would u hide ur bf/gf from them? would it be wrong to do so? even if u are over 18 and living at college?
2007-01-17 06:42:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when i say "hiding" i dont mean hiding them FOREVER of course.....that would be impossible and ridiculous
2007-01-17 06:48:49 · update #1
If I had crazy & manipulative parents I wouldnt tell them anything at all about my love life. If the girl was special I would let her know what the situation was however so she didnt think I was hiding something.
Its not wrong to want to protect yourself.
2007-01-17 06:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, most of us at one time or another believed that we had crazy and manipulative parents. Hiding things from them is a bit immature. If the current bf/gf becomes permanent, then they will find out. Addressing issues with them is the best way to go. They are the only parents you will ever have, and someday they will not be there. Try to find a way to resolve issues with them as much as you can, and agree to disagree on those that you can't resolve.
2007-01-17 06:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are an adult now they should acept that you are a big boy now and acept the fact that you have a gf or other way around if you are a guy personaly i would hide a bf until idont know maby until i was 15 but not after then . at 18 you are old enough to have a bf or gf
2007-01-17 07:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by meat_loaf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents don't need to know if you have a bf/gf unless it is serious. It seems like you obviously have a close relationship with your parents since you are torn at the idea of keeping things from them. You shouldn't involve your parents unless you are serious about your gf/bf and think it will be a long term relationship. Your parents will respect that you don't introduce them to every bf/gf.
2007-01-17 06:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by rubyred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a firm believer in telling the truth of who we are and what our backgrounds are. People can't give consent to be in relationship with us (or not) only if they don't have full information about our backgrounds and how we dealt with what we were given. By doing this, we show we're rooted in reality and we have moved beyond our crazy and manipulative parents. Mine are dead a long time and I see their impact in my life. I don't try to hide them and never did. I'd rather people knew the truth than made up their own stories.
2007-01-17 06:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by joanmazza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that, but once I was on my own (age 15 and on) there was no reason for hiding because I was making my own choices and if those choices didn't mesh it wasn't my fault. My suggestion though is to watch the choices you make, because in my situation the junk I went through caused me to unwisely "fall" for the first bf I was with, and obviously that didn't work out. Prayers =)
2007-01-17 06:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eventually you have to come to terms that not everyone is going to accept what you do and when you become an adult it is your life and you can make your own decisions. I think you should tell them and give them time to deal. You can't live your life always worried what others are going to think even if it is your own parents. They are gonna love you regardless so stop stresssing and just tell them.
2007-01-17 06:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your parents really that crazy and manipulative? If you feel that your bf/gf would suffer then don't mention them.
2007-01-17 06:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actual specific, and that i'm at the instant hiding my bf from them. properly they know that he's a chum, yet they dont know i'm dating him. Even in college my mothers and dads are nonetheless controlling my existence...that's the reason i'm moving closer to the place he's and farther faraway from my mothers and dads. Being fairly interior reach they nonetheless attempt to regulate very almost each and every thing I do and it drives me insane, yet because it starts to get extra severe with my bf then i will tell evaluate telling them.
2016-10-07 07:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from the same situation.. just say Pshaw! and dont worry about it. I am sure you havent met your parents friends from work.. or people they sometimes see at lunch and talk to.
Until your friends come over to your parents house and stuff.. who cares :)
2007-01-17 06:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋