I am 31 weeks pregnant and i made the less than good choice to fly to Romania.Just for the record it was a great opportunity job wise.I have had a perfectly healthy pregnancy up till this point . I had my doctor write me a note as well so i had no problems flying there and the airline seemed more concered with checking my bags than my pregnancy.Problem is i passed out at work and was taken to a hospital and put on bed rest.I have apparently started dialating and therefore cant leave Romania.I am currently in the city of Iasi in a hotel.Is there a way to tell him without getting him mad?other than the dialating i am fine i just cant fly because the doctors afraid i might go into labor.
2007-01-17 06:46:29 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My bf told me not to fly and as going to come with me but his boss got sick so he needed to fill in for him.I dont want my man to stress or get mad at me?
2007-01-17 06:49:52 · update #1
well first let me wish u well on ur pregancy
i think u just need to tell him. It posible this would have happened even if u wouldnt have gone. u checked before u left with ur doctor and they gave u the okay. u did everytthing u could do.Just let him know and now just make sure the rest of ur pregnancy goes smoothly. If he can flight out.
2007-01-17 06:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell him, be honest. He might be mad, if he isn't in Romania and won't witness the birth but can you blame him.
I am a little confused as to why you would fly at 31 weeks and now be dialating. How long have you been there? Most babies are born between 35 and 41 weeks (9 months) so flying that late in pregnancy for your job seems silly since you will have to take at least 6 to 8 weeks off after the birth (you may be in Romania for a while).
Good luck, but be honest with him.
2007-01-17 06:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Coda2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stuff happens- you were cleared by your doc prior and woman start to dialte often at 31-34 weeks. it's not the end of the world- your still carrying the baby and it's not born yet which is good and your both held up safe and healthy. if he gets mad he'll need to get over it. just make sure you get in touch with someone at the embassy and find out the protocol of what it will entail when you do have the baby there. technically it will considered a citizen of that country- and what if any papers he/she willneed to get back into your country or origin. also-make sure your insurance maters are updated so there are no suprises down theline. hisonly concern shouldbe that all is well so far and good luck
2007-01-20 20:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by KATHEYCARCRASHER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing he wasn't too thrilled about you going in the first place...
Of course he's not going to be happy about missing the birth if you can't get home, but he'll be more concerned about you and the baby. You just have to tell him--if anything he'll just get more upset if you wait!
If he can't fly over to join you, get a camcorder. I guess a webcam in the hospital would be too much to ask...
Have you been in touch with your own doctor back home? He knows your full medical history and could possibly have some different ideas.
2007-01-17 06:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a different perspective.
You are not married yet, right? He doesn't own you, and won't even when you are his wife. Why can't you make your decisions and expect the loved ones in your life to support you?
If his first response is anger, he doesn't deserve you. We all need appropriately supportive people in our lives, and right now you need some support, not censure. Don't let anyone else control how you think and feel and live. The 'blame game' is for control freaks, not lovers. Best of luck.
2007-01-17 06:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The absolute best way to explain is to tell him straight. I'm not sure why you have waited so long to break the news to him, but I'm sure you have your reasons. You are putting undue stress on yourself by worrying about it. Just spit it out. Everything happens for a reason, and if he doesn't take it the way you expect him to, don't fret...it was a bit of bad judgment on your part by not telling him sooner, things happen. Right now you need to take care of yourself and your baby.
2007-01-17 06:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both agreed that it was OK to go, why worry about the call? Worry doesn't help your situation now, best to remain calm and collected and get through this time so you can get home, right? Call him and be done with it, prayerfully he will be understanding. If not, so be it, but remember try to remain calm and get some rest. Babies have been delivered and survived at 31 weeks, but the longer the better, and I know you want to have baby at home. Prayers =)
2007-01-17 06:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what I would tell him. But he needs to be there with you. You always need some one there. I really don't think he would get mad I would just tell him the truth and if he gets mad then he will be over it when he sees that Beautiful baby so I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just worry about you and the baby and leave the rest to god. Hope The best and congrats on the Baby.
2007-01-17 06:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him because he can't do anything for you anyways,so why make him crazy when he is so far away?
You need to drink more fluids.
Bedrest-so you will have the baby over there?
Is he going to be there for the birth?
I wouldn't wanna be in your shoes right now!
What job opportunity could be so great in Romania to leave your hubby back home?What if he gets lonely and strays?
Good luck!
2007-01-17 06:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by willywonka172 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, um... just call him up and tell him. It's certainly not your fault that happened. Maybe he will come to be with you for a while. Big travel can do strange things to a body, and I can't imagine he wouldn't be supportive. Good luck! And, babies are born everyday in Romania just fine, so yours will be. too. Try not to worry and just rest well.
2007-01-17 06:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him, don't call him, don't ever contact him again. When you return to the states with the baby simply get your stuff from your house while he is at work and disappear.
I say this because CLEARLY you don't want a marriage with a man that you can't talk to about something this important because he might get mad. Such a marriage is doomed, and short of killing yourself, I see few other options.
The other option is to stop being a drama queen, call your future husband, and tell him what's what. If he gets mad, then he is a jerk and tell him to "Go F himself". If he isn't on the next plane to see you, then again, tell him to "Go F himself".
2007-01-17 06:53:28 · answer #11 · answered by non_apologetic_american 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋