i live 4 hrs away from him and he never collects the children and always expects me and his mother to do the driving for him to see the children every 2 weeks, i am not prepared to do this anymore as its getting too much with my job and schooling,he is now threatening court proceedings.will he have aleg to stand on?he lost his licence last year for driving with the kids in the car without insurance and having an accident and has not payed maintenance since he left 2 years ago what do i do?
2007-01-17 05:02:59 · 10 answers · asked by zowie m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him to go find a good lawyer- He is a deadbeat that doesn't pay you, doesn't pay his bills, and is unsafe to have your kids with (because he could end up in jail at any time), and you don't see him as a responsible person. I can't imagine why any family court judge wouldn't love to give this guy any preference!
When he wants to see them, he will come. You are tired of the drive and the cost of the trips!
You will have to explain to the kids about the divorce and how there isn't as much money or time to make the trip and you should explain that some people just aren't as responsible as others, and that their father just isn't making some very good choices right now. Try not to trash-talk him. The kids are going to be let-down enough.
2007-01-17 05:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the original child custody and visitation order from the court? It may have to be modified to fit a changing situation. Personally, I see no reason for above and beyond efforts on your part because he was a dumbass for losing his license. Also, in your Motion before the court you can claim back support and/or child support. You will need to take him to court ....
2007-01-17 05:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for sole custody of your children ,have your mom as a legal guardian of your children, give him visitation rights, supervised until he gets his head together, in meantime you concentrate on the job that you have to do. Let him threaten all he wants, make sure you do your part first instead of talking about it.
2007-01-17 05:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont get JACK! You sound like a good mom, you need to take him to court to get child support and proceed with visitation. Visitation with joint custody is every other weekend, and you two take turns on delivery and pick up of the children.
2007-01-17 05:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he threatened to go with court proceeding, you should also do the same to him for not paying maintenance. If you don't do this to him, he will always push his luck and it end up you will suffer more
2007-01-17 11:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him take it to court. They will probably rule that you share the driving for his visitation with the children.
Good luck!
2007-01-17 05:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire an attorney
2007-01-17 05:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own lawyer and get him out of your life he is a butt hole.
2007-01-17 05:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit him for child support, and endangering your children...don't get bullied
2007-01-17 05:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋