My firend's girl is 700 miles away at the moment. She calls him crying. SHe says she doesn't know why. He tries to console her as best he can.
She then texts him "Do you think I'm crazy? Please don't leave me."
Please note they are in love and have two kids, one each from old relationships.
Please give my friend GOOD advise, I think we all know what it is, but to get some input would be good.
2007-01-17 07:45:27 · 23 answers · asked by an_awsome_woman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the girl either needs to find a hobby(I'm being serious, not mean) or a therapist. She needs to find a way to fill the time so that she's not constantly thinking of whatever is bothering her or at the very least find out what is causing her to be so sad if she doesn't know why she calls crying. My guess is that she's lonely, and that she misses your friend terribly. Good luck
2007-01-17 07:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Caitlin G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship, for either of them. It sounds like she's very, very needy, and needs constant assurance that her boyfriend (your friend) isn't going anywhere. Is there some reason that he isn't with her, other than her constant crying and manic texting? Is she very young, or at least in her mid-20's - early 30's?
The next time she calls crying, tell your friend to ask her why she's crying, and if she doesn't come up with a good reason, then he has to get off the phone. She'll start wailing that there must be someone else over there, and he'll tell her no, and she won't believe him, but he's got to man up and get her off his back. She has got to learn to do for herself and her child, and not depend on him so much, but it will take time. Good luck.
2007-01-17 07:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to talk to her on the phone...tell her that he loves her...and that he is really concerned about her. That he doesn't think that she is crazy, but that he strongly suggests that she see her General Practitioner/OBGYN. She is probably, seriously having an imbalance of a hormone.
I'm not implying that she is depressed...she may well be...but, before she starts taking medication for depression, she should seriously look to see if the issue/condition might be caused by something else. He needs to be gentle...he cant control whether or not she gets herself to a doc...but, if she doesn't stop acting erratically, then it is obvious that she hasn't. Then he will have to take a different approach or solution. But, until then...I would attempt to try the above first.
2007-01-17 07:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am like that too. But my man isn't 700 miles away. I think that it is insecurity. At least that is what I have diagnosed myself with. Maybe your friends girl thinks that good things in her life don't last very long. I don't really know what he should do being as he is that far away, my man just hugs me and tells me that everything is okay, and has to reassure me that he isn't planning on leaving me. Good luck to him, I hope it gets straightened out. I think she probably just misses him alot, and there is nothing one can do until he gets home.
2007-01-17 07:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you need to just let all the tears out. Cry until you can't cry anymore. Holding it in can just make it worse. Let everything go with the tears, eat lots of ice cream, watch your favorite movie, and when the tears have finally stopped, move on.
2016-03-29 01:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the long distance thing, all he needs to do is really tell her how he feels and that he is madly in love with her and that she has nothng to worry about. if this doesn't work he amy have to be firm with her and tell her to calm down and that he won't tlak to her until she calms down. but what he can do just to assure her is to give hera call every morning telling her he loves her and misses her and that he will be there for her, she probably just need reassurance because they are so far apart form each other.
2007-01-17 07:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Dory Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is depressed. Im not surprised if they are so far apart. She just needs a little help from a doctor no problem.It also sound like they really miss each other.
2007-01-17 08:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just be going through a hard time. He needs to give it some time and make sure that it's not just a faze. She knows what it looks like and that is why she is texting him after she does it. Tell him to give it time to make sure that something bigger is not going on.
2007-01-17 07:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by TNL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes depressed for some reason, all he needs to do is insure in her that he loves her unconditionally no matter. Tell her how beautiful and intelligent she is and make her feel real good about herself. It works when im feeling down
2007-01-17 07:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds depressed. It can't be good for the kids. She needs to get some counseling and maybe some medication.
2007-01-17 07:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by judywalker23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋