how come i cant cry?

Question

my grandmother just died and i wont cry i miss her ALOT but i cant cry and im starting to feel sick... i need to cry

Answer 1

Maybe you are still to raw from the loss. You will cry when you are ready. Maybe at a memory of her if you havent had the funeral it may not seem real yet and you will come to terms and then you emotions will show themselves.

Answer 2

I am not sure what the answer to your question is.. I have the same problem, i have lost my grandparents a few other family members and a friend and even though I really want to cry I can't. Im not gonna tell you that there isn't something wrong with us but I have found that after years of never crying it is a small thing that will finally break me down like a broken faucet or a bad grade in a class. At those times when emotion most surprises me is when I finally lose control and usually cry for hours. It probably is weird and you can go ahead and laugh now but seriously for two years i never cried and then one day i came homw with a bad grade and a broken faucet and sat in the kitchen floor and cried for about three hours and just let it all go. Thats how i deal with it...

Answer 3

Everyone greives in different ways and this may be your way of doing this. If you want to cry and it is that you on purpose stop yourself crying then don't do this because crying is best for yourself, and letting out your emotions is much more courageous/brave then keeping them bottled up because the longer you keep your feelings hidden away, the harder life will get. Do what feels right and if you need to cry then cry. It might help writing your feelings down in a diary each day as a sort of way to let them out or maybe reading them over again will help you understand yourself and your feelings better. I hope my advice has helped and hope you feel better soon xx

Answer 4

Everyone handles grief differently. I never have been able to cry over the death of one of my friends, however I have come to terms with it and started to move forward (I will never move on, I will always remember and miss them). A couple of suggestions;
Write her a letter explaining all of your feelings and emotions that you are going through, along with some good memories and what you will miss the most about her. You can either place this at her resting place, fold it into a boat and release it into a stream (I wouldnt consider this to be littering...) or tie it to a helium balloon and release it into the heavens. Also, you may wish to speak with someone you know that either knew this person or has had a similar experience about how you are feeling. Try to dwell on the positive (I know its hard) but talk about things that upset you too. Hope this helps, and good luck in the healing process.

Answer 5

Because although crying comes naturally to some people, others bottle up their emotions and are unable to let them out. Its nothing to be ashamed of. When my dad died, I didn't cry for about 3 months, and I loved him more than anything in the world. You're not an actor, you can't cry on cue, it'll happen when it happens. Don't beat yourself up about it, you'll only feel worse.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with crying, actually is consider the relief of the soul, so do it alone in a place where u feel good and gives you comfort.
I used to use the bathroom when I was single and living at home because I wanted privacy, but now is my bedroom.
I'm really sorry about your lost.

Answer 7

Watch a really sad movie - this trick actually works...Psychiotrists use this trick with kids after a traumaic situation. ...and give yourself some time. You can greive without crying - but the release isn't a great a good sob.

Answer 8

Sorry to hear that, maybe your just not ready to cry yet.

Answer 9

You just have a different method of expressing grief. It's okay.

Answer 10

u can it is just deep down in you. sorry about you grandmother