Hi all... Please help...During ugly arguments with my partner I sometimes burst out laughing.. It is not because I find it funny... or am laughing at him but it is a reaction I can not control.. I try hard to stop myself as he's gets really angry and aggressive......but can not help it.. We generally are not able to communicate well... somehow it always turns into an argument even though I can't see a reason why.. as we are grownups.. I feel my hysterical laugh is unability to deal with his anger and aggression.. but he doesn't believe me.. He trully believes I laugh at him..in his face.. Actually I am in a satete and trully scared... Advice please
2007-01-17 08:18:32 · 7 answers · asked by Maxi 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds to me like ur way to "vent" ur emotions. Communication is one of the major keys to a good relationship, if ur not married, consider getting out soon...
2007-01-17 08:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sheryl R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha... I experience this alot. The last time was when I was arguing with my boyfriend and it was over a serious issue. For me I think its the fact that I can't relate. I do the same when watching (whats supposed to be..) a scary movie.
Sometimes its a case of lacking confidence for me. During the arguement I had with my boyfriend he told me (with sincere eyes) how much he loved me...and I laughed... haha.... but hey the most important thing is that you are able to laugh. Thats what keeps me happy. Let your boyfriend see the responses you've had on here. And maybe he will have a better understanding of what I call the 'laughing syndrome'
2007-01-17 10:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I laughed all through my wedding. I was so scared about the whole thing. My partner thought I wasn't taking it seriously-not so, I was, that was just my way of coping with a very serious situation. So, I know what you mean. I think you are scared of what you know is going to happen next-the anger and aggressiveness. The person your involved with has real anger problems, get away from him. You deserve better.
2007-01-17 08:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had an answer for the laughter... I've done that a couple of times and it can be pretty embarrassing. But you have a bigger problem... this partner! He doesn't believe you, "gets really angry and aggressive" and you are "truly scared"? You need to end the relationship. Then you can laugh whenever you need to, without fear.
Good Luck.
2007-01-17 08:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people laugh during or after a stressful situation. I have trouble laughing when someone gets hurt. Seriously...and I am a compassionate person, not a sadist! It really aggravates my husband but I can't seem to help it. In your situation though I think it would be a really good idea for you both to go to counseling to find out why you all fight so much, and to validate through a therapist, to your bf, that you really aren't laughing "at" him. Good luck!
2007-01-17 08:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get the same way when some of my teachers yell at the class. I think its because it feels like its going to relieve tension. Sorry, i'm not sure what to do. Maybe just try to concentrate.
2007-01-17 08:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by bluecolouredflames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know some1 who does that ALOT. she says its not her fault and she's not laughing at any1 she's just naturally laughing.
2007-01-17 09:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Blossom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋