The wife says she would like to have sex with me and another Man!! Should I allow this to Happen ? I have to admit it sounds like Fun but I am Having Doubts!!
2007-01-17 06:37:18 · 47 answers · asked by Half Breed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have already been with two weman she is just looking to try two men ! we have been with another couple as well!!
2007-01-17 06:44:47 · update #1
you guys have been helpfull thank you! But when I said we were with two weman I ment we were with two lesbians at the same time! and with the couple she was with the guy and I was with the girl!
2007-01-17 07:07:35 · update #2
Yes, you should do this. You say you have already had two women, now it is her turn. Have fun!!!!
2007-01-17 06:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by alexis09178 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
*Bisexual. Sorry for the grammar nazi thing, that hyphen just bugged me. Anyway, it might seem confusing, but this is more or less simple. Do you feel comfortable with that? If not, then it's ok to just say so (though you may want to tell him in a more calm discussion type setting rather than making it like a "Nah, I'll pass" thing, considering this seems rather serious). Everyone has their own particular boundaries, and there's nothing wrong with having them, after all it wouldn't do any good for either of you nor the relationship if you agreed and it made you unhappy. -Unlike what the others say, you don't have to split up, necessarily. He may not necessarily want that so bad that it would be a dealbreaker, it's quite possible he just wanted to suggest it. [by the way, everyone else, it's not necessarily bad. Some people are happier in such relationships, some aren't. Personal preference and all that] If you're unsure, it's ok to ask him for some time to consider things and find out how you feel about it. If you're open to the possibility, you may need to have a discussion with your boyfriend on the boundaries (what you consider ok, the specifics of what he has in mind, if it's just sex, what you wouldn't want him to do, etc. Bringing up the dominance thing would also be a good idea, if it's something you prefer), to avoid any possible conflict that might occur if there weren't any boundaries or ideals put down first. Really, this is best resolved by (calm, obviously) discussion between you and your boyfriend, which is kind of where others being able to help ends. If you're worried about something, that's what you need to bring up. If you want to know something particular about what he'd imagine it to ideally be like, ask him. Talk to each other about what the both of you are willing to do, aren't willing to do, what you're both willing to compromise on, etc. Good luck :)
2016-05-24 00:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you two married if your inviting others into your bed? Doesn't make a lick of since to me. Well actually, sounds like there is a serious problem that you two can only be sexually satified by bringing strangers into your bed. Marriage is supposed to be sacred between husband and wife, your two may as well be single and play the field if it's like that. Morals and marriage have gone down the tubes these days, so go luck with that.
2007-01-18 05:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Simmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop and look at how close your guys relationship is. Can you have sex without intimacy? Meaning would the other guy just be a live sex toy? ANd too how does she feel about another woman? It might be easier to start with another woman then move onto another man...just my opinion. But I do think in the right circumstance it can be done and it can be a lot of fun too for both parties!
And since you've already done that route, I see...then why the heck not? I mean you can always put rulkes to it like..no money shot from him.....he cant finish inside her and whatnot...
2007-01-17 06:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a bad idea. Ask your wife if she would be willing if you brought another woman into the bedroom, and see what she says. Some couples admit that such arrangements do spruce up their sex lives, but there are risks as well. Your wife could end up cheating on you with this guy (if she hasn't already), and he might also bring an STD into the mix. Tread very carefully.
2007-01-17 06:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I will have to say from experience, my fiance of 5 years first brought this very thing up to me when we first got together. Once you start getting into the "threesomes" stage you are losing that Special something that you and she should have and feel for only the two of you. I have heard so many times of people doing this and leaving their husband or wife for the other partner. Because of my Morals, and knowing I would have to live with something I feel is so terribly wrong, I confronted my man with this. I Love you and if I ain't enough for you in the bedroom, then hit the road. Ya know what...he's still here, we are happier today than ever. He buys me alot of Little sex toys that are stimulating and enjoying to us both, we share good healthy porns, and our Life is wonderfull.. Good Luck
2007-01-17 06:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is usually not a good idea. If you don't mind you wife having sex with another man in front of you, I guess it's your marriage. I would be worried about jealousy and a sense of betrayal. Since you've shared you bed with another woman and a couple, I guess you wouldn't mind. I would never share my bed with another man or another woman, but I suppose it's OK if that's what you want. Does she want you to have sex with the other guy?
2007-01-17 06:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How would you feel about her after the threesome is over? would you be able to get that picture out your head of another man making your wife feel good? Why did she ask in the first place, are there problems? Go with your feelings.
2007-01-17 06:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have been with two women and another couple, why not another man? If you both like the idea, then go for it and have a great time!
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-17 06:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been there and done that. yes I'm not going to lie it was fun at the time. but you have to watch out. you have to have total trust in each other. And after its all over both of you need you time, it work for me. but after awhile i did start to get mad im not sure why because it was fun at the time. All i can say is be careful it can mess with your mined
2007-01-17 06:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by miahgarner 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are having doubts about it you just answered your own question. Somebody from my msn contacts sent me a video, he said check it out, he didn't mention what was happening before I checked it, it was him and another man's wife. Her husband was filming him and his wife having intercourse with each other. I wasn't turned on. I had deleted him from my msn immediately after I saw that video, and deleted that video as well, because he actually wanted to meet me. I wasn't into meeting someone who likes to screw another man's wife, even if they (wife and husband) wanted it.
Each to their own I guess. If you had been with couples already, why are you asking this question? Obviously it involved a man. Not my thing. I like one on one, with my toy. Try it and see for yourself.
2007-01-17 06:46:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋