on new years he called n said help im drunk so i showed up few hours later kicked in basement window to find him in bed with a ***** im not takeing it good he keeps txting me from worjk he wonts me back i have no house no car im scrued
2007-01-17 06:07:07 · 14 answers · asked by imthisrosetoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
File for divorce and you'll have a house and car soon enough.
2007-01-17 06:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not as screwed as you think. Remeber if he has a House and a car then most states are community property, unless it was his before the marriage, or you signed a prenup. You can ask for that in the divorce. If you cannot support yourself, then you need to start looking for a better job where you can. You can file a temproarry restaring order that will freeze ALL assets, so neither of you can sell off any property until this is finalized.
Don't let him tell you that you can't survive. I am sure that there is a family member or friend you can go to until you get back on your feet. Check with your church if you need assistance for a while, if you don't have a church, many churches will help anybody, there are also private entities that will help. If you are worried about how you will make it, get a better job.
2007-01-17 06:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did you find him in bed with? It's blocked out by stars in your question. That makes a big difference in how to respond. I would probably ignore his texts. As for not having a house, you stated that you moved out, so you must live with your decisions. As for a car, you'll have to find some good friends to help you get around for now. Good luck and keep your head up!
2007-01-17 06:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drunk or not his privates should still have morals! I hate hearing the I was drunk and didn't know what I was doing... well obviously he could perform in bed so he knew what he was doing. However you moved out for some reason... was this just confirmation on why you moved out anyway? Maybe he would be willing to try to win you back... let him help you.
2007-01-17 06:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not screwed. You can get a job and a car or anything else you want. Don't take him back because you feel trapped or then you will be back on here asking us what to do because he keeps cheating on you. Get some support to get through this- trust me you will be okay. Getting drunk is not an excusable reason.
2007-01-17 06:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it doesn't seem like he is much of a man to me. i think you would be a complete idiot to take him back. --unless you can get him to sign over the car and house to you--then when he does--dump his @ss.
there are places (shelters ) for displaced women. or go to a friend until you get back on your feet.
if you don't do something to change things they will just continue to happen.
also, when you divorce him (if you haven't already got them) ask for the car and house or for them to be sold, so at least you have some money to start again with.
2007-01-17 06:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. if he is already sleeping around, you don't need him. you can do better without him. why would you want him anyways? it will take sometime to get over it, but keep telling yourself you don't need him anymore. why put yourself through this( i mean him). just tell yourself every day that you're better off with out him. you can do it. good luck and stay strong.
2007-01-17 06:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by foosarat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should've filed for divorce before you left and you'd have the house and car!!!
2007-01-17 06:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not . You get a job and get on your feet you do what you have to do . Dont have a car big deal take a bus. He must have done something really crappy to make you want to leave . So you have done it and do for yourself now . just forget him and move on . god bless you honey I will pray for you.
2007-01-17 06:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey....but life is looking up...you are not saddled with someone that doesn't value you....that was extremely cruel....not the result of someone that loves you. Change your number.
2007-01-17 06:11:54 · answer #10 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋