Help?it could end marriage,my husband has not made love to me cuz I am 20 more that before?ladies help?

Question

we have been togather for 7 years he is 50 and am 42, all my life I dont rember being called fat ***, its in my genes my 5 sis and i we use to wear size 5,6. I am5'6 in hight and 155 in pounds 6 months ago i was put on meds that i just gained the weight. i hated and hate my body i hurt so much on the inside ,cuz he just stopped touching me, i wonderd about it cuz we had a great ses live. I asked ine day in nice way how come i have been rejacted in bed, his answer was (I DO NOT LIKE FAT ASSES LIKE YOURS I WANT THE WOMAN I MARRIED BACK)my anerxseya is back but it not helping its medical proplem it has to with my liver..the bottom line is this intellcually I wear a 10 at 5'6 thats normal. and look at my photp album on yahoo and talk to me i am begging

Answer 1

I suggest counseling for your husband. I also suggest that you seriously consider taking a break from him to help him remember that you are the one he married. If he can not get past a few pounds then he doesn't deserve you.

Answer 2

PLEASE leave him alone. I wish I could fit into a size 10. I wear a 16-18 (I'm also pregnant) but even on days when I hate looking in the mirror, the people who care about me would never criticize me or call me names. I don't understand how someone could care about you but then call you names and hurt you so much (especially considering what you are going through). Obviously he doesn't deserve you...if he wanted to help, he could have offered to start some type of exercise regimen with you or talk to your doctor about what to do concerning weight gain. There is a difference between being genuinely concerned about someone and just being a jackass...guess which one he is.

Answer 3

Beg schmeg. Don't you EVER beg a man.


You stand up proud and adore your curves and the person that you are. You are probably beautiful and 99% of the men on the planet would probably line up to be with you.

The next time he says you have a fat ***, tell him he has a SMALL D*CK

Then, buy some TrimSpa pills and drop the weight. Then once the weight is gone, drop him!!

Answer 4

Your husband is being a big jerk. When you get married you promise to love in sickness and in health. If he can't understand that weight gain is a result of taking your medicine, then he can't help you. Just the fact that he called you a fat a** really disturbs me. What kind of person would do this to their spouse? You need to put yourself first and not care what he thinks. Your health should come first and you are not being good to yourself if you care more about what he thinks than your own health. Anorexia is a serious condition and if you are doing it to be thin for him, you need to leave him and get yourself some help right now. Wanna lose weight? Dump his a**. You need to be surrounded by people who love you, not people that are going to hurt you. Good luck!

Answer 5

I appreciate your love for your husband and totally understand why you're concerned. However, you're making a VERY stupid decision being anorexic. Especially since you know what you're doing to your body. What would you tell somebody else who said the same thing as you? It sounds like you've got some serious insecurity issues and maybe need to take a break from the husband until you gain some confidence and self-esteem. You may even consider some counseling.

Answer 6

well i think it's time for you to take a hard look at your marriage, if he can't love you and make love to you because you have gained a few pounds then in reality he never really loved you. a size 10 being your size is not fat.... i mean come on really ?? you want to look like a damn skeleton?? THAT IS UGLY AND FREAKY!!!! if you want to subject yourself to anorexia and all that over a man, then maybe you need help... it is not that serious.... if i were you then i'd seek a divorce if he can't love you the way you are... it all comes with the package of marriage.. better or worse.... well good luck in life and don't let NO MAN manipulate you into thinking your fat at size 10,,, that's crazy.

Answer 7

Oh my, your husband is an idiot! Honey don't let him make you feel bad about yourself. Any REAL man knows that sex isn't all about perfect bodies coming together in bed. It's what you DO and how you make each other feel. For your husband to even say those horrible things to you means he's immature and probably a dud in bed. Just know that there are plenty of men out there in the world that would think you're very sexy, and tell you so! Tell that creep of a husband to shut his mouth and grow up.

Answer 8

My wife is 5' 6" and she weighs 155lbs. I don't consider that fat and she is very sexy. You should stop living for your husbands ideals and take care of yourself. Be happy with who and what you are. If he can't handle that, then that's his problem. He's most likely using this as an excuse anyway. You have to decide if he's worth all the effort and pain. There lots of other guys out there.

Answer 9

There is no man nor woman out there worth jeopardizing your health over.Is your husband still the same man you married does he look the same as he did when you first exchanged vows?If you are dealing with anorexia the problems that will stem from that are more serious than gaining the additional weight... seek counseling and love yourself first.

Answer 10

it sounds like he needs mental help (or he's just an @sshole) whichever you prefer.
a lot of medications make people gain weight. i know its not good, but it happens. obviously you need the medicine or your doctor would not have prescribed them. your "husband" and i do use that term lightly, is a pig and should love you enough to understand that.
he's either very vain and only cares about appearances or he is looking for a way out of your marriage.
either way--i say dump him before he dumps you.--cause he obviously isn't worth much anyway.