like i've been pushed away. Our sex life has deteriated from a busy to a almost non-existant one, she is snappy with me pretty much all of the time and the lingerie i bought her for xmas is still sat in the gift wrapping.......everytime i try to talk to her about anything she says im moaning or having a go at her...which im not i genuinly love the girl to bits and she means the absolute world to me so do her kids.............advice please!!
2007-01-17 08:30:15 · 12 answers · asked by jedi22476 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Remind her of the times when you first got together. Take her to a special place that you use to go to. Do something really special for her. Something that you know she will like. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. If that doesn't work, she is probably cheating on you.
2007-01-17 08:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Xena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont buy her lingerie! That is a gift for YOU not her. Just do simple things. Clean up the house/ apartment. Buy her flowers on a regular day (not her bday or holiday). When she comes home, make her and her kids dinner so she doesnt have to. Tell her to sit down and you will do it all.
She wants simple loving gifts like doing chores more so she doesn't have to. Show her with your actions how much she means to you. Let her come home tomorrow from work and relax. Dinner is made and she can just sit and eat or sit and wait for dinner time. Take care of her kids. Buy them new clothes or other things they NEED (not want). Help them with their homework, put them to bed. Make sure they brush their teeth. Show her you are a responsible man who loves her and her kids and you want to take 1/2 of the responsiblity in the household. She just needs you to do more chores. And if you already do all of the above then she has a serious problem and just tell her you love her but she is way to mean and negative to you.
2007-01-17 18:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million. i could take the fast highway because of the fact i'm aggravating to work out him. 2. 10 crimson to represent our love and10 white to represent the purity of it. 3. i could be well mannered and say that i visit get him myself. 4. i could bypass away one in each and every of each and every on the mattress and the rest i could put in a vase via the window. 5. he's asleep so i'm getting into mattress with him and snuggle up next to him and gently kiss him to wake him. he's pleasantly shocked. 6. I take the lengthy way homestead so as that i will savor the thoughts we made the nighttime until eventually now.
2016-12-14 03:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by apollon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me working full time,having a house to run and looking after the kids can be very stressful,play the smooth guy,if its possible,make the kids tea,wash the dishes and tell her to take a long soak in the bath,and tell her she deserves it,put the kids to bed and order a takeaway,just wait on her hand and foot,talk to her and no pressure with the bedroom department,the next day send a bunch of flowers to her works and write on the card that you loved spending time together on your own as a couple and you would like to do it again,it opens a gate for you and your girlfriend,and it lets her know that you care and still love her.tell her how you feel in your heart and what you miss,the secret of a perfect relationship is be open be honest and always be true how you are feeling
2007-01-17 19:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds like someone is stressed out big time and is beginning to wonder if this is all there is. Shes under alot of pressure with 2 kids and a job. She is releasing steam by taking it out on you which is normal as we tend to take things out on those closest to us, and she can very well take it out on the kids, so your it for now. All you can do is be patient, help with the kids and let her know youre there for her when shes ready to talk or anything. I will warn you this could get worse too, as she may start to feel youre overwhelming and she may throw you out to try and relieve some stress. There is nothing intended with this other than eliminating some stress so dont take it out on her as it wont help anything. Doing things with the kids will show her that youre actually trying to help her relieve some pressure and that may eventually help. Just dont get into a place where youre actually adding to the pressure or you will be out for good. Remember its the little things you do that she will remember. Good luck
2007-01-17 08:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably knackered what with working full time and running a home with 2 kids. Do you help her out around the house and with the kids ? If not, then this would be a good place to start.
2007-01-20 22:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible having the christmas pressy from you still in its wrapping paper. There's obviously something not right there. Could she be seeing someone else? Is that a possibility? Talk to her and tell her you're really upset and need to know what's going on - it's not fair you're being left in the dark.
2007-01-17 09:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is working full time an 2 kids maybe she is tired. it must be hard 4 her offer to help her out a bit take some of the pressure off her, an maybe u will c a big change in her
2007-01-17 09:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by lizjess2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is definitely stressed out. you need to show her that you are there to help and can relieve some of that stress for her, but first you need to get her communicating with you, not talking to you. Try this....go to the store and get her a nice " i love you card". write something nice and sweet in the card about how you adore her and her children. leave the card taped to the outside of the door with the words "open before you come in". when she enters the house have dinner ready (cooked by you and the kids) with dim lights and soft low volume dinner music. have yourself and the kids dressed as best as you can. if you have suit and tie wear that. tell her that the kids and you wanted to do something nice for her since she has been working sooo much. as your eating dinner talk with her. tell her your feelings and remember to keep calm. how i keep many situations calm is by being in control. keep my temper out of it. keep a normal volume voice. i do not roll my eyes and keep body language positive. i do not show frustration. if she says your moaning, tell her your not..your simply trying to communicate. listen to what she has to say. listen attentively. you can do this! you can work this out and have her realize how she is effecting you....if you can remain in control without loosing control you just might get to see some lingerie this night.
2007-01-17 09:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by donniel608 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has lost interest in you and/or the relationship. Its probably time you move on - she obviously doesn't want to talk to you about it. As she doesn't even aknowledge your gift of lingerie speaks volumes - she is simply no longer interested - in her mind she's already moved on. Time for you to let go.
2007-01-17 11:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by J's choos 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋