OBGYN do they have attitudes with everyone or is it just me ?

Question

my OB acts like a Prick to me not just when i ask questions but i told him i was afraid to have this baby because the trama i had with my first and his responce was dont tell me your scared i wasnt there thats your problem and you should have lost weight before you went and got pregnant again and my dr that did my ultrasound said he wanted another one done to let my dr know so he can schedule me another and he yelled at me he was like HE DIDT LEAEVE ME NO MESSAGES so if he wants you to have another he can come tell me i was like damn i was treated like **** for the 3rd visit im 24 weeks along and have been seeing him the whole time now who thisks i should get a new dr every time i have a question he rolls his eyes and just walks out of the room with no answer an ob is supposed to understand and answer questions i shouldnt have to feel like im crossing the line when i ask him somehintg

i know i dont want him to touch my baby when she comes out!!!
i feel depressed about being pregnant now i just feel like crap right now

Answer 1

Girl, it sounds like you need to be getting a new OB. He is a total jerk. If you want to ask him something no matter how stupid it may sound he should be able to answer it, that is what he is getting paid for. I would find a new OB immediately mine are not like that to me they are very caring and understanding and have been for both of my pregnancies, good luck!

Answer 2

Yeah, it sounds like your doctor needs a reminder that you pay his paycheck.

First of all, don't let him walk out of the room on you. It's not acceptable (in any way, shape or form) for a doctor to ignore the health questions of his patients. It's his job to answer them, and in not doing so, he's violating the Hypocratic Oath that he took upon graduating from medical school.

Second, go find a new doctor!!! Once you have done that, let your current doctor (and the management team at the clinic where he works) know that you have left, and let them know why.

I might also recommend that you connect with the organization in your state that monitors doctors and their ethics. They should have some type of reporting system (kinda like the Better Business Bureau) where you can lodge a complaint about this guy. It may not be against the law for him to be a jerk, but if you can help others to avoid this type of situation, you should.

Answer 3

No, my doctor is awesome! She is SO understanding and takes care of everything! She even gave me her home number and cell number because she was on vacation the weekend I was due and if I went into labor the hospital wouldn't call her, so she wanted me to! I would say find another doctor! You are past all the important tests (I think the glucose test is still to come, but that isn't gestational specific). You have the right to be treated with respect! My advice though....look for a FEMALE ob doctor who has children. My doctor is SO wonderful! Plus, it's a world of difference hearing a doctor say she understands and KNOWING she does! Plus, it's nice to hear advice on how you're "supposed" to feel from someone who's been there and isn't just reading it from a book! You could try looking for a family practioner who ALSO does OB. It's a nice double, and then the pediatrician and your regular primary doctor is all rolled into one! That's what my doctor is and she is great. Plus, it's SO nice to have the same doctor for pregnancy, the flu and then my daughter being sick too! Now she is even my husband's doctor. Good Luck though!!

Answer 4

How about FINDING A DIFFERENT DR TODAY! when we are pregnant we really get emotional and we need all the support and pampering we can get, especially form the person who is going to help your baby arrive to this world, you are paying this guy so don't take his attitude, you should of confronted him and asked him what is deal is!. We Moms worry about every little think and your Dr is supposed to be there to clear your concerns to re assure you to make you feel especial, that is what my Dr does I love him! Darling you need to change Dr, talk to your friends and get good references, you are only 24 weeks and you need to feel good after you are done with you appointment. Don't take crap from a worthless guy that clearly didn't learn the most important thing in medical school, HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN WHEN SHE IS GOING THROUGH THE MOST CHANGING EXPERIENCE OF HER LIFE! oh I am sooooo mad at him, good luck friend and enjoy your pregnancy.

Answer 5

Find a new OB/GYN. Ask your friends or co-workers who they go or went to for their pregnancies and if they like them and can feel free to ask questions. Ask about the care they received. If you have strong feelings about c-section vs vaginal, or epidural vs natural birth, or episiotomies, etc you may want to find a doctor or midwife that feels the same as you. It is helpful to be on the same page like that.

I would also write a detailed letter describing why you were dissatisfied with this doctor. Be as polite as possible, but detail everything that made you want to leave. No one wants to read a letter full of expletives! :) I'm sure you want other women to benefit from your experience and would like them to take action. Send the letter to the boss or the practice, the hospital he is associated with, write reviews on yahoo or any other online review you can find. See if you can file some sort of complaint with whatever board certifies him.

Answer 6

My OB doc is a gentleman, he's kind, funny and always helpful. If I were in your shoes I would get another doc STAT. Somewhere along the line a lot of docs take a class on being a prick. Sounds like yours was valedictorian of such a class. He doesn't deserve your money or your time. If he is being abusive or downright nasty report him to your State Medical Board. That'll knock him off his high horse.

Answer 7

Get a new doctor, and FAST, before you are too far along and they won't take you.
You should report that doctor too. I can't stand doctors like that. Don't stick it out with him... you will be miserable for the rest of your pregnancy!! and you shouldn't be.
Sometimes when i call in with a question or problem, (it always goes to his own personal nurse anyway,) he will even answer the phone and talk to you!!! There are docs out there that care!! He should be making you feel comfortable and reassuring you!!!

Answer 8

I really think you need to go find another Dr asap .This is not appropriate for a Dr behavior.Good Luck and take care of your self and that littlr bunndle of joy you will be having soon.

Answer 9

It sounds like he needs his license taken away. You should report him. If your at a office with other doctors you can always ask to have next app with a different doctor. If you have insurance, not Medicaid you can switch to any office you like. Sometimes, with Medicaid they wont take you after so many weeks, it happened to a relative of mine. Of course me being me i would tell him straight up what a horrible doctor he is.

Answer 10

Get a new doctor and file charges with the A.M.A.! He took an oath to heal and help the sick (yes he took the same oath as other doctors) and he should not be treating you like that.