i can`t be myself?

Question

from some years now i can`t be myself or act verry natural..maybe becouse i`m easy influentable(maybe)..i don`t know why..some advice tips how to be more natural(boy) and stuff please ..and another thing why is being yourself and natural important?i mean make a bit of answer contrasting the "to be or not to be" thing..i`m 16..sorry for my grammar :-s

Answer 1

if you can not be your self, you are trying to live a lie, this is a terrible burden to drag around for years. I think that if you get your self confidence back, and I recommend working on that, that you will see that you are much better person than the person that you tried to portray

Answer 2

I know you are 16, because you just said it, so, in my own way I know exactly how important its to me, to give you a good advise. believed me my future depend on it. I read a lot, and i read peoples not very often though sometimes and in some instances, I do. acting very natural, isn't so, if you think about it doesn't fit, or compute, because acting by all means is an art, as well that it will take some efforts, study and dedication to pursue such artistic expression as natural. You know you are, and your grammar will improve simply because you weren't ACTING went you said it!, Influential, its good to be, and even better to know it, and use it, the right way to let others know your self, and that means security. If you are secure behind you comp, and ask, you are a beautiful innocent Boy, and been innocent doesn't mean in any way other than about life, Humanity, existence and creation. you are natural and in there you need not to work any more, don't try to improve what is natural on you, it can be a disaster. <> by my own reason and Be, Act, Become, simply because you gave me the chance, so that is exactly what I'm doing. So, can you see any better methaphore we can use, to define the words. "to be, or not". in short that is what is all about. whatever some one said it work for then, "but because we think and therefor we are, or we can be". we haven't been able to achieve anything, but mainly we could follow God's own desires he has for Man, Humans, and Intelligent being to Become and achieve" You are a beutiful 16 years old Boy, that in the future it can grow to be a beutiful young man, there is not need to rush into growing, keep memories the best of all memories you could have had in the pass, even those memories when you where just a beutifull baby, By the way's, all babies are beutiful. I'am. "happy feet"

Answer 3

My 35 year-old sister puts on the facade of a self-confide well-off elitist. She is nothing more than a emotional/finacial bankrupt jealous narcissist coward.
All my life she is has been nothing but sefl-destructive, ungrateful, lazy, disrespectful and unremorseful.
She thinks that just because so many years have passed that she should be given a chance. What good is so much time when she doesn't get it. This "woman" will only "do a good deed" when it gets her a good deed. She has spent the last 18 years trying to make me jealous because she's been jealous of me for 27. This jealousy in particular began in '89 when I bought mother cassettes: the Four Tops and the Temptations. My sister has been doing her best to outstage me and resents my not caring about it.
From '80 to '89, she was ridiculing me for my innatet disabilities because she could never atttack my character and felt---as still feels---that out father favors me.
My sister has a nick for making good friends, yet has a nick for obliterating the friendships with her jealousy and rudeness. I would have loved to have had pals like hers. I'm working at a restaurant and still at home in contrast to her being living it up on her own for 15 years. The jealous continues.

Answer 4

You're "16" and I suppose that pretty much sums up the problem; you're going through many physical and psychological changes plus add "peer pressure" to the mix and it adds up to mass confusion; I think it's about experience in life and the confidence you gain from that...I know when I was 16 I was very insecure; now that I'm older and have had many life experiences, I can speak more intelligently; Personally, I like to use the "border collie" comparison...which would you rather be, a border collie, leading the "group" or a "sheep" following in someone else's footsteps, afraid to deviate?

Answer 5

you are just confused. everyone your age feels the same way. I felt the same when I was 16. It's a mix of hormones and society pressures. I hated it. I can't tell you how not to feel this way though, cause the way I stopped feeling that way was by getting older. I just can say that you are ok and normal :-)