What sterotype bothers you the most, what can you do to change that and why does it bother you?

Question

I realize this is three questions rolled into one but they all go together......As an edcuated black female in the USA many people are shocked that I do not speak "ghetto" (ebonics) and that I have class to change this I try to educate more black people on why they should speak properly and stop acting out so often and making fools out of themselves and this bothers me because many people say I sound/act/dress white giving the impression that only white people in the USA are educated and have class........what's your answer to this question?

Answer 1

It's the ghetto mentality. If you made it... it's not because you deserve it. You sold out.... or you aren't keeping it "real"... it's much easier for the gehetto mentality to insult success than to work to achieve it for themselves.

All you can do is to be a good example, and you will end up inspiring others to follow in your footsteps. Dr.King was well spoken and well dressed. Malcolm X. didn't run around hooting and hollering... The ghetto mentality doesn't see that.

Answer 2

For me it's the blonde stereotype, because it is based on nothing solid.

And from what I read the only reason why blondes have evolved was during a men shortage in the ice age to try and steal the men from the common brunette.

I think the only way to change that is to expose people to more of what they are stereotyping, so if they met more intelligent blondes maybe they wouldn't be so quick to judge. Or even if they gave an intelligent blonde a chance first. I say every women should dye her hair blonde (just kidding) but then people would have nothing to judge or compare to. ;)

So I think you're on the right path, slowly but surely you're showing people that you are an educated black female and that's all you can do. And the people that make comments like that need to learn for themselves, as only you can change yourself, but unfortunately noone else.

This is a good quote: Never explain, your friends don't need it and your enemies won't believe you anyway.

Answer 3

I get the same thing..talking white..acting white..as if speaking properly and acting like I have sense is being another race. This is actually what bothers me the most because it illustrates the negative characteristics that are associated with my race and are promoted by persons outside of and within my own race.

All you can to change it is to correct people when they make may incorrect statements but unfortunately then you come off as a host of other negative characteristics so you're at a loss of being misunderstood at either end of the spectrum.

Unlike you I've never experienced anyone being shocked but more so just comments and jokes which are equally as disheartening. In your case I would recommend you inform people just as there are differences between races, there are differences within races as well. There is no certain type of anybody. As we all are unique and are influenced by different factors in the environment. You grew up in a environment that valued proper speech and presenting oneself in the highest esteem so that has become a part of who you are.

Answer 4

I am black in dress kinda rock . I have alot of diverse friends but people at my school never accepted me and I was called oreo for years. It's human nature for people to judge what the don't understand or what they're afraid of. *Chocolate Kizzez that was very hateful and you're no better than any other racist person. Why do you stereotype black people? Why are you setting standards on how a black person is supposed to act? Grow up and find your own identity!*

Answer 5

i go to a community college in a highly black populated area

i have a lot of black friends that i respect immensely they are educated interested in me and my life just like i'm interested in them

unfortunately for every decent black person at the school there are at least 2 that aren't

there are so many black people at my school that are racist against white people

they treat us horribly i get sexually abused by a lot of them and i don't even understand why i never though of my self as attractive at all let alone to a black man those are the kind of people that cause problems for people like you and my friends

i try really hard not to prejudge anyone especially black people in my school because I've realized that quite a few of them are worth knowing and it makes me mad when other white people i know are rude to my friends just because they're black

i've been subject to many stereotypes and i hang out with a lot of people who are judged as something completely other than they are...stereotypes are what tear the world apart they cause people to prejudge and cause more turmoil than the world can handle

Answer 6

Your conclusion question--I don't believe that only white people have class. Class is like many things: as you refer to it, you have to earn it. Your first question: The stereotype that bothers me is that all handicapped people are retarded. I'm handicapped, BUT NOT retarded. It bothers me because people are often lead to believe what they believe because of what they were taught by people they trusted growing up. These same people may have been hurt, in some way, by a handicapped person who had no knowledge that they did anything. It bothers me that these same people never talk to me to see if their FALSE ASSUMPTION is incorrect. I try to show people, through actions, that I'm not like that. I'm only one person, but many great changes started with the instigation of one person.

Answer 7

I suprise people with my well spoken english accent sometimes and I'm mixed race. But I think your want to change other people to talk/act like you is more of a problem than the way those people talk/act. They should'nt have to change their speech in order to be better thought of, the key is that it is a lack of understanding and tolerance that causes these people to be looked down upon. Why is it your job to "educate" black people, do they need to be like you in order for you not to be ashamed of them?

Answer 8

The lazy Mexican, most every Hispanic person I know has two jobs. That's the only way for them to make it when you can't get a decent job. And it's a vicious cycle really, kind of sad, because of the lack of time, or because of other priorities (like feeding their family) a lot of them can't learn English.

Answer 9

All stereotypes bother me. The truth is that humans are so diverse, none of us can be effectively "stereotyped" into any single category. Any attempt to do so is ignorant and misguided. What you should do is only what you think you should do.

I'm so dammmmmed tired of racial intolerance! The only race that needs to be recognized any more is the Human Race.

Answer 10

To live with dignity and grace is not something that is exclusive to any race, thats a human quality, it seems that some black people need to change their attitude if they want some respect.