I have been dating this guy for about 5 months and the first 4 months were OUT OF THIS WORLD......Honestly, I have never been as happy...and healthy happy. All my past relationships have been dramatic and abusive and finally I am out of that scene. Anyways, to get to the point last month some time about a month ago I woke up and felt that I had fallen out of love with my beau. There is no reason why this could have happened. I am still attracted to him, trust him, like spending time with him, doing nice things for him and am not jealous of him which is VERY SURPRISING for me. But lately, I have been dreaming about my loser ex ALL THE TIME. And I hate it. I hate him but i loved him. We ended on very bad terms and never had closure and I find he pops into my head all the time lately. For the first 5 months I didnt think about him at all. Honestly, if he were to ask me back I would say no cause i know i want to be with my new guy but I am so scared im falling out of love...Please help!
2007-01-17 07:17:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This one is easy. Your comfort zone is dramatic and abusive as you have spent all your time in these kinds of relationships. This is what you know best. Now that you are finally in a relationship that is healthy you are out of your comfort zone you are uncomfortable your not sure what comes next.
It would be easier for you to go back to the known than adventure into the unknown.
Write down all the things that were horrible in your last relationships. Remember the abuse I mean remember the times you cried and wanted to die. How many times did that happen? lots.
Tell your guy that he is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to you. Tell him his is great and he will return it to you 10 fold. You will fall in love with him all over again because he will be even better a man to you than he is now.
You don`t need a therapist honey
Good question
2007-01-19 05:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get support through therapy for the healthy relationship. Women from long term or repeated history of abusive relationships tend to have low self esteem, self of self worth that can cause repetitive bad behavior and poor decisions. A good counselor actually will encourage you to establish boundaries in this relationship in order to find who you are as a result of being in several abusive relationships, to help you discover how to enjoy yourself and to focus on your own self growth, while severing the old relationships and staying away from them. In a healthy relationship independence is honored...unhealthy relationships exemplify co-dependent behaviors.
Please look into this, you will find yourself more happy in the long run and a whole lot better off: with whomever you choose to spend your life with. Good luck!
2007-01-17 15:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by D.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl you just be having night mares do not let your ex mess up a good thing
2007-01-17 15:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by The great green eve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋