I feel like i blew my moms life ins she left me?
my brother and mother died in the last year. my mom left me $100,000. I do not have any money left. I saved my house from going into foreclosere by making over $30000 in back mortgage payments,due to a divorce. I bought my son a 1994 bronco, i caught up on some bills and had to pay $20,000 to renovate moms house so i could put it up for sale. I did buy some clothes for my kids and bought furniture in my house because i didnt have any. I have 3 children and work full time. I get no child support!! why do i feel so guilty about not having any $ eft???
2007-01-17 05:59:42 · 10 answers · asked by maggie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
100,000 is not allot don't feel bad you still have your house!
2007-01-17 06:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most average people I know would end up in the same boat as you, so don't feel so bad. If you're not a natural "saver" or are not good with finances, this is normal. My aunt got a $250,000 cash settlement from a personal injury lawsuit. A year and a half later she was broke and back on welfare. Just look at the good things you've done with the money. I hope you are able to sell your mom's house and get some money out of the deal.
2007-01-17 06:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the money you feel bad about . You know you did well with it . And I think you did what you had to do to get back on your feet . This is not guilt you feel it's grief . You lost a chunk of your family . Mother and brother . How horrific is that ? Unless your ex husband is dead he is a dead beat . No emotional support there or financial . You said you work full time . You have money . You work for it . I would be really proud to know a person like you . If what you said is true set down and have a good cry . Think about your lost family members and thank God you have what you have . Your a good person . NOT GUILTY !
2007-01-17 06:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad, it sounds like you put the money to good use it's not like you wasted it away at the spa or at the bar. you probably feel bad because since a lot of the money went into paying of depts and fixing thing up, it doesn't seem like you really got much out of the money, like instead of getting $100,000 worth of new things you pretty much just got to keep what you already had and get a few extra things. don't look at it that way, instead you should focus on how much that money has helped you so that you didn't lose your house and you could pay off some bills and buy some things for your kids. think of how stressed out you'd be if you didn't have that money to pay of your dept, or if you had just wasted it on expensive shoes and facials and were still in debt, you'd feel a lot worse if you'd wasted the money on a bunch fo expensive stuff that you didn't really need, especially if your house was taken away and you had no where to put all your new stuff.
2007-01-17 06:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't. Money itself has no value until it is spent. Hopefully you'll get something from the home if there was any equity in it. Just be glad you had the money there to save your house from foreclosure. I'm sure your mom would have wanted it that way.
2007-01-17 06:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got a $22,000.00 settlement last March. It's all but gone,too but I'm not beating myself up. I paid all my bills and had some good fun. I'm Wahoo fishing right now with the last of it, then it's back to work. Don't look back. What's done is done.
2007-01-17 06:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you did the right things with it.Catching up on bills ,keeping your house,and getting stuff your kids need is all great.It's not like you gambled it away or wasted it on frivolous things.Don't be so hard on yourself!You seem like a good mom.
2007-01-17 06:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did what you had to do with what you had to do it with. you may feel guilty because now all the money from your mom is gone, but your memories of your mother and your relationship will last forever... don't let money destroy that!
don't feel guilty for saving your house, etc! don't you think your mother would be proud of you for doing it? i would be!
2007-01-17 06:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by lady_angora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the one thing i really understand and make sense to me these days that feeling are not fact, we will feel them and they are painful when going through rough time cuz i am too. my husband told me in my face i am too fat and if i don't loose the weight i put on 20 pounds he will never have sex with me..mind you am'56 and 150 pounds. so i feel the pain, but its not going to kill us..flip side of pain is joy and growth here is my emial...evonhaddad@yahoo.com
2007-01-17 06:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn`t feel quilty everything you spent the money on sounds reasonable to me.
2007-01-17 06:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by lily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋