Here is my situation...I have this girl who is a friend that I have known since high school and we were instant buds when we first met. Ever since high school we would always chill and do things on weekly basis. Lately though it seems that we are drifting apart and don't hang out as much. The only time we get together is when she needs a ride to work or gets stuck somewhere and needs a ride home. Other than that we can go a good 2-3 weeks without saying a word to each other. I think one of the reasons that we are drifting apart is that I'm in college now and she is still in high school because she got held back. The other part is we rarely talk or chat like we use to. I'm to the point now where I think it would be best just to end it. The problem with that is that I'm not sure how she feels about the friendship. I'm afraid that if end it and she does not feel the same way I do then I would have ended it for nothing. What is the best way to handle this without having a huge fallout
2007-01-17 08:01:38 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Real friendship can handle drifting apart...and coming back together. If you think that you two are heading in two totally different directions you should talk to your friend. Find out what is going on in her mind. She might feel inadequate because she was held back and you are off in college. If she was ever your 'friend' don't let it go so easily. Perhaps she needs encouragement to enter adulthood the right way...perhaps even go to college herself. Talk to her first. Real friends are rare and should never be tossed to the side because of a little distance or rarity of communitcation.
2007-01-17 08:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really have to end the friendship over that? Sometime people drift apart and although you guys may not be as close anymore she can be someone to talk to every once in a while. If she only calls you when she needs you then stop being her knight in shinning armour. Tell her you;re busy if you dont want to drive her around or whatever. My thinking is you never know when you may need someone, so keep her.
2007-01-17 08:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may feel embarrassed about being held back. Just ask her if this friendship is going anywhere.
2007-01-17 08:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋