i just don't feel like myself anymore. I'm 15. I never feel pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough. I'm sad alot and just feel like crying. I really can't stand feeling like this. Its hard to put on a happy face in front of my friends when all I want to do is cry. Everyone comes to me with their problems and I try to help them. I sometimes feel like if I can help and make someone feel better why do I feel lousy. I feel underappreciated. I'm kinda depressed. Like I said I never feel attractive enough. My skin is all broken out and my friends jokingly call me fat. It doesn't help when some evil girl, Kasie puts me down. I'm sick of my friends fighting too. I feel like I'm in the middle all the time. I can't take it. I don't know who I am! How can I feel confident in who I am?
2007-01-17 08:12:51 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My friend wants me to go to semi formal but I'm afraid its going to go terribly and I don't want anyone to see me in a dress.
2007-01-17 08:13:54 · update #1
I don't feel like going out with my friends anymore either. Shopping and everything bores me now
2007-01-17 08:14:26 · update #2
i'm not even fat. I'm 5'4 120 pounds but people say I look like I weigh alot less.
2007-01-17 08:19:59 · update #3
It gets better. I promise! I used to feel like this in high school too. I am 5'3, weighed 120 in high school, and never felt good about myself. There was always someone prettier, skinnier, funnier, etc. lets see, the first thing I did was join a sport. Miraculously, i got accepted to the cheer-leading team, and even though a lot of people made fun of them, it helped my self esteem to have a group of people so close and willing to help you with anything. i was only in cheer leading for a year, but it really seemed to help. another thing, that most high schoolers seem to just not be able to do for some reason, is Be nice to everyone! Even those who are rude to you. Not only does this make the other feel like an ass, but you can feel great about yourself knowing you took the higher road! as for your friends, just tell them it does hurt when they say those things to you. If they are your friends to begin with, they will stop! if not, then leave them in the dust! Put a smile on for everything you do. A little saying I went by : "fake it till you make it!"
2007-01-17 08:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheer up it will all be over soon im 15 now in year 10 and im havbing hell at high school more then others i hate some of the people Im just comming off holidays as im in Aus and cant stand going back I fell so sick of some of the people at the school and I just now how much I under appreciated being at primary school even worse as it gets to you you start failing exams so dont let it talk to someone I will gurantee this will happend I averaged first in my Year 8 CLass in maths while a much more painfull Year 9 I averaged last 29/29 in my class and got 48/100
Trust me you will get through it and when you do you will be proud,And your friends that tease you will become much less then what you will and then everything will turn around they will be the ones ashamed.
Final Advice;Talk to someone if you cant do things you like I know playing my Nintendo Wii Makes me happy find something you like and it will help but never run away from it you have to face it the faster the better tahts what keeps me going if I ever dont feel like going to school etc. 'The sooner you do it the sooner you will be done with it",Write in a diary it will help get your feelings out and dont worry abotu anything everything will turn out fine its a normal thing that everyone goes through and if you dont face it it will be rest of your life.
Good Luck You can Do It!!
2007-01-19 21:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by dazzi_4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression makes you change in some ways. Such as you finding shopping to be boring and feeling bad about your looks, all signs of depression.
You really need someone you can talk to about your problems who can help you. If you have a friend who is mature enough to help you that would be great, but if your depression is as bad as it seems to me that it is, then you should talk your parents into getting you an appointment with a therapist.
If you can't talk to your parents about any of it, then you should talk to the guidance counselor at school. I know you may not think highly of that idea, but you should worry more about getting better than anything else.
I've been depressed and I know how bad it can get on your life. Not only is it stressful but it changes you into someone you don't want to be until you come out of it, so get yourself some help with that now, don't wait. The longer you wait, the longer it'll take to overcome the depression.
2007-01-17 08:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl...I know how you feel. I'm 14 and I'm 5'6" and 120 pounds. So I'm supposed to be average weight. But I went through a huge low-self esteem time...and I felt fat, ugly etc. And it didn't help that my mom continually put me down. But, hey, here's what I did.
I pretty much told myself that I AM beautiful. I AM me. I know that sounds corny, but remind yourself that if somebody doesn't like you or is mean to you...it's their problem. They're missing out on an awesome and beautiful friendship. =] And think "Forget the losers. They're just jealous."
If you're worried about the semi-formal, do some research and find out what type of dress best flatters your body type. Much love. =]
2007-01-17 10:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please talk to your parents about your feelings. You should go see a dr as you might be depressed. Also, don't try to solve everyone's problems for them. It's not healthy for you or them, as they'll never learn to do for themselves. You might want to take a break from the crowd you are with and spend more time with any friends that you haven't in a while. Do you belong to a church or something? Joining a youth group can help as you'll be with different people and you just might make some new friends!!
2007-01-17 08:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by finding_my_dream 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. your describing my life in the past few years. look i felt the way you felt. i have the friends you described. and the way that i learned to enjoy life again is i found an activity that took my mind off of the world. Paticuarly Reading fantisy books kinda helps you go off into another world and escape. i also joined a team at my school called Academic League, kinda the team for all those high ranking kids who memorized all that usless stuff they teach you in school. i found a lot of new friends there and learned to have fun again. Tell your friends to cool it on the fighting or take it away from you and honeslty tell this Kasie off. find a way to either retaliate, by putting her down, or tell her to get a life out side of treating other people like crap. if this doesn't work i suggest you just simply get away from her don't give her the oppurtunity.
Wear what you want to wear don't think that you have to be perfect because none of us are. teens break out, our weight fluctuates, and our friends fight, just hold on find somthing you love and imerse yourself into it
2007-01-17 08:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i'd talk to your mother and maybe ask if you can talk to someone who has experience with teenagers. it's a really difficult time for so many and in some ways you just have to get through it, but if you are really unhappy there's so much you can do to help yourself. Ask your mom to take you to a dermatologist if you are scared to think about a psychologist. and remember that when your friends put you down, it's the only way they have to make themselves feel better. they're probably just as insecure as you are, if not more so. good luck, and try to find some adults who've been through the drama of the teenage years and can help you!
2007-01-17 08:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of what you're going through is very normal. At your age your body is going haywire with changes, it really affects you emotionally as well as physically. And you're not alone, everyone goes through it, though some have a rougher time at it. Definitely speak to someone if you can't get out of your funk, if you can't get happy. Don't keep it to yourself. Do you have an adult or older sibling or friend who you can confide in? And a journal might help. Hang in there!
2007-01-17 08:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parent's ask them if they can find you some one to talk to. Trust me if you don't deal with your feeling's it's only going to get worse! I'm 24 now and dealt with all this finally but I had a lot of problem's in High School. I was just like you are never felt good enough or anything. I started looking for a guy to validate me and make me feel good about myself. It didn't turn out to good for me. Talk to someone about how you feel and don't let them tell you it's just because your a teenager so get over it. If you need to talk feel free to e-mail me anytime. jenpoesavon@yahoo.com
2007-01-17 08:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was the story of my life in high school! lol! I just jumped from one school activity to another and even tried writing some poetry and that helped keep my mind busy from thinking any negative thoughts and poetry helped me express myself. I'm 21yrs old now and I feel better about my self and now I moved on to drawing. you should give this advice a try and see what happens. And as for your friends its OK to pretend that your happy even if your not even if your tired of it, just brush it off and think of something positive.
2007-01-17 08:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by everloved21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋