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by steduc543 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oww honey,dodn't feel bad.I am sure your parents love you so much,maybe is a little hard for then to express their feelings,but they do love you.You're also just growing up and you're in that difficult time of year when you're reaching the adolesence age and take evrything the wong way and think all kinds of things like that.The best thing to do is talking to your parents and letting them know exacly how you feel,I'm sure they'll listen and you'll see how things get better.Take care.
2007-01-17 17:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what kind of touching you mean, but if they've crossed the line (invaded your privates or made you feel very uncomfortable in any way), then tell this other set of adults, and maybe they will go to the police with you, and maybe they will take you in. The law needs to intervene. You can't just leave with no explanation to the police or social services.
Ask this family to help you.
Good luck.
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2007-01-17 17:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by OhWhatCanIDo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sad there is not much you can do other than telling the police. I'm 14 to and i love my life because God is in it you should pray and even when you think there is nothing you can do God is always watching over us and he can help you as he has helped many people so pray to God tell him every thing and it mite not happen right away but when the time comes you will see. God bless you.
2007-01-17 17:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by DarkDejection(JF) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You REALLY need to go to family therapy. You have 4 years before you turn 18 and I know this is a hard time of life. It will help, trust me. If your parents won't go with you, go by yourself!!!!!! Seriously, don't ask for help on Yahoo!, go talk to someone professional.
2007-01-17 17:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by fillossofer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, honestly, I think you should try to get your parents to go with you to family therapy. You need to let them know how you feel with a therapist or mediator close by. Don't use someone they know then they will feel threatened.
2007-01-17 16:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your parent's if that doesn't work .... tell talk to the family that accepts and discuss with them whats going on with your family and see of what help they can be well hope i hleped!
2007-01-17 16:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ive seen u on myspace. do u have myspace. cos ur name is familiar.
and just wanted to say that that guy that says u must start smokin is so funny. read all is questions and answers, thet r all about malboros/ciggs.
you should talk to ur parents and sort it out.
2007-01-18 08:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋