My wife is 33 weeks pregnant and doesn't think i care?

Question

she says im not there for her emotionally, and she feels like shes going through this by herself.

Answer 1

one word: hormones

Answer 2

I'm no expert but I am 28 weeks pregnant, and I certainly understand that feeling. My partner is not a very emotional guy. I do wish sometimes that he would rub my belly more. Its our child in there, she can hear and she moves. All the books say you should talk to the baby, she will recognize your voice when she is born. I wish my partner would do more things like that. Sometimes it seems like his eyes glaze over when I try to talk to him about my concerns. But I know he's trying; this is all very overwhelming, for both of us. I do a lot of reading, and when I run across something I think is important or I want to share I talk to him about it. It forces him to be involved. I think he appreciates it, its hard to know what to do.
I have found a book called "The Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy." It's the only one I've found that comes close to explaining the emotions and thoughts that run through a pregnant woman's mind. It is marketed to women, but if you really want to understand where she is coming from you might look into reading this book. When you are done reading she might enjoy it too. There is also a book called "So Your Going to be a Dad." This book is obviously geared toward men. I read it, this book might help you come to terms with some of your feelings. I hope this helps in some way.

Answer 3

Oh man... dont worry about it...seriously. Im 30 weeks, and I have told my fiance more than a million times the things your wife is telling you. It's because of her hormones. ( Although you should NEVER bring this to her attention, trust me, itll only worsen things if you put blame back on her. There is no such thing as feeling sorry for your husband while pregnant!!) Just try to go out of your way and do a few nice things for her once in a while..you know, prepare dinner, buy her flowers, take her out, make her an appointment to get a massage or nails done, etc.

Answer 4

Thank goodness you only have 7 weeks left. This your first kid? If so, I can relate. You probably aren't very attracted to her right now, and might be giving off some vibes that she disgusts you. I know I did. Here's the thing; because the kid is inside her, she's all bonded to it already. All us guys can do is feel a kick now and then, and even that is somewhat gross - not really a bonding experience. When the kid pops out and you hold it, you'll catch up to her in five seconds. Mark my words. But, she'll never forget how she thinks you feel now, I can attest to that. My wife says I was an *** while she was preggo, and I probably was at age 24. So, try to act caring if you can. It'll make the rest of your life easier, trust me. You have only seven weeks to go!

Answer 5

During pregnancy, a woman has a lot of emotions running throughout her, and it is during this time that she needs more emotional support than ever. She has a lot of mixed emotions, will she be a good mother, can she support this child, will labor be okay, will the child be okay, etc..etc..etc...

If your wife says that she doesn't feel enough emotional support, then shouldn't you be with her instead of talking about it on Y!A? You probably feel as if you are doing all that you can, and you need some anonymous input. If you feel like you are doing all that you can, then that is all you can do. Just remember to be patient and helpful, and all things will settle soon. She is just very fragile right now, as are you I am sure. You both are going through a very emotional time right now, but with each other, it can be the most beautiful time of your life!

Congratulations with your child, and good luck to you all.

Answer 6

She feels like she is going through this by herself, because she kinda is! I know it is horrible to say that, but she is the only one carrying that baby by herself, so you need to make an extra effort to make her feel wanted and needed and secure. Her hormones are out of wack right now, and although you might not think you are doing anything wrong, she does. The hormones will calm down after the pregnancy a little bit, but in the meantime, exaggerate your feelings. Ask her how her day was, and what she ate, and who she talked to, and ask her how many times the baby kicked(if it is even kicking yet), and talk to the baby, and talk to her about the baby. Women (pregnant or not) need alot of attention. We need to know that our husband's love us, and are actually LISTENING to what we are saying. Make sure you not only LISTEN to her, but HEAR her! Give her foot massages, and run her bath water. Maybe not everyday, but once a week! It won't hurt you.

Things she might say right now aren't always the nicest! Don't take any of these things to heart, but do try to correct them if they are legitamite. Good luck!

Answer 7

ive been there 4 times.all i can say from a womans view is to ask her how she is feeling, doing, etc. she wants to see that you are concerned about her. if she tells you about something that happened, take the conversation alittle deeper than you normally would. try to pamper her at night before bed.it really is a whole lot different being pregnant, emotionally, along with physically. try helping to pick things out for the baby, little things that make her feel good will go a long way. and you obviously do care, just not sure how to get that thru to her. good luck and congrats.

Answer 8

Is the first one?
See Nine Months, the movie.
I have to tell you, this happened to me, but we were so young, he really wasn't there.
But I read an article by a man, for women to read.
It talked about the fact that for the first child, the father has to deal not just with the baby, but his own mortality. When there's no next generation, the man is still the indestructable adolescent, with a long life ahead.
Then, suddenly, the man thinks about what life he'll give the kid.
And what he will leave the child when he himself dies.
And mortality sets in, and it's gloomy.
A woman does not have that option.
Whatever your particular fears, and we ALL have them at this time, figure them out, open up, tell her you have your own needs. Tell her you're sorry you said these things so late.
Tell her about six months after the baby, both of you will ahve had a little more time to adjust, both biologically (hormonally) and and that.
And print this, and tell her a WOMAN, and experienced MOTHER, told her to soothe her hormones.And don't you never miss another appointment, etc. :-)

Answer 9

You don't say if she has reason to feel that way. Are you sweet and supportive? Rub her feet and legs? Be sweet and tell her she is the most beautiful woman on Earth? Women need that anytime, but especially when we're pregnant. Be nice to her. Help more around the house. Talk about the baby with her and be excited. You helped create a life-that's a reason to celebrate and be happy and excited. Good Luck

Answer 10

This should be a cue to you to ask her what she wants for you to do to better show your interest and concern about her and your unborn child. This isn't just her hormones running amuck, this is a pivotal time in your marriage, and an emotionally fragile time for you both, and it's time to do a little relationship work and make sure that both your needs from one another are being acknowledged and met to the best of your abilities.

Answer 11

why???? what did you do?????
just kidding. she probably has a lot of mood swings that go along with the pregnancy. Just try to be there for her any time she needs you, and at times when she wouldn't expect you to be. Constantly ask her if she needs anything or if there is anything you can do for her. Just make her feel appreciated for going through so much with being pregnant and all, and tell her how great, and strong she is, and that you can't wait for the baby to get here.