How do I take out a girl (19) while bringing her 9 month old son along?

Question

Walk in the park?
Go to her place? (Although I don't feel comfortable asking myself over since she lives with parents still).

What do I say when people complement me on the baby being cute? Say "not mine?" or what?

Answer 1

First and foremost, hats off to you for dating a single mother! Go you! If the weather is warm, offer to take her to a local pool and help her play with the baby. Since you don't feel comfortable inviting yourself over to her parent's house, a local park is not a bad idea (remember to include a blanket or quilt to keep baby off the grass where buggies can get to the little one), or a kid-friendly restaurant like Denny's. It may not be 5-star, but helping to feed the boy so the mother can actually eat a hot meal for once is really special. Also, counting bites or bits of food while feeding the boy and mentioning the names and colors is adorable. I know I was always grateful when I was able to actually EAT when the food came! Don't take the kid to a movie, as they are too young to appreciate the necessity of remaining QUIET in the theatre. Another cute thing we used to do was go yard-sale hopping while looking for clothes or baby toys; it gives the kid something new to look at, and lots of "little", short car trips. Be sure to fasten the baby seat in firmly, tho! You pretty much have to put your knee in the middle of it and hold it down with all your weight while tightening it, to make sure it won't wiggle back and forth with the belt. Ask your mom what would have made her feel like a million bucks! She's a girl, too!

Answer 2

You could go out to eat, I am sure a 9 month old can sit in a high chair... Go for a walk.. with the baby in the stroller of course.. go out for ice cream... if she would let the baby eat a little bit... you can do pretty much anything with a 9 month old.... and if someone says that the baby is cute, just say thanks and leave it at that.. she can answer anything else.... Honestly though, be careful, because when the girl brings her child into it... there should be warning flags for you.... she might have the best intentions, but she could be looking for someone to take care of her.. but either way if things aren't working out, it will be harder to leave with a baby involved.. that is how a lot of girls play..... if you get attached to the child, it could mean trouble.... I would personally wait until you have been with this girl at least 6-12 months, before bring the baby along... this way you will kow how the relationship between the 2 of you is going... Good Luck.

Answer 3

First let me say, I think it is so sweet that you would take her little one with you.

If someone compliments the baby on being cute, agree with them and tell them what you like best about him.

If someone asks if he is yours, say "I wish"

The mother should have a stroller so you can go almost anywhere for a walk, the little one is still too small to play at the park without constant supervision.

But if you both take a walk with the stroller you could chat and enjoy time with each other as well as give him some fresh air and fun sightseeing outing. You could also stop off at a coffee place and have a coffee while he sips some milk.

If you are going to eat out go to a family friendly place where they have high chairs or pack a picnic basket and have a snack outside where the little one can crawl around on a blanket.

Good luck and I hope you all have fun.

Answer 4

I would recommend getting a sitter. It's tough introducing new people into a babies life, although at that young of an age it might not matter. Maybe you could go on a picnic, or just have a movie night in. Order pizza and watch a movie, play with the kid. You could always go out to dinner, it's typical, but many people do it.

If someone compliments the baby just say thanks. It's too complicated to explain that it's not yours, plus if you really like this girl you don't want her to feel awkward with the explanation.

Answer 5

Go to a kids movie or you can rent a movie that all of you will enjoy ( Finding Nemo) and invite them both over for dinner (or snacks) and a movie HUGE brownie points there as long as you respect the kid but don't do it if you don't respect the kid or don't like kids because they will both sense and know it only kids and parents have this sense I lost it until I had my daughter. When people complement you on the kid just say thanks explaining the facts is probably more than they want to hear.

Answer 6

A walk in the park, dinner at somewhere baby friendly, walk around your local mall and get her a coffee from the coffee shop. If people compliment you on the baby just say thank you. It doesnt matter what they think, but it will make your girl happier if she thinks that you are comfortable with babies.

Answer 7

You could do a number of things. Go to a movie (matinee), go to the park, to the mall and walk around.

If someone compliments tou on the baby, just say thank you. There is no need to tell everyone your business.

Answer 8

First of all I think it is awesome that you want to take her and her child out! That is fabulous. A walk in the park would be nice. Or a nice dinner. Try not to go to the movies because that irritates other kid less patrons. And when people say the baby is cute you say "thanks". No reason to say "she was unwed when she had him/her." That is no ones business. Have fun!! :)

Answer 9

You sound like a real life sweet guy. I think you have good ideas about the park for a walk, or go for icecream. Meet her parents for sure, they will be concerned about their grandbaby and who he is out with. When people compliment the baby, just smile or say thank you. If you stumble your words it will embarress her.

Answer 10

Just treat her as you will any other girl, and if someone compliments the baby, just say Thank you. You don't have to say not mine. Maybe her parents will watch the baby while you go out. Just be yourself.