i broke up wit my ex almost 9 mths ago..we would talk occasionally online but recently conversations increased and i helped him to study.now he wants me to meet him to help with an exam..i agreed..but now im not sure if it's ok or how i'd react seeing him after such a long time..plus i have a bf...should i tell him im meeting this guy or not?
2007-01-17 05:40:56 · 27 answers · asked by pixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should definetly avoid this situation. It's going to lead you to confusing feelings that you may or still have for your ex. I don't think your b/f will understand this meeting.
2007-01-17 05:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Janine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your ex involved in a relationship? I'd tread lightly on this one...he may want you back. i would be honest with your boyfriend. If u decide to meet with him, be sure to tell your boyfriend. That way, if he finds out after, he won't suspect that you're sneaking around. If he has a problem with it, assure him that there aren't any feelings there anymore(be sure that's at least semi-truth) then see what he thinks. If he REALLY doesn't want you to go , then don't. That wouldn't be right to make him feel uncomfortable. Remember: when meeting with exes, there can be old feeling sparked. Just rememebr why you two broke up in the first place and keep your current man in mind the whole time. Just be buds if u can, that would be cool.
2007-01-17 13:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by nico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're wondering if you should tell your current boyfriend that you're going to meet your ex, then it sounds like you feel you have something to hide. And if that's the case, then perhaps you shouldn't meet the ex.
On the other hand, I'm friends (or maybe friendly acquaintances) with a few of my exes and their partners. But my partner knows this, and also enjoys their occasional company.
In short, your exes had some qualities that you liked, otherwise you wouldn't have dated them. But you also broke up for a reason. So, unless you're sure that it's a good idea to see an ex, you shouldn't.
2007-01-17 13:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jean Talon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, ask yourself what kind of relationship you want with your ex. Answer yourself honestly: friendship, dating, or nothing?
Once you have decided what YOU would like, then you need to make that very clear to your ex. Then you can find out his intentions as well, so there is no miscommunication.
If you want to stay with your current bf, then be honest with him if you want to be friends with your ex. If he were to find out via a third party that you were hanging out with your ex behind his back, he might feel very hurt.
If you want more with your ex than just friendship, then your current bf deserves to know that up-front as well.
Honesty with yourself, your ex and your current bf is the most important thing right now.
2007-01-17 13:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by gg_6225 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pixie if it doesn't feel right then don't do it. Besides if your uncertain as to whether or not to tell your current boyfriend about it then something inside must be saying he wouldn't approve. If you want to keep this new boyfriend then perhaps you'd be best to tell ex that you've reconsidered and just don't think it's a good idea to get together. The final decision is yours though.
2007-01-17 13:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should tell your boyfriend, and if you feel secure enought to see your ex. and that you just see him as an old friend, than by all means go ahead, but if you still have a little something for him, don't go he might get the wrong message.
2007-01-17 14:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by londonrometokyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not advise this. You have helped him enough. It sounds like he might be trying to finagle his way back to you- you should not expect a good reaction from your current bf that you have been in touch with your ex, especially about something so transparently banal as "studying". Not a good move if you respect your bf and your relationship with him right now.
2007-01-17 13:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your current bf if he's comfortable with the situation. If he is, then go ahead. It's been a long time. If he's not, maybe either your bf could tag along or you might just have to skip it. Maybe you know someone else who could tutor your ex.
Good luck. This is a hard situation! :)
2007-01-17 13:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by Tiff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
may be your ex is trying to get in touch with you- knowing you have a bf .he must be annoyed with the fact you have a bf now and have actually moved on. avoid meeting your ex and on the phone too, don't be too sweet. he mite just try to mess up your current relationship.
please don't meet him- bin there done that..it doesn't work
2007-01-17 13:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you're meeting him because you want to help and nothing more. But do tell your boyfriend and if he doesnt fell quite sure about you meeting your ex, let him tag along. At least, you will have someone who can protect you if anything happens
2007-01-17 13:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋