I'm sorry i keep going on about this...i've asked many questions regarding the same topic, but i need more advice. As i said in my other question, i'd love to start speaking to this guy that works in a shop i visit very often who im interested in and maybe ask him out to a coffee. I'm 16 and i've never had a boyfriend before which is why im asking so many questions. The thing is, im really worried about his age. I mean he seems a lovely guy, but i don't want to start talking to him only to find out he's 25 or something!...Many of my sincere friends have said that he doesn't look older than 19, but that's one thing im getting myself worked up over. I don't want him to think "Oh my goodness, a 16 year old is trying to chat me up here!"...I'd appreciate any advice...thankyou! :-)
2007-01-17 05:00:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
btw...i've never spoken to him before...but he's served me at the counter twice, but it was nothing special as i didn't think anything of him then...
2007-01-17 05:37:13 · update #1
Where i live, it's not illegal to date older guys at 16 years old...:-)
2007-01-17 05:48:15 · update #2
No take him out. 16 is too old never to have had a boyfriend
2007-01-17 05:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Preface: You haven't yet stepped into the adult arena of dating & higher education. What seems important now will change dramatically as you enter your adult years.
1. He's 25, working behind the counter of a shop — doesn't have much to bring to the table, does he?
2. A man who would knowingly date a 16 year old girl does not have honorable intentions. Pathologically, his self-esteem is poor, if he would even consider dating a girl 16 (i.e. the younger are more naive & won't notice that he hasn't accomplished much — they'll be distracted by all of the attention & cheap little thing gifts he gives them).
3. You will outgrow this man fast, because he is stuck. You really don't know him.
4. Focus on boys your age, so you don't end up in a whole world of hurt. Your friends are not real friends, but highschool acquaintances, otherwise they would level with you at how you will be making a fool of yourself & possibly endanger yourself.
5. Concentrate on your studies, so that you will have a high grade-point average to apply at universities. Once into university environment, you will realize that this shop man is of no consequence to the long haul of your life.
Good Luck and Warm Wishes.
2007-01-17 06:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 or something ... age is said to be 'just a number' and talk is free. You can communicate without strings and live a little. It's not a crime to be older or younger.
Test the commonality and see if there is an avenue. Anything like age that you view as a deal breaker is just a brick wall so just move on around to points (and those) beyond.
It's quite a bit less than harmful to express interest or speak to somebody. Having a word doesn't constitute a relationship -- but be careful in case he bites !
2007-01-17 05:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
Don't panic. I'd be flattered to have anybody chat me up including a 16 year old and I'm 36! If you don't ask him you'll never find out and what's the worst that can happen. He says no. Fine, no-one need ever know about it.
Have confidence.
2007-01-17 05:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, find a way to find out his age. Maybe go to the shop when he's not working and as a co-worker of his. Because of your age, his age really matters. If you were 18, it wouldn't matter as much, but you are a minor. If he's 19 or younger, then just go for it and ask him out. Life is too short.
2007-01-17 05:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think he might be intertested in you, then ask him for coffee. Then while you are having coffee, find out how old he is, if he is to old, then you will know not to do that again. But give the guy a chance, a lot of people don't look their age now a days.
2007-01-17 05:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by pippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely just go for it. First of all, you're just talking to him so regardless of whether or not he ends up being 25, or ends up thinking you're too young, you can still just have a nice conversation. If you find out he's as young as you hope he is then you have a chance to let it develop into some sort of relationship. It's just not worth going through life wishing you had done something. Do it.
2007-01-17 05:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by John K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him and find out about his age if it bothers you so much. If he's not too old, good! If he is, you can still talk to him, but wait 2 years for anything serious. Therefore, legally, nothing bad will happen if the relationship blossoms. ;)
2007-01-17 05:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by kangtalvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casually ask him how old he is before you think of asking him out. Apparantly you have spoken to him a few times already, right? Then asking him how old he is should be no problem. If he is too old for you, you have saved yourself the embarassment of him telling you that you are too young.
GO FOR IT GIRL.
2007-01-17 05:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by askaway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could probably get to know his age by making conversation like something about the age limit on drinking or driving or clubbing. talk about it, let him know you're sixteen. for example: "i just got my driver's license. do you drive?" n then "for how long"...you get an idea.
or you just ask him out, whatever, if on the date you find out he's older than you want him to be, you could just have that one date with him, you don't need to take it further
2007-01-17 05:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Layla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋