im 14 years old and when i was 12 this guy austin asked me out (may2005) i said yes and we dated happily for 7 months then it got all messy and we were on and off then we gave it a try in feb 2006 we diod it good for a month then went wrong then in the summer we went out i got jealous and i sort of went on his myspaceand talkd to the girl i thought he liked and ruined their friend ship but its goood now with them last night he called me but i couldnt talk and called him back. we talked for an hour and then he got to talking about suicide cuz he had s\nothing to live for so we were both crying and he asked me out cuz we both mised eachother should we date and we talked about doing a few things oral to him andme, and well fingers and hands and stuff. should i or am i too young im unsure if i should or not
2007-01-17 08:33:56 · 10 answers · asked by a 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
If you don't know, then you probably should. You're going to enter your teen years and start getting fat and then what man will want you. Get while the getting is good!
2007-01-17 08:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Taco Pete 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋
You are only 14 years old... You have to be very careful. You have plenty of time to be torn up over guys. You have high school and college to be worried about this kind of stuff. I would break this relationship off right away. You guys have already had problems in the past.
It sounds like this relationship is mostly physical anyways. I'm not cutting on your age, but 14 is pretty young to be in a physical based relationship.
I remember when I was 14, sex was the only thing on my mind. It's probably the only thing on his right now too. The type of messing around that you are describing leads to MANY other things. You are a big girl and you have to take some responsibility for your actions and where those actions may lead.
Do you really want to take a chance on this guy physically and have him break your heart again?
You can do this! Girls mature faster than boys and I know you make the right choice.
Good Luck
2007-01-17 16:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Scott H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're even THINKING of "doing a few things" with this guy (or any guy), please, PLEASE, P L E A S E think about birth control FIRST. Don't wait until things get messy in the heat of the moment. Go to planned parenthood (or a women's health clinic) and talk to a doctor about your options for birth control.
If you're thinking, "How will I drive to the clinic?" or "But how can I pay for condoms and birth control?" or "Where can we do it without parents finding out?" then you're too young to even worry about this. Being sexually active is a big responsibility. You'll have to start seeing a gynecologist, take some form of birth control regularly, and worry about what sexually transmitted diseases you might contract.
Is this boyfriend of yours worth all this responsibility? If you ask me, it doesn't sound like he is. It seems as if he's trying to make you feel sorry for him (that's manipulation), and the only cure is a good ********. Does this boy seriously think you're that dumb? Does he have ANY respect for you at all?
If I'm wrong, and your boyfriend really is depressed and thinking of suicide, please tell his parents and encourage him to call 1-800-suicide for help.
2007-01-17 20:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lilith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is talking about suicide he really needs to seek help. The teenage thinking process can be distorted.. he needs help seriously.
Yes you are too young.. one thing can lead to another and you may end up with some bad consequences that will affect your entire life.
2007-01-17 16:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you freaking crazy or 1st why in the hell would you wont to date some one who dose not give a s**t about him self now what's wrong with that picture. 2nd. You do not need too be experimenting sexually with this guy oral nor anything else. 3RD If you need something to do read a book or do your home work. 4th I know who you are and I will show this to your mom oh you think I'm bluffing , wait and see. 5th Now I see why you and your mom dot get alone. I'm still going to send her a copy of this.
2007-01-17 16:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally I think its too early for that kind of a relationship. You should wait until you find someone that you deeply care about, that way it will mean more to you when you do do it. he just might want to make out with you and then when you give "It" up he may leave.
Think twice, three times or more if you have to, but seriously think about your future and what you really want and who you want to share that with. Joe blow or the guy of your dreams?
2007-01-17 16:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure about it, then it probally isn't a good idea. It is your body, you decide what you really want. I honestly think it is better to wait. Just incase is leads into sex, you may make a mistake and regret it, and that is not the way to go. But it is all up to you :)
2007-01-17 16:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by kasey06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to taco boy he's a jerk. You are too young. You have to think of what the future will bring. If you do those things, you will no longer be a virgin. Is this the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with?
2007-01-17 16:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Angel L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this hun, but he sounds like he's playing on ur symothy. I've heard the suicide story myself. So dont let him sucker you. And if your unsure, then that should answer your question, your not ready. When its time to go that next step you'll know for sure. Good luck!
2007-01-17 16:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by ~Jen~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't let the manipulation work.
wait, in not too long, you'll be glad you did...
2007-01-17 16:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by bilko_ca 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋