You know the guy or girl that's great on paper, a perfect match but you just don't feel that spark. Do you think it's possible to trick yourself into developing genuine feelings of love for this person? Why or why not?
2007-01-17 08:22:38 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ok everyone seems to think not, but what about all of those arranged marriages? Do you think there are that many people in the world that are not in love because they didn't have the opportunity to marry their "soul mate"?
2007-01-17 08:47:00 · update #1
And speaking of "soul mates", isn't it amazing how out of all the people in the world, most people's "soul mates" seem to be within a ten mile radius of each other?
2007-01-17 08:51:22 · update #2
maybe "trick" isn't the best word. How about will? Can you will yourself to do it?
2007-01-17 08:58:45 · update #3
Nope, you can't do it by trickery. The part of the brain that falls in love isn't rational. It's hormonal. The hormones that are produced by romance override rational thinking, and it stays that way for roughly a year and a half. Afterwards, the hormones die down and your ability to think logically returns. Which doesn't mean you can't fall in love with someone who looks great on paper but doesn't do it for you initially. It all has to do with scent, proximity and growing understanding of one another. If you spend enough time with each other and become emotionally intimate with one another, odds are the hormones will be activated and you'll fall in love without having to trick your brain at all. It's nature, baby!!
2007-01-17 08:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same situation as you. My boyfriend was my now and forever. At least that's what i thought. I thought he was the best and now i realize he wasn't, i didn't deserve a guy that broke my heart like that. I deserve better. But for some reason, i still love him. Even though he was a complete douche for what he did to me. You CAN still love. You CAN still feel like that, I havn't yet, but somehow i think and believe that i can. No matter how impossible that sounds to me, i believe that i can. I'm stronger then that, and i know you are to. Your ex just isn't worth your time anymore. Never cry ovr someone who wont cry for you. You need a new guy in your life, i think we both do.
2016-03-14 07:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's possible. Your brain decides whether or not you have feelings for someone, and there's no way to "trick" it, whatever you mean by that. If you don't feel a spark, then nothing's going to happen. Although it is possible to develop feelings for that person given time, it's just not possible to trick yourself.
2007-01-17 08:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Corrida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not i will not think that its possible, Although once I though I could make it happen. Its of my opinion and some religious believed from Buddhism, and Tibet said that Love is within your stomack. I do participatre of such idean, though ater much thinking I realise that love its something I'm not a cartrier, I believed woman are carriers and like and infection or an incurable illness, man supost to, care abd baby that Love for such love to grow and come out to him, and well I'am in love. Man has not love if it doesn't come from a woman,
2007-01-17 08:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by paradiseemperatorbluepinguin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you trick your brain into doing some thing it will eventually become a resentment, as I have never heard of any one being tricked and thinking it was a good thing. if it were a good thing there would be no need to trick. sort of chicken and egg question
2007-01-17 08:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋