My daughter is 15 a very grown up 15, she refuses to go to school wont get a job, but i cant just kick her out on the street.. Ive given her rules and options but she refuses to do any of them. and she smokes pot everyday and i cant stop it any advise
2007-01-17 08:08:12 · 7 answers · asked by wb_68_n_iou_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Check out the link I attached to my response for detailed information about what is going on.
Basically, its normal for this stuff to happen, its part of the way the brain develops. I would simply cut off the money supply. Make your money unavailable to her and when her pot supply runs low, she will find that as motivation to get a job. Less is also more in a situation like this, being hard and setting rules to someone who is at a stage where they challange authority is providing motivation to disobey. Try leaving her alone for a few weeks and see if she calms down and starts making some better choices.
2007-01-17 08:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would to call the cops and have her arrested fot possession of maijuana, then at her court appearance you can tell the judge to give her a very harsh sentence then deman that one of her conditions be school or a job and if she violates going to school or work she will have to serve the whole term of her sentence. I would also look into who she is hanging with cause peer pressure is a ***** but perhaps you just need a change of scenery. I would also look into some family couselling it wouldn't hurt for you and your daughter to go. I might also look into getting her some after school activities you know she will like.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-17 08:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not saying that you are a bad mother, but in most cases, the child learns from the parent. look at yourself and the examples you have set for her. she must be getting it from somewhere...you have to find the source of that. ask her why she does the things she does, if she can't give you a straight answer and learn to talk to you about her problems, you need to crack down and discipline her. i told my fifteen year old that if she didn't stop lying to me that i would follow her to all of her friends houses, and make sure i know what she's doing every minute of every day. if they are going to act like a child and be disrespectful in not being straight forward, they are going to get treated like a child...therefore having no privacy. that's the way it needs to be until she regains your trust. make sure you tell her that you need a reason to trust her before you are going to, and that she needs to prove she can be trusted before you give her any leeway. I'm not an expert, and i don't' want to offend you, but i hope this might help in some way. if not maybe you should get her counseling, or put her on Dr.Phil
2007-01-17 08:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boot Camp. It may sound mean but it turned my sister around. If you are low income there are programs out there to help you. If you let this go any longer it could be hazardous. Just know if you ignore the problem it will only grow worse. God speed
2007-01-17 08:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jon N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have u thought of sending her to boot camp or something...U as a parent have to be in charge...Most kids think that they can do anything because they think they are adults...But if she had a real taste of the world she would know how hard it is...
2007-01-17 08:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by lilangel_purple@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree boot camp, 1 year.
2007-01-17 11:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by LucyBoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boot camp!!!!!!!
2007-01-17 08:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by CRYSTAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋