I had an affair with a man...long story..he went back to his wife and told me he made ahuge mistake with me and that he would have never done it if his family had been around. He was out of state working for months. He says he honsety does not know what drove him to do it (i pursued...but he ould have said no..se my previous questions) Why cant he just realize he wants me and that is why he did it. I know he could not easily forget me, although he is playing a good game at pretending. H will not even take my calls or emails. Whats up guys?
2007-01-17 06:35:44 · 13 answers · asked by Catina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesn't want you, he doesn't want to leave his family and you should respect that, I suggest to move on and take it for what it was, just a fling!
2007-01-17 06:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he isn't taking your calls,or emails, than u are failing to see the truth here. your in denial about it. he may have liked being with u very much when he was there, but when he went home the wife made some changes, and they began to communicate, she recreated her self and sometimes if a man has kids, or property it is not financially good to loose everything u worked for so many years. know how u feel, but until u accept this, u will never be able to move forward, the proof of his feelings are in his actions, what actions are u now seeing? and u did know he was married, means there is a character flaw and moral problem with u. meaning u don't know right from wrong, or simply don't care as long as your own needs get met. means your selfish and haven't got a conscience. he is not pretending he is as serious as a heart attack, u are the one having the illusions about the situation, they say the biggest reason for mental illness are because people fail to face reality, and accept things that go against how they see it.
2007-01-17 18:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All people have moments of weakness; the really strong ones overcome it.
Leave him alone to put his life back together.
Sure he responded to your come-ons...he was alone, bored, tired, had possibly been drinking, and was horny. But in the end he realized that what he did was a violation of his bond to his wife.
Here's a final thought.... IF he left his wife and family for you...a person he had only the briefest of connections with, what makes you think he'd STAY? If he cheats on his wife again with someone else, he's a jerk; if he cheated on you, it would be nothing more or less than what you started your relationship with.
2007-01-17 14:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can easily cheat and not really know why. i know quite a lot of poeple are really in love with their partners but have at one time or another done the dirty on them. I know this isn`t what you want to hear but I am pretty sure that the man is feeling really ashamed of himself and is desperatly trying to work things through with his wife. Every time he hears form you it reminds him of his own shame and guilt - so leave him alone. Let him be and respect the fact that the poor wife dererves better. If he is willing to work it out with his family then DONT be the homewrecker. Leave him along - if eventualy he comes back to you then you can decide if you want him or not. At the moment at least he DOES want to forget you. He is feeling like scum and you keep reminding him by harassing him - dont be a bunny boiller. Find someone who is not attached and can give you the love and attention you deserve. Good luck-your worth more than a married man.
2007-01-17 14:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Islandgirlss 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I too had an affair with a married man, and he decided to stay with his wife,and he would not take my phone calls. I learned that he got what he wanted from me, and never intended on leaving his wife. He just wanted a fling and nothing more. So I had to make a decsion and move on because there was never going to be anything there.
2007-01-17 14:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Hopeia 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He knows what led him to it. He was away from home and wanted some sex.
It was about the sex and not love. he loves his wife.
You were the outlet for his sexual energy. Now that he is home with his wife his sex and love needs are being taken care of.
You were a fling. Its over. Understand that and move on.
Oh, and BTW, this is what happens when you pursue married men. They go back home or they leave their home and you end up with a cheater.
Thats all less than desirable.
2007-01-17 14:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all about the chase. One you get it it's over. Yes, some men just need to have sex and when they are away from home, you are probably the next best thing. He could have said no, get real, most men think with the other head so sex is always yes. But now that he's back home he doesn't need you.
2007-01-17 14:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you. He just wanted sex with someone else. He wants to forget you and probably already has.
Next time you have an affair remember that - you are using eachother. The only thing is that he knew it and you didn't.
2007-01-17 14:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He's not answering your calls/emails because he wants to put it behind him and save his marriage before it's too late. Any admission of feelings will only encourage you so he's not saying a word.
2007-01-17 14:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by michelle5196 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you, he has a family and he told you he made a mistake with you....get over it, he loves his FAMILY.
2007-01-17 14:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋