met this girl back in June. She had a BF. (now..dec 19th 06' has been with him a year) she stated he cheated when they first started but she trusts him now and said he hasnt done it since. Anyway. We connected in a flash..the same interests weird attitudes, and warm hearts. We started seeing eachother alot..led to kissing dinners and eventually intimacy. all this time he was away in costa rica she was here. she said when she goes back to school with him that she has to see her feelings. We ended up falling in love and told eachother.She told me in september that the right thing to do is stay with him cause she loves him to. from sept till now we still talk alot and when she comes home we meet up and hang out. she still feels the same and so do i and we've kissed and and still very close. SHe decided if we're to remain close to not act on our impulses. Cuz we mean alot to eachother. she made a promise if anything happens one day. we'll be together.
2007-01-17 06:36:12 · 10 answers · asked by V P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep in mind she made her decision already to stay with him cause she loves him aswell...
But we both cant let go of eachother..
She doesnt wanna stop and i dont either
2007-01-17 06:38:30 · update #1
it's up to you. will you be happy with situation like this forever? are u aware that she is intimate with her bf? are u satified to be the 2nd on the priority list? what is the reason you have a relationship? will she be there when you need her? these are all the questions you should ask youself. if in any case, you understand being with her is more important than anything else, then you stay. if not, then you should talk to her and think of different options. sometimes by leaving her may win her back. however, this is the risk you have to take. good luck!
2007-01-17 06:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it is hard, you have to say goodbye to her.
If you keep doing this, you will end up being resentful of her that she didn't "choose" you. How can you live like that? I know I couldn't.
And suppose she did choose you? Could you trust her knowing that she cheated on her last bf? Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Really, you have only one option that will allow you to maintain your self-respect. As hard as I know it is, tell her you love her, but when she chose her boyfriend that showed you that she does not love you in the same way that you love her. Tell her she made her choice, and you cannot be second best.
It is hard, and will be hard for awhile, but then you'll meet someone better, who loves you FIRST.
2007-01-17 07:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by CassieKay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's odd how you have not seemed to take into consideration the feelings or potential feelings of the man she is committed to. She is cheating on HIM!...Could this be because he once cheated on her? and she feels she has the right to do so also?
Regardless there is a whole lot of disrespect going on here....you for him; she for him and you.
Let go of this relationship and move on and find someone who you will be equally compatible with, if not more so [you'd have a relationship based on mutual trust] What you have now is seemingly going no where and is based upon deceit.
2007-01-17 07:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called having your cake and eating it too which is what she is doing. She doesn't want to be the bad guy to him but she is willing to keep you stringing along on the back burner just in case. Usually a technique saved by guys but I guess it can go both ways. If your happy this way let it go but someone will get hurt sooner or later.
2007-01-17 06:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a person wants to do what safe for THEM and they dont either realize or care about what you are going through to be with them. The whole thing sounds very selfish on her part to ask you to do this and do that and then when she gets ready, she wants to kiss, cuddle and be intimate with you. All the while she has her man on the front burner....
2007-01-17 06:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your situation is love. She oviously does not love you enough to stay with you. I think she just loves sleeping with you. Your only a sexual impact to her. What you both have is something called BED BUDDIES, when you see eachother, you just be intimate & sexual. That's it. but it's a problem because she's got a boyfriend who she's cheating on. This does make her a bad woman. You better hope it doesn't escalate to a problem later in the future, i think it will. Her boyfriend will find out sooner enough & he will find you as well.....soon enough. You better hope he's not a Mobster or anything.
2007-01-17 06:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dilemma: a situation requiring a choice between equally undesirable alternatives.
Given that definition, I don't understand what your question is. You are not trying to decide anything, as far as I can tell. You know exactly what you want to do -- to continue doing exactly what you're doing.
2007-01-17 06:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey this girl is very con fussed. Walk away. She is playing games with you and the other guy. She wants her cake and eat it too. This will only end with your heart broken leave now maybe it wont be so bad.
Sorry, Good luck!
2007-01-17 06:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by diana b 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
face it V.P. she played you. dump her, she's a cheat and you were an accessory to the crime. It won't work. sorry.
2007-01-17 06:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with the flow
2007-01-17 06:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by mark p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋