Been separated 8 years. 2 children under 12. Living in Scotland.
Kids stay with their mum but i have them up to half the week. Mainly amicable with occasional craziness(on her part!). Days i have them are not fixed so are negotiable depending on other plans of both parties. I pay money each month which we are both happy with.
Have not felt the need to formally sever ties in the past due to being reasonably amicable and concern about involving lawyers and whatever games they may get us to play.
Here endeth the abridged version.
2007-01-17 06:34:05 · 7 answers · asked by laughingspam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The cheapest way is to do it yourself. If you're uncomfortable completing the forms on your own, then the second cheapest way is for one of you to get a lawyer and pay him to file the papers of a no-contest divorce. The other person can simply pay a lawyer to look over the papers after they've been drawn up to make sure everything's in order. As long as each of you agrees about the terms of the divorce, the distribution of wealth and property, and about child custody, visitation rights, and child support payments, there should be no additional costs.
The reason why divorce costs most people so much money is that they argue and fight about who gets what. Lawyers can't force you to play games you're not already playing.
One thing that is helpful to remember in a divorce is that if you fight over petty property issues, you'll probably end up spending more money trying to decide who gets what than it would have cost you to replace the property in the first place. Not to mention that a long, drawn out court battle can result in longstanding disagreements that will make it harder for both of you to parent together. After divorce, you may not be husband and wife any longer, but you'll always be parents together, so cooperation and amicability are essential.
My divorce here in the U.S. cost me nothing. My ex-husband did the lawyer consultation bit and had the lawyer write and file all the papers. I would have liked perhaps a little more money, but it wasn't worth fighting over. I more or less got my fair share of what the law allows. (I had researched the law pretty carefully in advance.) So I signed the papers myself without consulting a lawyer, and it didn't cost me a cent.
I wouldn't normally advise that, however. Both parties should really have a lawyers at least look over the papers before signing. This might cost each of you a few hundred dollars/pounds.
Best of luck, and congratulations on remaining as amicable as possible so far.
2007-01-17 06:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by magistra_linguae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apply for the divorce on the grounds of separation-easy, do the initial form filling yourself, but DO consult a Solicitor over ALL money matters. To tie financial things up properly you will need a Consent Order, any other agreement can be challenged. Even though things may seem amicable now, don't rule out the possibility of bad feeling in the future. Don't forget - Love is grand, Divorce is 10 Grand!
Good Luck
2007-01-17 06:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 02:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my divorce, we talked about what we wanted wrote it down took it to the same lawyer and had him write it up. We settled everything form child support to visitation even personal property. If you have a good relationship with your ex this should suit you to. Just be careful, one month later my husband was trying to screw me. We didn't have set dates and time and you could only imagine the mess that came. So set dates times holidays birthdays to be on the safe side and then move around if needed but protect yourself first because it always tends to get ugly.
2007-01-17 06:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Dusty D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way overall is to go to the family section of the court and tell them you want to file for divorce, they will give you the papers and advise you how to fill them in....I got divorced last year, it cost £340.00, it took a little over 3 months and no solicitors were involved....not sure if the costs are different in Scotland.....
2007-01-17 06:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpio 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you it yourself! Go to court ask them what papers you need and off you go! Court staff will help you with procedure but no advice.
Jobs a good en! (And no solicitors fees - yippee)
2007-01-17 06:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by peachy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not you can get divorced online now
2007-01-18 09:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by lolly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋