I am Seperated and have filed for divorce after 5 years of my husbands terrible lies. He is begging forgiveness and has been for help in the past (Hypnotherapy twice and marriage guidance) and says its a Mental Illness could this be True? Ive never heard of Lies being linked to Mental illness is he Lying Again?
2007-01-17 08:49:02 · 47 answers · asked by maria t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You found the strength to get out of this relationship once which I know would not have been an easy decision. BUT if you take him back it will be harder the next time. He lies, he has tried to get help but he still lies. Why would you want to put yourself, family and friends through all that again - they will be the ones suppporting you afterall. Let him get on with his life and if he really thinks he has a mental illness let him seek help so he can move on. It sounds like there is too much damage done to forget and forgive and whilst he continues to lie - which he will - u will never have a carefree fullfilling life. Move on with your life and good luck...........
2007-01-17 09:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being a pathological liar is a type of mental illness, and quite a serious one. If he lies when he doesn't need to, or for no reason then he does need some help. If he is lying over affairs, or stuff he wants to hide, then he is just a bum.
Good luck.x
2007-01-17 08:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compulsive lying can be a mental condition, but if he really thought he was suffering from that he would have gone to his GP for a referal to a psychiatrist if he wanted the right help. But most compulsive liars dont actually admit to their lying. the fact that it may be a mental illness doesnt mean you should take him back. It sounds like an excuse, if he really wants forgiveness, why not try and get treatment?
2007-01-17 08:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a load of crap. I have had depression for over 20 years and it has never made me lie. You may forget things that you have done but it does not make you lie about them. There is kleptomania a mental illness that makes people steal but I have nmever heard of one that makes you tell lies. I think by filing for divorce you have really got him worried. Trouble is liars are like alcoholics....they just cannot stop. It's sad your marriage did not work out but there are decent folk out there. Happy hunting.
2007-01-17 08:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it's true. My husband has lied a lot in our marriage even when he knows he busted he will do that. I just came to the conclusion that he has a problem mentally (there are other factors included in why I think this). But some people may love you to death but they just lie all the time.
2007-01-17 08:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have never heard of this before. But you should try going with your husband to his therapist and see if you can find out for sure. Some people are habitual liars. I have a friend like that. She lies so much to me that when she does tell the truth I never know if I should believe her.
2007-01-17 08:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is begging for forgiveness, but do you believe him? Why should you? I think he needs to spend some time on his own, and learn what happens when he lies to other people. You've got used to it, and forgiven the little ones as you deemed them unimportant, he thought he was fooling you. Not everyone will have your tolerance level. As for you, you need to realise that this is not ok behaviour, you don't need to put up with it and you deserve a lot better.
2007-01-17 09:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by Karen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are psychological disorders linked with compulsive lying, such as Antisocial Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder. I wouldn't trust his word on it though, he could just be dooping you but I don't know him so... See what a Psychiatrist says, there are medications but those are usually not so great. If you feel you cannot live happily with someone with this disorder, or if he is making it up, I would reevaluate the relationship for sure.
2007-01-17 08:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short.
You are probably the only bridge he hasn't completely burned yet but, it sounds like he's close.
Unless you aren't the only wife in his life. Liars, pathological liars, some say it is a disease or illness. I say, unless you have Turret's you have the ability to control what comes out of your mouth simply by stopping talking.
Leave. Or commit to a long and heartbreaking battle where he may or may not be able to come around.
2007-01-17 08:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had the same problem with my boyfriend in the past,but would like to say he no longer lies.i think some people lie because they are cowards and cant handle the responsibility of there actions,others lie because r ashamed of what they have done.but they know they have done wrong that's why they find the need to lie,and no way is lying a mental illness.
2007-01-17 09:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋