About the PMS ???

Question

We usually stay apart at that time. After I give her, her space. . After the storm has passed, should I be the one to call her, or should I wait for her to call me? Almost everytime I am the one calling her and saying hey lets get together. Men and Women answeres.

Answer 1

You know, you get cranky too sometimes. Men have monthly emotional cycles. I hope she bails on you when you most need some affection. Grow up and be a man. Deal with her mood swings... it will make you appriciate the normal times more.

If infact she prefers being apart from you during PMS, then I guess you call her... sometimes it's just hard for chicks to call guys anyway.

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you know, I agree with KD, though. If she's really nasty, she should keep that in check. I think Sassy is wrong, though. The women in my family have horrendos PMS... and it's not just emotional... but some women don't have it at all.. but most women I know aren't mean and nasty, just kinda in a funky mood... so, yeah, if the chick can't control herself enough to be at least reasonable, get the heck out of there, pronto.

Answer 2

PMS or PMT, whichever. There are symptoms which can usually be dramatically alleviated by change of diet. It is incredible the relief which can be found by avoiding white sugar, wheat, red meat and drinking lots of water during that time.
As for the staying apart thing. I'm sorry to tell you but if a person is treating you badly during ANY time day, night, year, week, then that person is NOT the person for you.
If a woman wants your company a woman will not treat the man in her life badly. Regardless of arguments you hear to the contrary, what I write is true. Give this woman a miss and focus on someone who brings joy and happiness into your life.
There could be underlying issues that PMS/PMT only exacerbates and magnifies. You are not meant for each other.
I have suffered from PMT as have many women and I never once treated a man I loved badly but the ones that were "doing my head in", boy, I didn't care how I spoke to them. That is a combination of being irritated and young at the time.
If a man is willing to be treated badly under who cares what circumstances then that man needs to build his self-esteem and stop blaming a woman for her PMT or any other excuse.
Take the chance to find someone you might just love and love you back.

To SASSY: If you ever feel your body gain 5 lbs in water and your clothes become too tight and feel like your head is one big headache and you feel clumsy and literally fall over things, my dear, you will know what PMS/PMT feels like. It isn't just about personality changes. Educate yourself and understand and for goodness sake, like AND love yourself more. You seem really bitter and possibly hateful to other women. You are a woman and yes, there are other women who don't have the same experiences as you. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Good luck
To Marco: Chocolate and white sugar is only adding to the symptoms and making it much worse. It is like adding petrol to a brush fire. The body craves those things that, paradoxically, it shouldn't have for example, when the body has a fungal or yeast infection, the cravings for white sugar become elevated because yeast thrives on sugar. Do your loved one a favour, don't bring her chocolate. Bring her vegetables, brown rice and long-sustaining carbs such as brown bread and lean white meats - if she isn't vegetarian. Someone further along this page has covered the dietary essentials. Read what this kind lady has written.

Answer 3

Sounds like you a dream come true. But the reality of it is, we women need to take responsibility for our 50%. If she were a mother, her life could not stop for Cancer, let alone PMS!!
There's a diagnosis for everything nowadays...
I know my PMS was ten times worse due to a thyroid (major hormone) illness, and it still fluctuates with the amount of replacement they give me.
So, it's always possible that there really truly is a medical condition attached to this.
Or, she could just be really honored that you make her feel so special, by being so understanding, and making that first attempt.
She's gotta grow up, if that's the case.
She won't be able to take off work for this, she won't be able to stop being a mom for this, so why should she stop being your girlfriend for this?

Answer 4

Hi, It's time for an ulitmatum. You should not have to put up with this every month. Her hormones are out of whack and she needs to make some changes!

While PMS is real, don't get me wrong- It is a bull*#$@ excuse to treat you baddly if she isn't doing anything about it. It is caused by key nutrients missing from her diet. If she is this horrible (and she will continue to get worse) you need to demand that she at least try changing her diet for 6 months. I bet that you will see a difference in 1-2 months and complete change in 6 months if you get her to agree to take quality supplements.

She needs phyto-hormones. These are the precursors nutrients that her body will use to step up it's hormone production. These feed the endocrine system (hers is starving which is why she is so edgy). She needs to be taking Omega 3 capsules these are extremely important. And I will recommend a good basic vitamin to you, Nature's plus, Ultra Source of Life.

Test what I am telling you, Google each of these nutrients together with PMS and see what you get for results.

Also St. Johns Wort is good to calm PMS --BUT She CAN'T take it with Birth control pills. Unless she wants to get pregant.

IF she is taking birth control it depletes her body of B-6 which will MAKE HER ACT CRAZY!! B-6 is also depleted by heavy drinking. She seriously needs to eat more vegetables, CARROTS and celery, are very good for crazy behaivor. I mean when she is acting crazy fix her a big bowl of steamed vegetables right then and there and see if that doesn't help her mood even before the bowl is empty. This may sound weird but it works. Green beans and corn are good in mixed bowl of vegies, but carrots are crucial.

Good vitamins come from the health food store and are WHOLE FOOD based, meaning they come from foods AND not chemically man made. Vitamins such as ONE-A-DAY from the grocery store are cheap and actually very bad for you.

I dealt with the same wild and crappy behaviors from a past boyfriend who had the same kind of irrational CRAZY behavior identical to PMS. But when he gave up his alcohol binging (depletes B-6 too) and started taking quality vitamins, I didn't want to kill him anymore. We are still friends- but when he stops taking his vitamins for any reason, I make myself scarce.

Current BF USED to suffer from depression a lot but that has all changed since I have taken over feeding him a balanced diet. He has noticed such a difference in his moods that he NOW warns me when his vitamins are about to run out. He used to complain that it was a waste of money, and he hated taking them. Now that his depression has lifted and people are commenting that his bald spot has hair regrowing over it, he is a happy camper- and happy that I cared enough about him to force him to start taking vitamins and eating 3 square meals every day.

Good luck- I could not stay with someone who cyclically treated me bad if they wouldn't take steps to fix the problem. Women in 3rd world countries who don't eat our processed American diet DON'T have PMS and they don't have hot flashes and they deliver babies easier with less pain.

Answer 5

wow, yknow I'm surprised that you hate her during her pms stage so much that you actually make sure to stay apart from her. If I were you, I'd have a little bit more compassion and realize that she hates the pms as much as you do, and she'll be grateful for your compassion. If it's completely unbearable though, and you just have to stay away from her, I would let her call you because you never know how long pms can last, she'll be the one to know

Answer 6

i dont think you should have to do it everytime, it should be a shared effort. she cant help the pms ofcourse, but she also shouldnt keep thinking that after being in that mind set she shouldnt try and make it up to you a little for giving her the space. xxxx

Answer 7

pms is a syndrome in the head. Women have periods so what! Life goes on pull your head out of your rear and be nice! I would stop calling her and find someone who does not have "PMS". (mental problems). good luck!

Answer 8

Whatever you do, have lots of chocolate on hand. Whenever my wife is about to start hers, I always bring home a big bag of M&Ms or tub of chocolate ice cream.

Answer 9

no you should wait for her to call she is the one that wants the space. if she doesnt call then no hardship. but do you really want a relationship to go on like that. i get nasty at that time of month but i need my hubby to vent my frustrations and anger on

Answer 10

Whats this to do with Prime MinisterS