My fiance has been divorced since Jan '05. They were married 6 years, no children. Lasty July, he convinced her to move to GA to be close to friends. We live in FL. Since then, she literally calls daily on his cell phone, filling his voice mail with tears, regrets, begging, anger, nonsense reasons he "has" to call her right back. One night, he wouldn't answer her calls and she literally sent the police to his home at 2:00 AM (from Georgia she called FL and did this to us because he refused to call her back!) She called 28 times on Jan 1 of this year. 11 times today to his work...He is at the point now where he will not even speak to her. He will not answer her calls, or listen to her messages. He gives me the phone at the end of the day and I listen to them and delete them. His cell is a work phone so we can't put a restraining order on her for the # or change the #. She bothers the receptionists at work to page him, and cries and says she cannot move on. What can we do ?
2007-01-17 06:28:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, she is 47; he is 45. I am 40. Not kids here. Problem also is that when she calls, he tells me he doesn't take the call (if she calls at work, he slams the phone down the moment he hears her voice... she calls back, he hangs up...) he's not entertaining it anymore which i think is making her madder & more desperate. OF course I wonder if she calls (i.e. how much per day) and then when he tells me i get very frustrated; although he is doing everything right and is completely ignoring her until she wears herself out... if ever...She refuses to let him go or to let him move on. She wants control of him and wants him back and leaves msgs that she will "never call again" only to call again 10 min later. from what i can tell, he is done with her and is annoyed but can handle her calling by just not acknowledging her. For me, it's worse... it is getting to me & he is suggesting maybe not telling me when she calls bcuz it doesn't affect him at all & he is concerned that it affect me.
2007-01-17 06:43:03 · update #1
Would it be possible to "block" her number from calling his number? If not, then he needs to have his number changeda dn give it to all his customers. She needs mental help it sounds like.
2007-01-17 06:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Call an attorney and get a restraining order filed against her.
2. Call the police in GA and in your town and explain to them what's happened. If necessary, provide them with a copy of your phone bill so they can see her excessive calling. She could get in trouble for making false calls to the police.
3. Reconsider getting another phone. Given the circumstances, your fiance should speak with his employer about the situation so they can make sure she doesn't get access to his new number, and find a way to refer his clients to his new number. They can treat the new phone like they would if he were a new hire or if he were being terminated. Certainly he can get a new phone!
4. DO NOT LISTEN TO HER MESSAGES. All that will do is upset you. The very least your fiance can do is delete the unnecessary messages. He doesn't have to listen to them, delete the numbers he knows are hers.
I would make a call to an attorney and the police the first move. Don't even threaten her with it, just do it.
2007-01-17 06:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is nuts. There is no way that I would keep doing that if I was him I would talk to my boss and see about having my work number changed. And he needs to tell her that if she doesn't stop calling and harassing him that I will get an restraining order on her or that you will kick her but. Which I know you are ready too. Huh. Well He might have to call the police dept. and ask them what to do or in Florida they have the free consultation. I would try that first. Good luck with it. Just hang in there if she see that he will not leave you maybe the crazy girl will get a life or if he knows any guy that he kinda like maybe he can set them up.
2007-01-17 07:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure as heck can put on a restraining order for the phone. Cell makes it easy - it keeps a log of phone calls she cannot hide.
DEAL WITH THIS or your fiance will get fired from his job. My brother had his nutso ex calling his work 50 times a day until he got fired.
File a police report both with your local police and the police where she lives in GA. Fast before your lives are ruined by this nut.
2007-01-17 06:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would change all my phone numbers including, cell, home and work. Tell your fiancee to speak to either HR or a manager at work and tell them that he wants his number at work changed. Also, maybe he can ask the receptionist not to pass him any calls. I'm sure she recognizes her voice by now.
You can request a private number for your home phone. Also, print out a record of all the phone calls she makes to your fiance's cell phone, take it to the nearest police precinct and file a restraining order. She needs to understand that it's over and he won't put up with her phone calls anymore. Good luck!
2007-01-17 06:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the receptionist not to take any more of her calls. she is a stalker, you can too get a restraining order on her. tell him to talk to hid boss about changing the phone #. if she is keeping him from doing his work there shouldn't be any reason why they won't change it. with a restraining order she can't have the police come to your house. all you have to do is tell the cops you are scared of her and what she may do. they will file the paper work for you don't worry. the only thing you have to worry about is if he is leading her on in any way. good luck and stay strong.
2007-01-17 06:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by foosarat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for him to get a new cell phone number for the two of you to get a lawyer and file a restraining order against her. Nothing you have said about work phones and calling the job preventsa you from taking legal action. In fact it strengthens your case because you have at least one witness and her actions are jeopardizing his job. Some people need to be slapped with a hard piece of reality and she is one of them,
2007-01-17 06:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most cell phone companies will and call block a number sometimes you may need to file a report with the police.
2007-01-17 08:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by LaReyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can change the number...Tell the police in GA. she's harassing you. Good~Luck to you both.
2007-01-17 06:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems that's his problem and he's turned it over to you? weird.
he must have liked some of it to continue to call her or direct her where to live etc. he was far too involved with her while in the relationship with you. if it were me, i would have separated myself from the situation a long time ago. too troublesome and he's still too involved with her.
2007-01-17 06:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋