Why do husbands cheat? Hubby says that he thinks a man cheats due to not getting things he want at home..Do u?

Question

I told him this was not true, as ex cheated, and I was a very compliant wife in every way....so he could not fuss.

FYI...... just so you will know. I have a friend whose husband recently cheated and this is why we got into this discussion.

FYI...... just so you will know. I have a friend whose husband recently cheated and this is why we got into this discussion.

I asked hubby if he felt that was justification for the cheaters actions and he said By no means...it is not right. I had another man tell me it was self esteem issues.

Answer 1

Your husband is wrong (was he just warning YOU??). Look at the beautiful women who have had their husbands cheat on them (Halle Berry comes to mind, a gorgeous woman). Men cheat because they are selfish, immature, and insecure, no big secret there!

Answer 2

I think your husband is correct that the man is not getting what he wants at home. The wife can be very compliant but that still doesn't mean he's not getting what he wants.

He could be cheating to prove to himself that he's still able to attract women and that by being married he hasn't had the opportunity to test that.

Maybe his relationship lacks excitement and finding a relationship on the side will give him that excitement.

Possibly he feels that he compromised on a desired personality trait when he married his wife.

Or he could be bored or trying to teach his wife a lesson over a petty disagreement or maybe she isn't providing him with a satisfying relationship.

The man may not be getting what he wants because he's not asking for it or taking steps to make the relationship better.

Where as I don't agree with cheating being done by either spouse, I don't believe the cheater is always trying to be a scumbag and I don't believe that the person being cheated on is knowlingly with holding something that the cheater desires.

Answer 3

There is no excuse for cheating just because a person is not satisfied in not having their needs met. It needs to be talked about like adults and not keep it a secret then go off and cheat. If a person isn't satisfied with their partner then they need to work on the problem or break up. If cheating is in the relationship why be together if the man or whoever is ''unhappy''.

Answer 4

I think, the reasons are different for different people, but I feel that a lot of people (men AND women) cheat out of boredom. They're looking for a thrill, and find it in cheating. The excuses (I wasn't happy, I didn't get what I wanted at home, etc) come later as a justification for themselves and for others.

Answer 5

men cheat because they feel the need to spread their seed. and it could all go down to the cavemen. they didn't have marriage. basically men see a sexy woman or in some cases not a sexy woman and they wonder what she would be like in bed. some men only wonder and others feel the need to explore. men are explorers by nature and for some reason some of them could get a hard on from the wind blowing. in truth tell your friend to find another man once they cheat it is never the same. if she decides to stay in the relationship tell her to ask him why he cheated it could be a simple answer like" i was bored in bed" that can be cured by starting a date night with sex in various places or role playing with one another.
(all are fun)
the alternative don't cheat on him to get back at the loser for cheating on you. you end up feeling like **** because of it and neither of you can trust each other anymore. talking it through doesn't help either. the marriage is ruined. you may feel strong enough to get over it but it nags at the back of your mind like a maggot eating your brain. and eventually consumes all of your thoughts.
my advice find another man and a lawyer. there are some men who don't feel the need to explore other women as long as they have the one they want.

Answer 6

There's many answers to your question. In my opinion, man/woman cheats is because his/her opinions, feelings, needs are not met. In one word, COMMUNICATIONS. There are couples who don't have regular sex that stayed married for life. As we can see on TV, man had affair, man can relate and talk to the other woman, the other woman listens, man comes home, hardly speak to his wife, man sleeps. I mean if there's some problem in the family, the husband and wife should be able to talk to one another so they would know what the hell is going one between them.

Answer 7

For the same reasons women cheat, because they are selfish.

Men and women cheat in even numbers, since men are not cheating with other men, but with women.

Even if the woman is not married, if she is with a married man, she is cheating too.

Answer 8

Husbands cheat for the same reasons that wives cheat -- to have sex with someone other than their spouse. The reason?
Could be a lot of things but a poor sex life is likely the top one.

Answer 9

I actually asked a guy this recently, because he is happy with his wife in every way, so I asked him why then? His answer: I just got caught up in the excitement of it all. I guess every man has a reason. I've known lots of them to be happy and in good relationships (in every aspect) but they still do it for their own reasons!

Answer 10

I think all the answerers here are correct....the answer is a multitude of reasons......BUT, I DO NOT agree with those saying "a man has to spread his seed"......bullshit! We are no longer cave people, we have EVOLVED in all ways..........I also will say, from a spiritual angle, that I do believe God created us, and we are evolving creatures, and he meant for man to have ONE woman....and build a strong foundation (family) with her......jumping from woman to woman is ludicrous thinking, and disasterous for society............men and women that stay together, often have a better standard of living, and their children have BOTH parents...children NEED a mother AND a father....we WERE designed this way. ~getting off of soapbox now~