husband lied!?

Question

my husband has lied to me about some money that went missing from our savings account and from our credit card. he says that it wasn't him, but isn't willing to fight about it with the banks. also he took money from our savings and told me didn't know what he spent it on, only to give me it back three weeks later. i'm confused and i'm really hurt that he lied.

Answer 1

He is having an affair. Look closer.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I know what you mean! My husband did something similiar except I didn't find out about it until weeks later since he put a few, rather large advances on his pay. My advice, get to the bottom of it. You know he did it, and now you want the truth even if it's unpleasant. Try not to sound too accusatory though or like a nag, express to him you are upset he lied and would just like the truth now.

Once that's out of the way, let it go. Unless he tells you something like he used the money for his secret lover I would just let it go. Tell him however to not to do it again.

Answer 4

there are some options.
Go to the bank.
How was the money taken from the bank?
1. Get a copy of the check
2.Get a copy of the withdrawal slip
3.If it was cash he had to have signed something at the bank.
Go up there yourself and get to the bottom of it.

Now, the reason why he took the money is what to be concerned about.
Is it gambling? This is serious so find out.
Is is for pleasure? Maybe spy on him. Does he go out at nigh or work late?
If i were you i would close the savings and open another one and just put the money in there with JUST YOUR NAME ONLY on it.
Good luck

Answer 5

You should not have someone you love lying to u, and especially if he has done it more than once. A marriage is based on trust and how can you trust him if he has lied once bc old people say if you do it once you will do it again. This is a decision you will have to make, but sounds like there is more to the story, maybe there is someone else or maybe he is trying to buy you something expensive. Don't jump to conclusions too fast, investigate!

Answer 6

He's obviously not going to give up any info. Find a way to find out my going around him. Think of people you both know that he is close to and see if you can get some info from them without directly asking. Is there anyone he was supposed to be around him on the day he withdrew the money? Just bring up casual conversation about what that person did that day or the days after. You need to get to the bottom of this. Check his cell phone call log for weird numbers and do a reverse lookup to see if you can get any of them. Get a credit card statement asking to see what/where he charged.

Answer 7

Gambling, womanizing, partying....or all three. How old are you? 19? If you are MARRIED, you should have full trust. sit down and talk to this jerk. Maybe you're treating him like a child and he just wants to be able to have some cash. Sit down and set up a budget that allows for both of you to have some free cash and agree to leave the savings and credit cards alone!

Answer 8

You need to sit down with your husband and discuss your financials. Maybe he's buying something for himself that he thought you would think is a waste of money, and would have fought over it. Next time there is money missing confront him, if he says he didn't do it then go to the bank with him and fight for the money. If he took it he wont want to go there and be proven wrong. If he is going to continually withdraw money for frivilous spending then consider getting separate accounts and make sure he realizes you will not be responsible for his spending habits.

Answer 9

Affair or not, the big problem is he is being dishonest with you and that does not make a good foundation for marriage. I would keep a close eye on the bank accounts and question him every chance you get. He's paying for something he doesn't want you to know about.

Answer 10

from time to time men discover they might desire to lie with regards to the smallest stupidest issues i assume to work out in the event that they are in a position to flee with it. i won't be in a position to assert wether u can have confidence him r not. it is not a huge element he lied approximately that's what makes it purely loopy to even lie interior the 1st place. Has he executed issues are reported issues interior the previous to make you doubt him. if so have been given w/ what ur gut tells u. many times that's often mind-blowing.... hire urself a PI if u think of that's that undesirable and u truly need solutions. R hell purely circulate PI urself. carry on with him around and notice if he's lieing approximately different issues.

Answer 11

I see some people think you are paranoid. But if he is spending the money, what's he buying or doing. I know this may make it worse but try hunting through his pockets, wallet or if he has one a briefcase to find receipts. Check statements. Sorry if this makes it worse, but I have a suspicious mind too.