I cant be responsible for the mans actions. So all you ppl trying to make me feel guilty for sleeping with this married man.. I didnt know he was married. and how can you be sure the wife is not cheating. Everyone please take responsibility for your own actions.
But its often like this, that the wives blame the woman.. Not the man.. Do you think the man is a crature that has no own will.. and that he is lured into these situations? god damn.. grow up..
2007-01-17 07:49:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK, in society men don't have to take as much responsibility for there actions as women do. If a man did it, it would be overlooked, but since you did it, you are a "tramp". Fact of the matter is he cheated. If you didn't know then you didn't know. But since I assume you had a small indication that he was married, I would have steered clear of it. I don't blame you for what happened. But I would blame you if you were trying to stay with this guy despite everything. If that's the case then you have to accept the label your given. I would just detach yourself from this guy, if he's worth it then wait. If not, move on with your life. There is no sense in waiting for a guy who can't handle his business correctly. It not fair to you. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-01-17 07:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sooo, you are first asking if it was wrong to tell him how you felt about him even though you knew he didn't feel the same, right? Well, it's not wrong but it's not always the best thing to do if you don't want to scare someone away.
The second question is if a man is a creature that has no will and is he lured into these situations... We have long lived in a society that says "it's a man's job to try and a woman's job to say no", it's not fair or even realistic but it is the way our society has always seen it. Of course men have free will and choice but there is something deceiving about a woman who knowingly engages in sex with a married man. Bottom line women like to think that we have a sisterhood and some unspoken common rules between us. Women just don't like women like you because you take part in what hurts us most.
2007-01-17 16:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa. I have never read your first Question but ill comment to this one anyway. Everyone is responsible for their own actions BUT :-
1) when you found out the man you were sleeping with was married did you stop having sex with him?
2) when the wife found out did you stop having the affair then or try and take him away from his family?
3) sounds to me like you didnt really know the guy to begin with since he was MARRIED (didnti t occur to you why he never invited you to his house?)
4) surely when u found out he was hitched you ditched him in a heartbeat because hes obviously a LYING SHALLOW SCUM BUCKET who just wants sex - how do you know he wasnt also cheating on YOU?
i agree the wife shouldnt blame the woman entirely but also the man - but then again if you were married and found out your husband was cheating on you, you owuld feel pretty resentful towards the girl - its natural instinct.
PS. now YOU grow up.
2007-01-17 17:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you if she was cheating on her husband it doesnt really matter that still doest give him the right to cheat...two wrongs dont make a right. But i hope you are not still with him when he is married. Also if you ask a question and you get a response then you should accept the good and the bad take the advice that is offered. Dont get mad for people having opinions!
2007-01-17 16:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by jocelyn s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OOOOOOO You said GD. May you rot in hell!! How do you know the wife is not the perfect wife at home waiting for her husband to come home? If there werent so many "easy" women out there going after someone elses man, cheating would not be that big of a problem. Women like you zone in on a mans weak points and play on them. As far as I concerned you got exactly what you deserve. If he is lucky you will leave him alone and his wife will be willing to forgive him for sleeping with trash like you. He probably needs to be checked for STD's or something. Oh...you love him....do you think his wife doesn't. You dont even compare to her or he would be with you. Get a life and a man of your own.
2007-01-17 16:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I just read your last question and you admitted to knowing he was married by saying "that you didn't sleep with hin with the attention of breaking them up" and now you say you didn't know he was married Pleazze.. It does take two to tangle, once you knew they were already taken you are just waisting time or your just getting your jollies off
2007-01-17 16:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't be responsible for him but you can be for you. Now that you know the ball is in your court. Regardless of when he or his wife have done YOU need to do the right thing!!
2007-01-17 16:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been lied to, what can you do. Not like we do a marriage license check on everyone we meet. He is the cheater! Don't be so hard on yourself and ignore most posts in here, they have no clue anyway.
2007-01-17 15:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think I could handle being some man's "second best" and sit home alone on Holidays and Birthday's ...but hey, thats just me.....
2007-01-17 16:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not what you did, but what you do from now on. Fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me. Yesterday is yesterday, Today is today and tomorrow is tomorrow. It is what you do now that you know that counts.
2007-01-17 15:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋