I ask this question for a female friend of mine and would appreciate advice from anyone who has been through a similar experience
2007-01-17 08:14:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Go see a therapist. It is a very stressful experience that might result in post-traumatic stress disorder. It is best to discuss it with someone.
2007-01-17 08:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Chic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If an arrest was made, there are Victim Services Units in each state. Usually associated with the Dept. of Corrections. They can point her in the right direction.
If no arrests were made, then you will probably need to search thru your phone book to see if there are any organizations for "Victim Assistance" or you might find someone who can help at a "Abuse Shelter".
About 3 years ago, I knew a teller at a bank. She was about 22-25. The bank was robbed twice, in each case the robber had a gun. She was so terrified, she resigned.
Banks and other businesses have learned when something like a robbery happens to get counselors in to work with their staff. The cost of the counseling, and then some is saved by the retention of employees and the reduction in "sick days" as the staff deals with the emotional issues. It may take months, for your friend to adjust.
A general rule, is the sooner she can get professional help, the better it will be for her.
Good luck.
2007-01-17 16:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by John Hightower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a kind off similar experience once, the deference is that after the Gun continue moving out way from my face, my friend depress the trigger, so the bullet when perhaps 2 or three inches of my left ear. It was a pretty scare moment in my life, But I came out a life, and for a while in shock, trying to figure if any one around would have listen. scary experience. She didn't deserved that to happen to her. I'm sure.
2007-01-17 16:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by paradiseemperatorbluepinguin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how close the assailant is. "...in my face..." would imply very close. Very close means he cannot react to anything you do. Is your life worth fighting for? You need to get ballistic when someone threatens to take your life. A gun in the face is that kind of threat. I would certainly divert the aim of the gun while I shut the creeps central nervous system down. Does no good to wrestle him for the gun. Gouge his eyes out. Crush his carotid artery. Tear out his trachea. Head butt, elbows, knees. Whatever you do keep on doing it until he is down and out. Then stomp on his knee cap and break it. Is your life worth saving? A convict over 300 pounds got loose from a courtroom somehow. He found a diminutive woman all alone in an elevator and thought to rape her. She stuck both thumbs in his eyes and, with her elbow, pressed each floor's buttons. The door opened but the floor was a step up from the elevator. The man was blind and screaming and tripped on the floor. The woman jumped out and proceeded to kick the sh*t out of him. When the police arrived they first thought the woman was the attacker. Then they realized that this was their missing prisoner and arrested him. Now that woman had some resolve. She believed her life was worth fighting for. Each situation is different. On one occasion fight like there is no tomorrow. On another occasion use diplomacy. Your gut will tell you which way to go. Soft answers tend to soften anger. Avoiding is #1 but if avoidance cannot be achieved then there are three options: Fight, freeze, flight. Whatever you do never freeze.
2007-01-17 16:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! I think organized counselling is really the best solution.
Anyway, did it happen at work? If so, the company should pick up the bill. If it was just on the street, and she reported it to the police, I'd think that they'd have some victim services counselling available. If it was her husband, then she needs to contact an abused women hot-line right away.
2007-01-17 16:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jean Talon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother was robbed, driven around in his car with a gun to his head, and then left in the trunk of his car in a grocery store parking lot. There were two men who robbed him and one of them wanted to kill him. It took him an extremely long time to get over this. He was constantly looking over his shoulder for the same guys. After taking a two leave of absence from work, he eventually had to be transferred to a different region. He now checks his sheets and shoes for spiders and has to sleep with a sound machine. His best way of recovering was just spending more time with friends and family. He didn't need any medication. Best of luck to your friend.
2007-01-17 16:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that happened! i've never been through that! but my suggestion would be, not saying that you are cuz i wouldn't know but don't hang around thugs like people that you think may have a gun. but if that happened to you like at a store i guess just try to forget about it and go on with the rest of your life .i know that probably won't happen but at least try another thing is hang out with your family and GOOD friends and do stuff fun with them . just nothing that maywant someone to hold a gun to you again
2007-01-17 16:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by peter pan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a couple guns pulled on me... I'm a little more thankful to be alive, and am a little smarter to not put myself in such situations.
2007-01-17 16:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by sm177y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she survived to live another day, take that as a sign that her work is not done
2007-01-17 16:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be glad they didn't pull the trigger,
2007-01-17 16:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by pete h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋