Hi i am 18 yrs old and have always been close to my one of my female cousins is also my age only 19 so a few months older.She got married her senior year of highschool and got pregnant 3 months into her marriage.She is entierly dependent on her husband who is also the same age to work and go to school because of her new born.I saw her hubby makingout with another girl and his hand up her skirt.I took a pic of it but i am not sure if i want to show it too my cousin.I am also 100% sure this was her hubby.I dont know if she is ready to see or hear the truth? This is the second time i have seen him with this college girl but he works at a club as a bar tender and my friend says he flirts and talks up a lot of the girls?
2007-01-17 08:17:54 · 16 answers · asked by Erica W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She asked me what i thought about her getting married before her wedding i told her i though it as a mistake and she got very angry.To be honest it was her first bf and they had only dated a year!We made up after the argument but now whenever we talk she complains about the baby, being married, and having to rent out a trailer.She gets angry when i talk about how well my first year of college is going and what i am doing i booked my first small modeling job etc.I tried to tone it down but our relationship is still very ruff and i dont want her to hate me?
2007-01-17 08:20:00 · update #1
print the picture and send it in the mail. You'll be the bad person if you tell her. She can't deny a picture. She'll tell you she got it cause she won't know it came from you and she'll have to decide what to do about it. Some people see it with their own eyes and never do anything about it. If she decided no to you will have to let her live her own life. Good luck.
2007-01-17 08:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Print the picture, type up and explanation and send it to her, but MAKE SURE she gets it and he doesnt get it first.
OR
Just tell her. Seems ike it is not a hopeful marriage anyway, too young, got pregnant young, she is too dependent on him.. He works in a type of job that allows too much opertunity for cheating and flings. He is not mature enough to handle a marriage if he is already making uot with other girls.
In the end telling her will do her a favor in the long run.
2007-01-17 09:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by daisyloca22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will upset her quiet a bit if you tell her.
Maybe talk to you cousins mum if your close or get your mum/dad who ever the relationship is to your cousins parents to break the news to her parents then get her parents tell it to her.
They would be able to probably do it in a better way, dont be over the top sit down in a mature way and fill them in on what you have seen and show them the photo.
I think if you tell her she will lash out and feel your trying to set her up for failure with her marriage because of what you said on her wedding day.
good Luck!!
2007-01-17 08:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by aime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would hate you more if she found out you knew about him cheating and didn't say anything about it. If you have strong proof of the cheating then you need to show and tell her despite the outcome because sooner or later it's going to come out anyway. Why should she played the fool. Continue to be her close cousin despite what she may say out of anger. She will realize that you did this out of her best interest.
2007-01-17 08:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with your cousin for now. She might hate you for bringing the truth (very literally) in front of her eyes but later she will be grateful to you for not keeping her in the dark. Let her deal with her husband any way she likes. That is between the two of them. If he doesn't care to be discreet enough to get caught, then he should know that one day or the other his wife was going to find out. Better sooner than later.
2007-01-17 08:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to talk with her if you are 100% sure it is him. and having his hand up some girls skirt is different than chatting it up to get a tip. she may get angry at first but in the end she will thank you and if you do not tell and she finds out you knew she will really hate you.
2007-01-17 08:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her. She has a right to know and then afterwards it is up to her what she wants to do. She is very young and he is too and eventhough they have kids she has a right to know that her husband is a cheat. Counseling is always an option and a way to help a marriage.
2007-01-17 08:25:34 · answer #7 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She won't like it in the beginning and will probably hate you for abit, but I think you should tell her. You have to do it tactfully. After a while she should see that you are just trying to help her and that you don't want to see her get hurt
2007-01-17 08:26:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have 2 choices.
1. Tell her.
2. Mind your own business.
2007-01-17 08:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont truly need to lots extra info. The protective one is the main important sign. My ex gf have been given protective with me and that i did a random inspect pass-verify her and growth. caught her. hire a P.I. or have a chum carry on with him or a male kin member with a digicam with nighttime inventive and prescient or circulate on the practice cheaters. circulate with your gut and leave him. you will shop your self the hassle have confidence me lol. I went with my gut with my final gf yet i know i'm such as you, you elect that closure and notice it for your self lol.
2016-10-07 07:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋