I think I may have over reacted.
2007-01-17 07:25:17 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You over reacted. Big time..
2007-01-17 07:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by expensv_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now I understand that you were probably very upset about this announcement, but if it made you uncomfortable and angry, how do you think it made your son feel? Coming out to your family is one of the hardest things that a gay person will do in their lives if people don't understand them. Just because your son is gay doesn't mean he is a bad person. It is hard to accept something like this, especially when it comes out of nowhere, but please try. It would be a tragedy if you never spoke to him again. Call him and tell him that you were upset at the time and you over-reacted, and then sit down together (possibly with a neutral third party you both trust) and talk. It really will make you feel better to get your questions and concerns off your chest right away instead of letting things stew.
2007-01-17 08:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by liebedich85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? Of course you did wrong. you should immediately call him and apologize , tell him you are sorry. And that you know you did wrong. I understand a thing like this might be difficult to accept. But you have no choice. You should accept your son as he is. Being gay does not mean that you are a evil person. Just look at you.. you are not gay, and still you chase your son out the house with a shotgun.
2007-01-17 07:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you did. i cannot belive this is a serious question.
call him or contact him and apologize. if he winds up in the streets you will regret it forever.
i don't agree with the whole gay thing either but i look it at like an addiction. some addicts can stop on their own. some go to rehab over and over and never can quit. they need a miracle. they will only be set free by the power of Jesus Christ.
the same is true with homosexuals. you cannot talk them out of it. you cannot even love them out of it.
many will disagree with me but that is okay. i have seen and heard the testimonies myself. that is the only way.
until this happens just love your son. i think he gets that you do not approve. no need to tell him.
i hope you have not destroyed your relationship with him completely. i am sure there are many families who have gay children or other family members and do not approve but still get along. i don't know any though. i just know the former gays and the ones who are fully accpeting of the whole gay thing. and i don't know their families just the individuals.
2007-01-17 07:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by kdf_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you did over react adn no you did the wrong thing you should accept him for who he is and not feel any different towards him hes the same son that you have loved all his life and that you have always been there for so why turn your back on him now when he needs you the most theres enough people in the world that will look down on him and call him names he needs to know that at least his family is there for him
i hope you can over come this and help him out and let him know that you are there for him
good luck
2007-01-17 07:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was wrong, Not to tell you how to raise your kids. But you may have lost your son. This was so hard for him it may have to him years to get up the courage to tell you this. He knew that this would break you heart but you went to far. He may never come to you again and tell you thing. You lost that trust and that mother love when you did that. All of his secret will never be shared with you. He might not ever talk to you again. But if he does you need to comfort him and let him know that you still love him and you except this even if you don't like it. This is why most gays don't come out or there parent are last to no because of the fear of being disowned and shut out of the family. You need to find his or call because he may leave or even try to kill himself. Good Luck....
2007-01-17 07:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a parent,i say yes you over reacted,i am a mother of ten children,biological and step-children.and i would never do anything like that to any of my children.you do not choose who you fall in love with,and you definitely don't chase any of your children at any time for any reason out of your house with a shotgun. for your sake i hope and pray that your son,who was man enough to come to you and tell you that he was gay,doesn't go out and decide to kill himself because you were a bigot, full of fear and whatever else was going through your stupid little pig headed mind.most people who's own family don't support there decisions end up depressed and end up, taking there own lives just to not be an embarrassment to there family. SHAME ON YOU YOUR SUPPOSED TO BE THE ADULT!!!!!!!!
2007-01-17 15:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by LaRie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over reacted? Your son fears for his life and knows that you may shoot him with a shotgun. Not exactly the beginning of a conversation and/or good communication.
Both of you should watch the DVD of "Philadelphia" with Tom Hanks, Jason Robards, and Denzel Washington. It will open your eyes to compelling issues that face gay men and how their families deal with it.
I am not gay, however, if I were and told my father, he would have been heartbroken, but he would never ever have threatened my life. His love for me was unconditional.
2007-01-17 07:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you did the wrong thing!! You should love your son no matter what gay straight it shouldn't matter. Ask yourself this question, would you want something to happen to him and the last thing you ever said or did to him would be letting him know how disappointed you were in him. Anything could happen you could wake up and it could be the last day you ever see him, so love him regardless of what he decides to be because no matter what hes your son, your heart, and he needs to know that you love him especially at this time in his life. It is a hard thing for anyone to come out people treat them different and the last thing he needs is for you to become one of those people.
2007-01-17 07:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what you think about homosexuals, this is your son and he was your son before he was gay. You love him regardless and just be there for him. You owe him an apology for pulling a gun on him. You have no idea what damage you may have done to him mentally, emotionally, or psychologically. As a parent no matter what a child does you love them regardless and be there for them. You don't judge them nor do you turn your back on them. He came to you probably thinking that you would be understanding and accepting and look how you turned your back on him. Love your child because there is some parent who don't have a child to love because they have lost him or her in this stupid a s s war so love your child cause someone don't have one to love!!!!!
2007-01-17 07:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fail as a father, you should try to contact your son and make amend. Your son came to you in need and you responded basic on your needs and convictions. May god bless you and your son.
You should also learn more about your son homosexual tendencies, because there are some studies that indicates homosexual impulses are inherited. In otherwords don't be so quick to blame your son. He might just be the real man of the family.
2007-01-17 07:43:54 · answer #11 · answered by sanfoj@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋