Im in a monogomous relationship that I have been in for 10 yrs now and my family hasnt spoken to me or my partner for 10yrs. We also have 1 son together and he feels slighted because her family accepts us but mine doesnt what do I do?
2007-01-17 08:10:37 · 9 answers · asked by kim m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can't force anyone to accept who or what you are, not even your family. The best that you can do is to get on with your own life without them just as they have done without you. Now, about your son, he already has a family. He has his family at home and your partners family. You didn't say whether or not your family accepts your son, if they don't, try not to place anymore hurt upon him by trying to involve him with your family.
2007-01-17 14:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by smackyoudown2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A therapist told me a long time ago that just because blood linked me and a few other people on earth they were not necessarily my family. Family is support and love and you have to think about the fact that as an adult you have the right to pick and chose who is your family.
Chose by what experiences you deem important and where you will get the most love and support on your journey through life. My actual blood relatives came around in my case only after my father passed away and my mother became sick. I gave time and help to my parents when they needed it from me and after they passed my family decided that I wasn't such a bad guy after all.
2007-01-17 08:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by antonyguido@sbcglobal.net 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can keep trying or you can accept it and spend your time with her family. Let your family know you want to be part of their lives again but tell them if they don't want to accept you and your partner that your lives will be with her family and see how they react. If they don't start accepting you and your partner, it doesn't matter because they haven't for 10 years anyway.
2007-01-17 08:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear that.
Keep up hope. You never know what will happen. My uncle (by marriage) didn't talk to his gay brother or his brother's steady partner for over 2 decades. It took losing his own son in a terrible accident for him to realize how precious family is and to reconcile with his brother.
I hope it doesn't take something tragic like that for your family to see the light.
BTW, families reject people for all kinds of reasons. Choice of partner, marriage outside the faith, change of religion, failure to pursue a particular career path - its all terrible and it's a loss to those who reject you, too, but a really terrible thing to do to your son. Just love him, teach him its the fault of those who reject you not yours.
2007-01-17 08:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
possibly you purely misunderstood her. she would be able to't "refuse" to have a lesbian daughter. You have been made that way. And, as a mom, she ought to settle for you no rely who you're. do not trouble `bout it, hun. purely provide it it sluggish and she or he'll be waiting to settle for the actual you. anticipate it. :) My mom found out that i exchange right into a lesbian. She have been given very disappointed, `reason she found out from somebody else. not me. She exchange into unhappy `reason i did not tell her spectacular away. yet you be attentive to, after a mutually as, she exchange into waiting to settle for me and she or he supported me one hundred%. So, do not trouble `bout your mom... i'm specific each thing would be purely effective. have self belief! :)
2016-10-31 09:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start trying to heal things with your family very slowly. i've noticed that families don't take major changes very well. maybe u should start calling them and asking how are they and stuff like that and then slowly start adding details about your life. I know parents sometimes have a hard time accepting same sex partners but they should be able to accept their grandchild. maybe you should tell them that if you hate me that's ok but don't punish my child by not letting him ever meet his grandparents.
2007-01-17 09:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you've already decided. But, my two cents is - you can't force people to accept anything. I personally am able to embrace lezbos, most people can't. I'm afraid you're going to have to live with the alienation - unfortunately.
2007-01-17 08:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Brooke 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong with what you have, and always leave the door open for them to join your family when they are ready but you can't force it.
Sorry to hear that.
2007-01-17 08:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We'll you've made your bed now sleep in it. This is just another reasont why gay couples shouldnt have children. Its not normal and you want your parents to accept it, but they know its wrong and they won't. Too late now, maybe u shoulda been normal.
2007-01-17 08:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋