Women.....What age would you let your daughter wear a skimpy bikini?

Question

My daughter is 16 going on 22. I let her wear one, becouse I do. People think i'm a bad parent. Whats up with that?

Answer 1

no..you are not a bad parent. lets face it, at 16 years old she could, with your permission - get married..so wearing a skimpy bikini is a small mercy! would you want to make her wear a frumpy swimsuit..and make her miserable? - no you wouldnt!

my twin teenage daughters wore skimpy bikinis when they felt comfortable in doing so..and at 16, i would never have stopped them. plus of course...not easy winning an argument with a hormonal teenage daughter!!

Answer 2

Well it depends on how you look at it. I'm a teenager myself and we go through a lot of peer pressuare as far as how we dress, what we do, who we hang out with, things like that. There's nothing wrong with skimpy bikinis as long as it's age apporiate. I think age 16 is fine. It's the age where you start to mature more, and you start acting more adult-like. If you trust your daughter and you know she makes good decisions about how she handles herself, there should be no problem. But, in your case, if you're this worried about her, then maybe you should rethink it. Or make a comprimise. A tank-top or bikinis that cover up a bit more might be a good idea.

Answer 3

Well my mom wont let me wear anything she deems skimpy and I totally understand. The world is scary now and its possible at any moment for something to happen to your daughter because some old guy saw her in a skimpy bikini. Turn on the news you'll see it. Girls are getting murdered and raped and it's because grown men are fantasizing about little girls, I think clothes have a big role in that. I'm not saying your a bad parent but I think you should be more concerned about what you let your daughter wear.

Answer 4

As long as she can handle the attention then I don't see the problem. I'm from Southern California and was wearing bikinis at the age of 14. Older men did look at me, though, and I didn't always like that. I had to learn to deal with the attention (I just never made eye-contact and no one bothered me). I had more problems walking around in normal clothes than I ever got from wearing a bikini. All the girls on the beach were (and are) wearing tiny bikinis! You're not a bad parent. That's silly. Telll people to mind their own business.

Answer 5

I know it says women... But men have daughters too. I personally would never approve of my daughter wearing a skimpy outfit, because I don't like the idea of older men ogling her at 16.... But I'm not going to be over protective, I'd say this... She can wear anything she likes when she is responsible enough to pay for her own clothes (when she has a job), and also, does not live under my roof. Until then, she will dress appropriately and she will not advertise any sexual ideas to men. My girlfriend doesn't wear skimpy outfits, and even her bikini covers her butt (and she's not fat, so don't go thinking that's the reason)... I don't think you would take my advice, because compared to you, we're prudes.

Answer 6

i assumed this became going to be about toddlers. I do imagine that is loopy to imagine that toddlers in bikinis is something to get your panties in a group about - the %. are lovable on the toddlers which have bathing matches that easily fit (no longer those that are too little - they in basic terms appear as if mom couldn't arise with the money for a clean bathing healthful, so she is wearing very last years - also no enormous deal considering childrens that are swimming in maximum places beside america of a are interior the buff). i became going to talk about how frustrating that is to enable a youngster daughter positioned on a bikini, yet that there's no longer a unmarried teen female which could no longer competing in swimming suits which could no longer wearing a bikini, and that cases had replaced. My daughter wears spandex to play volleyball, and she or he wore leotards and tights for ballet. i'm no longer confident I understand - those are all outfits for particular activities, and do not seem unusual or questionable even as worn for those activities. i purchased slender shorts a length higher to seem after the too short project even as my daughter became youthful. yet polos - interior the warm temperature? No. spaghetti straps and halters (back, that fit and do not sag down too some distance) are high-quality.

Answer 7

I think its okay to let her wear one. I don't know what you mean by 'skimpy' but as long as it isn't a thong, I wouldn't be concerned. I am a 20 y/o and my parents have never told me what to wear or how to wear it. My mom always wore string bikini's and so have I and my little sister, which is 18. And I am not a girl craving a mans attention. Theirs nothing wrong with showing a little skin in a bikini. Some family members do not like some of the things I do.... Or think my Mom raised me wrong (Not talking about the bikini's, talking more about moving out with my B/F at 20, etc...) But hey you know what! It's not their business how my parents raise me, or how I make my decisions. But over all mainly, I do believe that its the 'older' generation who look down on stuff like bikini's. Also, I have found that talking to your kids is the best thing. My mom and I have a VERY open relationship and she trust me, which is most important. My Mom knows everything about me. When I am going to do something, she knows it. No secrets. I know that most teens would go against their parents say so even If they told them not to wear the bikini, just to, 'get back' at them, you know for not letting them wear it. But anyways, it's a bikini for god's sake! Covering her up is just going to make her mad. Let her make decisions too. As long as it isn't degrading her. No one wants their daughter to be lookded at by men, but you can't tell her she can't go swimming unless she wears a t-shirt or shorts, thats ridiculous! So I believe it's best just to talk to each other, and If you have no problem with what she wears, then who cares what any one else says. She is your teenage daughter not theirs! If they want to tell someone how to dress, then they need to have some kids of their own.

Just my 2 cents.

Answer 8

I am sure my daughter will wear a two peice at that age. I did at 16 too, triangle top, ties at sides of bottoms. How skimpy is skimpy? I think a thong would just be bad taste at any age.
For what it is worth, I do not think you are a bad parent. I think you trust your daughter.

Answer 9

Well it depends what your social background is like and what type of area you live in. People that are in the more northern states cover up more because it's typically colder. Same goes from swimwear. I'm from CT but a few years ago my parents moved up to ME. My husband and I were visiting them this past summer and we all went to the beach. The swimsuit I had was on the skimpy side, not a string bikini but the bikini style and my mom said I should wear a t-shirt because people might be offended. Now I don't know if that's because a lot of Maine-ards are on the larger side or if it's because their weather is a little colder than here. I thought it was ridiculous and just went as I was in my swimsuit, I didn't experience any negativity though.

I think I was about 14 when my parents let me wear one. Triangle top with boy shorts bottom. They didn't seem to have a problem with it as I didn't flaunt myself to people like some girls do. So maybe the people who are implying you're a bad mother think your daughter will flaunt herself more if she can show more skin. Honestly, they just need to lighten up and get to know the two of you more...not your bodies.

Answer 10

I think that a bikini for her would be ok if its just her and her (girl)friends and family at a pool. If she goes somewhere public, it might be a good idea if she wears a rashguard, or something. that's what i do. any girl over the age of ten and under the age of 18 should be covered up if she goes to a place like a waterpark or a beach.