I have a guy friend who for no reason stoped talking to me. I have not done anything to him. When I say hi to him he pretends he did not see me. I want to talk to him but he wont let me. My family keeps on helping him out because he got in to a problem and he wont say anything to me. I feel bad because we have been friends for a long time I dont know what to do can u please help me.
2007-01-17 08:02:32 · 20 answers · asked by morenita12162 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Allow your friend space. Let him breathe. Don't talk. Don't call. Don't write. Don't text. Don't e-mail. Don't gesture. Don't do anything that indicates to him that you are there. He seems to do these things to you. Understand that people do things for the obvious or the oblivious. There is a comparison and a difference. Anyhow, you family helping is another situation for you to view. Why? Because how can he be in contact with your family and not you. Where is the sincerity in that?
You should not be feeling any type of bad or sad or mad. It is not you fault that he does not want to be a friend when he title confirms that he is supposed to be.
Good luck! Follow your heart, that is what guides you.
2007-01-17 08:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position. I will try my best to give you some advice. The only difference is I don't get to see my real good friend. We are in two different states. You can try and see if a mutual friend would get involved and try to play the middle person. Have that person ask him why is he not in speaking terms with you. Then you can take it from there. My middle person no longer wants to communicate with my friend so I am on my own. I have other go to people but I much rather not. So any way that is the best answer I can give you. Have a nice time trying and don't give up if he is worth the fight as a friend or more. Some friends are irreplaceable. So I understand how you are feeling.
2007-01-17 08:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by ThisIsAsHonestAsItGets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get him to speak with you, try writing him a short letter outlining your feelings about the change in your friendship and asking him to tell you what brought it about. Also, ask you parents/family to try and find out what the problem is since he is still talking to them. If neither one of those things work, maybe try to back away for a while and give him some space; maybe he is going through something that he is not comfortable sharing with you or involving you in. If that doesn't work, chalk it up to a loss and find a new friend.
2007-01-17 08:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rosebudd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you didn't give many details but here's what I think according to what I know. He could possibly have a new girlfriend in which demands him to cut off all ties with his past. Or he could be in love with you which is why he is staying away. He could be trying to disconnect his feelings with you as it is to painful to be just your friend. He could even possibly hold alot of guilt for something he's done or said to you. So by avoiding contact with you he is avoiding his feelings. Either way you are right though, something is definately up with him. Without details this is what I can only presume. Good Luck & God Bless!
2007-01-17 08:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really need more details to give good advice, but if I make a few assumptions, maybe I can help.
Perhaps he's embarrassed about the "problem" you mentioned, and is afraid to talk to you. Perhaps he's just ashamed that he has to ask for help at all.
You need to talk to him and see if you can figure out what's wrong. Don't confront him or complain about how he's been acting. Just start a conversation about "nothing," and see where it leads.
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2007-01-17 08:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a few possibilities:
A) he doesn't think you can help him with his problem. He knows that you are his friend, but he may feel more comfortable with your family helping him than you yourself.
B) he thinks you have a crush on him, and he wants to avoid awkwardness.
C) he is in a relationship, and he, again, wants to avoid awkward situations.
Hope I helped! Good luck.
2007-01-17 08:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by hillystargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if he has gotten into trouble your parents even though they are helping him have asked that he stay away from you. Or maybe because of his problems he has alot on his mind & is a bit ashamed and that is why he avoids you. Your going to have to corner him & demand to know what is wrong. Let him know how it's hurting you .
2007-01-17 08:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept what has happen and move on, if you cannot get him to talk then this is what you need to do, you could find someone who knows him that might know why he does not talk to you, but then he could find out where you got the information and be even more distant.
2007-01-17 08:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody told him something about you, or he found out something. You can't force him to tell you so I'd try your family members who are helping him.
He could also be embaressed about whatever problem he got into and not want you to know for that reason.
Must be so frkn frustrating for you, I'm sorry I'm not more help. If our positions were reversed I'd be going nuts!
2007-01-17 08:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has a guilty conscience and may have come to the realization that hanging around may not be in your best interest. If that is the case, he is doing the right thing.
Let him go for a little while... I know that is not always the easiest but sometimes its the best
2007-01-17 08:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by Friend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋