My exbf and I split up over 2 years ago but I became close to his family. They are all wonderful people. My ex and I don't talk that much, but when I signed up for a messenger account, they asked permission to put my on their list. I haven't tried to talk because it's just all a little uncomfortable for me. I don't even know why they would want to hear from me since I'm not dating him. Is anyone still friends with an ex's family? How do you deal?
2007-01-17 08:32:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it is okay, I'm still very good friends with my ex husband's cousin, I still message and email his mom. Just because I divorced HIM doesn't mean I gave up my friendships.
2007-01-17 08:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I were together for three years on and off. When we broke up his family was as devastated as we were. We still loved each other but just knew things couldn't work. (he has a daughter & I'm too young 23, to be a stepmom & tied down) The last time we called it quits was last November & his sister found me on the web about 3-4 months ago. It's weird to hear about his new relationship and what an awful person he is dating. We were still great friends until June. We had always promised to stay close friends because we loved eachother so much. In June I told him that I would possibly be moving to the west coast (I live on the East coast now) with a "good friend'' (we were just friends then but are now happily in love and living together) and I think he freaked. Up until that point he had been saying I love you and we will find a way to be together (Although I knew we just didnt belong together) but after I told him that he started dating this girl and after 2 months she moved in and now there is talk of marriage! I think she is a desperate rebound. Anyways the reason I told you the whole story is so you can see how weird the situation can get. I love talking to his sister because she is a sweetie but if you feel uncomfy you shouldn't keep touch with them. It may get difficult in the future.
2007-01-17 08:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good answer requires more information. Do you still talk to your ex? Did it end badly? Assuming that everyone is on good terms, it only makes the whole situation a little more awkward for everybody. I was really close to my ex's family, and I will occasionally talk to them, but it is nothing like when me and the girl were together. They even sympathized with me after the break up. In all honesty though, I think it is better just to leave them be, and move on. Holding on to little pieces of that former relationship is just going to prolong the time it takes for you to move and and be happy with someone else.
2016-03-29 02:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do this if I were you, it's best to move on, I mean, what's there to talk about? They like you since obviously you are a great person, but it's not a comfortable situation. You broke up with the guy, and the last thing you need is to be invited to all sorts of functions by his family only to see another girl on his arm. If you don't care for him what so ever, and it does not bother you, sure, you can keep them as acquaintances. But if there is any question of awkwardness for you, just say to them that since the breakup you feel that you need some distance and leave it at that.
2007-01-17 08:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my ex for 15 years and I am still friends with his sisters and cousins. He has a huge family. Like his sister told me, I was still family and still a friend. There is nothing wrong with being friends with them, unless they start asking questions about you and your ex, then it could get uncomfortable.
2007-01-17 08:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced from my ex for over 25 years and I have kept in touch with one of his sisters. I see her weekly (at her work) and we chat about family issues. We have a good relationship. It doesn't feel weird at all. It would all depend on how comfortable you are with them. Maybe they like you and don't want to lose you as a friend.
2007-01-17 08:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is ok to still talk to his family. As long as you are comfortable and they are comfortable. Who care what the guy may think he doen't have to talk to you.
As long as my ex's or their familys want to be friends with me i'm game. If it was up to me i would still be friends with them all. But unfortunitly some of them are jurks and can't get past the past. It's alway easier if you can still be friend and talk, so you never have to hide or have any uncomfortable moments.
2007-01-17 08:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not about your was relationship with your ex bf, this over except for a little talking, this is about your relationship with his family who wants to keep in touch with you.As long as you talk about issues other than you and him there should be no problem and if he gets upset about it, you can assure him you and them do not discuss your was relationship.
2007-01-17 08:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should feel good that they think enough of you to still want to keep in touch. that means that they think alot about you as a person yourself not just because you were dating him. it won't hurt to say a hello or how ya doing once in a while. it would seem like it would only be a problem if the subject was always him.
2007-01-17 08:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by kattz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is ok - BUT when he moves on you WILL get booted out, are you ready for that? It will not happen all at once, but they will replace you in their network also. If you are even a little uncomfortable - your gut is telling you to hold back. Listen to it!
2007-01-17 08:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex runs into my parents occasionally around town and it always ticks me off when he decides he needs to chit chat with them and be friendly - including asking about me. He never had time to go to family events while we were married and I always went alone - now I live 1200 miles away and he's trying to be friends with them. Really makes me mad . . . and my parents really don't care for him since he was never there for me the 6.5 yrs we were married and he made it VERY difficult for us to get divorced (even with no kids!!)
2007-01-17 08:50:12 · answer #11 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋